Men Are Like Fish: What Every Woman Needs to Know About Catching a Man (Paperback)

by Steve Nakamoto (Author) "Women who are in search of a new romantic relationship often wonder, "How do men judge the women they date?..." (more)
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Editorial Reviews

Review
5 Star Highest Rating: An exceptional book

Most single women have experienced the sinking feeling of fishing for a date from someone special without receiving so much as a nibble. It is enough to make women wonder if there is something wrong with their bait.

Steve Nakamoto, a former Dale Carnegie instructor, personal development trainer, and professional tour director understands these feelings. He has written an intelligent, funny, and wise book for women who are looking to catch a guy---hook, line, and sinker. In this entertaining look at relationships, he compares men to fish who are secretly longing to be caught. Women, on the other hand, are wily yet compassionate anglers looking to reel in the big one.

Men Are Like Fish will take readers on a fact-packed fishing trip where they will learn tips on how to initiate great relationships or enhance the ones they already have. The book is sweetly old-fashioned, yet wickedly on target. Nakamoto has also sprinkled zippy cartoons/illustrations and unusually helpful quotes throughout the book.

While the title might imply a single-minded effort to drag an unsuspecting man into the net, the book is actually somewhat Zenlike. It will help women to improve their self-images, broaden their interests, and accentuate the unique qualities they possess that will naturally draw good relationships to them. Nakamoto also spends a good deal of time discussing the end of relationships. He shows women how to let go gracefully, with as little pain as possible, so that they can continue to grow without harboring bitterness. He uses several examples from his own life, sharing many of his triumphs and failures with a good-natured sense of humor.

Nakamoto shares one especially funny story about a tight jeans contest where he lost a shapely girlfriend/contestant to judge Clint Eastwood. He writes, I consoled myself with the thought that Deanna must have had a tough choice: Clint Eastwood (People Weekly s 2001 #2 most popular screen actor of all time) or Steve Nakamoto? It could have gone either way, right?

Nakamoto also shares good, solid advice. One especially helpful area is Favorite Fishing Holes: 101 Hot Spots Where the Big Ones Are Biting. It consists of a list of fun and inexpensive activities and places to explore that are bound to be interesting, even if they do not spark a new love affair. Among the many activities that Nakamoto recommends are going to art gallery openings, visiting wineries for wine tasting and tours, and taking city tours or day trips in one s own city or in a nearby town.

Nakamoto does not guarantee eternal love for readers. However, both single women looking for that perfect catch and those seeking to recapture the romance of an exciting relationship will find great value here. Men Are Like Fish is guaranteed to give even the most jaded and discouraged romantic angler a new, more joyful perspective on the oldest sport in the world.

--- Reviewed by Kathleen Youman --Clarion Reviews

Award-Winning Finalist in the Non-Fiction Category of the 2000 National Book Awards -- WRITER'S DIGEST MAGAZINE, June 2001

Solid and practical advice for enhancing your feminine allure and inspiring your special man. Entertaining, provocative, filled with great quotes. -- Dr. Toni Grant, Clinical and Media Psychologist, June 2002

Sweetly old-fashioned, wickedly on target. Guaranteed to give even the most jaded and discouraged romantic angler a more joyful perspective. -- ForeWordReviews.com, June 2002

Product Description
5 Star Highest Rating: An exceptional book

Most single women have experienced the sinking feeling of fishing for a date from someone special without receiving so much as a nibble. It is enough to make women wonder if there is something wrong with their bait.

Steve Nakamoto, a former Dale Carnegie instructor, personal development trainer, and professional tour director understands these feelings. He has written an intelligent, funny, and wise book for women who are looking to catch a guy---hook, line, and sinker. In this entertaining look at relationships, he compares men to fish who are secretly longing to be caught. Women, on the other hand, are wily yet compassionate anglers looking to reel in the big one.

Men Are Like Fish will take readers on a fact-packed fishing trip where they will learn tips on how to initiate great relationships or enhance the ones they already have. The book is sweetly old-fashioned, yet wickedly on target. Nakamoto has also sprinkled zippy cartoons/illustrations and unusually helpful quotes throughout the book.

While the title might imply a single-minded effort to drag an unsuspecting man into the net, the book is actually somewhat Zenlike. It will help women to improve their self-images, broaden their interests, and accentuate the unique qualities they possess that will naturally draw good relationships to them. Nakamoto also spends a good deal of time discussing the end of relationships. He shows women how to let go gracefully, with as little pain as possible, so that they can continue to grow without harboring bitterness. He uses several examples from his own life, sharing many of his triumphs and failures with a good-natured sense of humor.

