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3:35 PM PDT, October 3, 2006
Self-awareness is one of the four major tenets of emotional intelligence. But this may be the least talked or discussed about.
A lot of people I know tend to analyze others more frequently than they try to understand themselves.
There is a good reason for this. In general, we somehow feel that we know ourselves well but in actuality we don't.
How can we become more self-aware?
According to Pat Williams and Lloyd Thomas, authors of Total Life Coaching, we can develop self-awareness by practicing the "skill of mindfulness".
This means that we should be mindful about our environment and what's going on in the moment - thoughts, feelings, actions, and sensations. In other words, we should fully immerse ourselves with the "now" and appreciate its existence, rather than focusing too much on the past and the future.
Very interesting concept!
9:19 PM PDT, September 7, 2006, updated at 9:24 PM PDT, September 7, 2006
I was reading Wes Moss' new book "Starting From Scratch" today and I learned some novel ideas about entrepreneurship.
One of the steps to become an entrepreneurial success, according to Moss, is to "harness what you have." It's important, he explains, to "identify your skills."
This is very true.
But I'd like to expand more on this idea. I'd say that to succeed in life, you need to optimize your worth.
What does it really take to optimize what you have?
First, know and understand your emotional patterns especially their corresponding triggers and how you handle them. What's making you angry and how do you control yourself? How do you resolve conflict? What's the effective way to reduce your fear and anxiety?
Second, understand others and learn to get along. Trying to change others can only cause a lot of headaches.
Third, recognize and focus on your strengths. What talents, skills, and interests do you have? Do you like public speaking, writing, inventing, or coaching?
Fourth, know and correct your weaknesses. Everyone has some weaknesses and shortcomings. It's up to you to identify them. Ask for help and advice. Be proactive in asking for feedback.
Fifth, celebrate what you have constantly. If you don't, no one else will. The grass is not always greener on the other side.
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