Mr. Right Is out There: The Gay Man's Guide to Finding and Maintaining Love (Paperback)

by Kenneth D. George (Author), Dr. Kenneth D. George (Author) "I love you..." (more)
Key Phrases: lust declines, most male couples, many male couples, Prince Charming, Auntie Maine, United States (more...)

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This practical and accessible guide to gay romance aims to help men surrender the "Prince Charming fantasy" and learn to find and attract Mr. Right. For men who haven't examined their pasts or the ways in which they typically choose partners, the book may be as good as six months of therapy. The author provides case scenarios and "assignments" to help bring new ideas home. At the core of the suggested strategies are self-knowledge and self-esteem. "We do not consciously pick lovers who are wrong for us," writes Kenneth George. "Invariably, there is a good reason for our selection--an emotional process to be completed, a discovery to be made, a psychological process to be worked through." Chapters like "Being Emotionally Intimate" and "Negotiating and Resolving Differences" may even be of interest to established couples, particularly the discussion of when to seek counseling and a list of ways to get through a difficult breakup. Less useful is a perfunctory chapter devoted to rekindling passion in a long-term relationship. Whipped cream is really best left for pie. --Regina Marler

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"A helpful guide to finding someone who's right for you

, and learning to nurture your relationship once you've found him!" -- Rik Isensee, LCSW, author of Love Between Men

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Product Details

• Paperback: 232 pages
• Publisher: Alyson Books (April 1, 2000)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1555835066
• ISBN-13: 978-1555835064
• Product Dimensions: 9 x 5.8 x 0.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.1 out of 5 stars See all reviews (11 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #202,608 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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83 of 84 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Mr. Right Is Out There, April 10, 2000

By	Charlie Perkins (Lexington, KY) - See all my reviews

-How do you find him? This is a difficult question for many people, but especially so for most gay men. The author, Dr. (Professor) Kenneth D. George starts by telling the reader not to internalize society's homophobic messages that gays are "sick, deviant or abnormal". Gay men are entitled, in fact, empowered to have a workable LOVING relationship with another gay man. As Marianne Williamson says in her new book, Enchanted Love, we must "Prepare to BE the beloved". As a gay doctor writing for gay men, Dr. George gives expert advice on doing the real work of discovering who we are, and what our strengths and weaknesses are before venturing on to discover "Mr. Right". In a step by step, easy to understand plan (with DO-ABLE exercises and activities), Dr. George leads the reader through the mostly NOT so painful process of discovering what he needs to know about himself before he can enter into a LOVING RELATIONSHIP with another gay man.

This is not a sex manual, although there is a chapter the reader will not want to miss --- on sex. Using actual people, the author explores the entire spectrum of the "do's and don'ts" of gay relationships. With chapters such as "Being Emotionally Intimate", "Becoming a Male Couple" and "Negotiating and Resolving Differences", be prepared to be challenged. If you are a younger gay man, this book will guide you in getting started on the right foot. If you are a mature gay man (what can I say?), then this book will help you see just what you might do differently as you FIND "Mr. Right". There is little room for failure here. Dr. Kenneth D. George is a professor at the University of Pennsylvania and runs a private practice in psychotherapy, working with gay single men and gay couples. It has taken many years for him to write this little book. He's been busy finding his own Mr. Right. He and his partner, Christopher Beck (an artist) have found each other. They celebrated their tenth wedding anniversary by enjoying a cruise on the Queen Elizabeth II --- a GAY cruise. In their vows to each other ...well, I'll let you read that for yourself.

Charlie Perkins

19 of 22 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars What is it that you REALLY want???, February 7, 2001

By	Edwin Camacho "eceworldwide" (Los Angeles, CA United States) - See all my reviews

For one, when I read a book and it changes my life I want to pass it on to my friends. If that is any inclination how this book possessed me, you should know that I have bought 5 other copies for friends.

This book is beyond what words on this screen can say. Words that fit; Enlightening, Challenging, and Comprehensive. Not only will you reinvent yourself but you can completely outline what it is that you are looking for, in a healthy relationship.

Being broken up recently from a relationship, that I should not have been in, this book helped me realize that the person I was with was Mr. Wrong and the only thing standing in my way from meeting Mr. Right, was myself...and the fact that I did not want to let go.

Please take the time and read this book. It will help you... This is not only for the single crew, if you are in a relationship it will make you evaluate whether or not you are with the right person. I would love to recommend this book to anyone I date prior to officially starting the dating process...:-)

3 of 3 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent Book!, May 12, 2005

By	the_pool_of_tears (USA) - See all my reviews

Great book... who knew most gay men suffered from internalized homophobia??? It reinforces some of things from Joe Korts (Ten Smart Things Gay Men Can Do To Improve Their Life) It's definatley worth reading!