Nakamoto shares one especially funny story about a tight jeans contest where he lost a shapely girlfriend/contestant to judge Clint Eastwood. He writes, I consoled myself with the thought that Deanna must have had a tough choice: Clint Eastwood (People Weekly s 2001 #2 most popular screen actor of all time) or Steve Nakamoto? It could have gone either way, right?

Nakamoto also shares good, solid advice. One especially helpful area is Favorite Fishing Holes: 101 Hot Spots Where the Big Ones Are Biting. It consists of a list of fun and inexpensive activities and places to explore that are bound to be interesting, even if they do not spark a new love affair. Among the many activities that Nakamoto recommends are going to art gallery openings, visiting wineries for wine tasting and tours, and taking city tours or day trips in one s own city or in a nearby town.

Nakamoto does not guarantee eternal love for readers. However, both single women looking for that perfect catch and those seeking to recapture the romance of an exciting relationship will find great value here. Men Are Like Fish is guaranteed to give even the most jaded and discouraged romantic angler a new, more joyful perspective on the oldest sport in the world. --- Reviewed by Kathleen Youman

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Product Details

• Paperback: 208 pages
• Publisher: Java Books; 2 edition (March 12, 2002)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0967089328
• ISBN-13: 978-0967089324
• Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.5 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 9.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars See all reviews (128 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #46,556 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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64 of 69 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Creative Mosaic of Dating and Relationship Wisdom, April 19, 2006

By	Rebecca Johnson "SeasonedwithLove.com" (Washington State) - See all my reviews (TOP 10 REVIEWER)    (REAL NAME)    (COMMUNITY FORUM 04)

"Even in today's sophisticated world, some things change slowly, if ever at all. This is especially true when it comes to the traditional game of love that is still played between the majority of women and men." ~pg. 29

Steve Nakamoto has written a highly enjoyable book for women who are seeking true love with a man who is committed to his partner's greater good.

Men Are Like Fish is so enlightening in regards to relationships; it might be the only book you initially need to realign your focus as you journey into the ocean of romantic depths. Not only will you realize what you have been longing for in a relationship, you will now be able to apply universal wisdom to enhance your relationship.

Why don't men call back and how are men spooked?
How do you let go of past disappointments and embrace future hopes and dreams?
What are the main ingredients you dream of in a romantic relationship?
How do you create a situation of deep emotional attachment?
What are the main qualities men are looking for in women?
How do allusive men act and how do you get their attention?
How powerfully do you attract men? Take the "bait self-quiz"...very amusing and
there is also a "Big Fish Test."
Where do you find the Big Fish? A list of Favorite Fishing Spots is an amazing resource
and goes way beyond meeting men in typical bars, etc.
Why are conversational skills the bond of companionship?
Do you appreciate the man you are interested in - what is the depth
of the attraction?

"Men can be very charming with their manly strengths and boyish personalities. But underneath a man's charm lies a foundation of character. If consistent, lasting, and fulfilling love is your objective, character is one of your only reliable indicators." ~pg. 105

As a woman I found Steven Nakamoto's writing highly entertaining and the quotes throughout the book were well chosen and very appropriate for his topic. Are you ready to move from passive observer to enlightened relationship goddess? This book draws on timeless wisdom, well-researched personal development advice and an advanced level of empowering insight. The author is especially well read and seems to have a deep interest in women finding a life that is emotionally fulfilling and creatively satisfying.

Men are Like Fish is not only for women who want to find a new romantic relationship, it is also for women who want to maintain a high level of emotional satisfaction in their current relationship.

100 Stars and beyond...

~The Rebecca Review

51 of 56 people found the following review helpful:

1.0 out of 5 stars Don't be "too smart" or "too tall"..., August 22, 2002

By A Customer

lest you intimidate and therefore "spook" your "fish"! This book alernates between glaringly obvious advice - don't wear too much perfume, don't start talking about marriage on the first date - and downright insulting "advice": Don't be too much of a "character", don't be too smart, don't have successful exes, because your date's fwagile wittle ego just *can't take it*! All men are really scared little boys, right? Please. I'm not running a daycare center here. ...

50 of 59 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Insightful and humorous, December 5, 2004

By	Laura De Giorgio "www.deeptrancenow.com" (Canada) - See all my reviews (TOP 500 REVIEWER)    (REAL NAME)

This is a down-to-earth book with a lot of good advice, or rather healthy and insightful observations. The book is more focused on self-improvement and how-to-be your very best as well as on what attracts and repels men (though a good number of qualities listed would attract or repel women, too), rather than on specific communication techniques. The suggestions are more general in character with tips on building self-confidence, self-esteem, gauging one's appeal and attractiveness across the board and few extra tips and ideas on where to meet, what may men run in the opposite direction (again, a lot of the things listed would make women run in the opposite direction, too), etc.