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What it's like to be a high-functioning autistic, October 9, 2005
This is a memoir about being autistic and learning to accept and even revel in the uniqueness of being autistic.
Autism, in a sense, is a different strategy. It may be, in its "milder" forms, as that experienced by Dawn Prince-Hughes, who writes so beautifully well, an attempt to adapt to an ancient environment in which social abilities are not as valuable as some other talents. Many autistics would be more at home in the jungle or in woodlands or on the savannas of Africa than non-autistic people. Their ability to concentrate and to sense things acutely would serve them well. And any lack in social skill would not matter.
At least that is my impression after reading this wonderful book by a woman who "went forward by going backwards"--backwards, that is, "into the most primal and ancient part of myself." She had this experience with her "first and best friends, a family of captive gorillas, people of an ancient nation."
On the other hand, the autistic spectrum of disorders may represent imperfect ways of dealing with the world and with others. Usually autistic people are at a disadvantage, especially socially and vocationally, because other people find their behavior inappropriate and unfeeling. Dawn's behavior seemed at times cold and withdrawn and without proper affect. She had to force herself to make eye contact with people and to remind herself to engage in the social niceties. The curious thing about this is that autistics may actually feel things more strongly than the rest of us. The lack of social grace that many autistics display does not mean they are incapable of feeling or that their feelings of love and empathy are less than that of "normal" people. Clearly we can see in this memoir that Dawn has always been a deeply caring person with a great capacity for love.
The problem for some autistics is that they feel things too deeply. Many autistics have senses that are so acute that everyday interactions with other people overwhelm them emotionally. Satchel Paige famously said that "the social ramble ain't restful." He was, in understatement, expressing what Dawn has always felt.
As a child Dawn could repeat conversations verbatim and had a "vast repertoire of commercial jingles" which she would sing. She loved repetition and symmetry, and later as an adult learned from her gorilla friends "the value and beauty of ritual."
She had sensory addictions, as she calls them, to various sights and sounds and tactile sensations. She craved salt and would eat it straight from the shaker; and she would suck on burnt matchheads and "craved Alka-Seltzer for its taste and feel." She loved to smell her grandparents' car and her grandmother's purse. She felt a sense of calm and security in the presence of familiar things. Away from the familiar, she became frightened and insecure. She liked to hide in caves and other places away from people and from the "chaos of noise" all about her.
After a horrendous childhood in which she was abused by peers at school, and an adolescence and young womanhood in which she was often homeless and terribly alone, she found a sense of love and belonging by watching and interacting with gorillas at the zoo. She herself became a gorilla in part, and refers to her kin throughout the book as "people." This of course is part of the political and moral message of the book: the great apes are "people," or at least they should be treated as people and not as inferior animals to be enslaved and experimented upon.
Prince-Hughes's experience with the gentle and peaceful gorillas marked the beginning of her transformation from hopeless misfit to instructor at Western Washington University with a PhD in anthropology. It also helped that she came to understand that she is autistic, and came to accept that she is different from other people. From that understanding she came to realize that she had to consciously make adaptations to better fit in with others, and to make allowances for what they expected and considered proper even though for Dawn some of their expectations were strange and needless.
This is a fascinating, honest, and deeply revealing memoir about what it is like to be autistic.
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27 of 31 people found the following review helpful:
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captivating, March 19, 2004
This book is fascinating, moving and very informative for anybody who is interested in autism and in animals. Since I am both, I enjoyed it immensely. It's comparable with Temple Grandin's 'Thinking in Pictures' with whom Dawn Prince-Hughes shares many deep insights and experiences. She writes beautifully, and her experiences are worth contemplating because they are far reaching and important. Reading this book strengthened my conviction that many people with autism have insights that could benefit us all, and deserve to be listened to carefully, and with great respect. This book is a must for everybody remotely interested in autism or primates, but I should wish it to reach as many readers, especially anthropologists! as possible.
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22 of 25 people found the following review helpful:
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passionate, moving, sad, and uplifting, July 22, 2004
There is a quote from George Eliot's Middlemarch, which for me really sums up this book: "If we had a keen vision and feeling of all ordinary human life, it would be like hearing the grass grow and the squirrel's heart beat, and we should die of that roar which lies on the other side of silence." When I read that, I realized that is how Dawn Prince Hughes has lived her entire life. Reading this book shows you what it is like to live with autism, Asperger's Syndrome in particular, and tells the story of how Dawn learned to cope, and even be happy, by observing a family of gorillas. If you are interested in the way the human brain works, and in the relationships between humans and animals, and about love and how it can save us all, you will truly love this book. To top it all off, Prince Hughes writes like a poet, and the immediacy of her prose makes reading this book a truly unique and special experience. Can't recommend this highly enough.
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