Verbal Abuse Survivors Speak Out; On relationship and recovery (Paperback)

~ (Author) "Deep within the human psyche, evolved over millions of years, are the eternally true, ever-present needs, drives, and desires that propel us through life's experiences..." (more)
Key Phrases: verbal abuser, verbally abusive relationship, abusive anger, Power Over, Avoid Trying (more...)

Editorial Reviews

Review

"A groundbreaking new book" -- Newsweek

"A significant contribution to the literature on domestic violence. Victims of verbal abuse, their families, and community professionals called upon for assistance will find this book a valuable alternative." -- Rollie Mullin, Executive Director; Battered Women's Alternatives

This is a new day in America; the most important thing is to realize that you don't deserve to be treated that way." -- Oprah Winfrey

Product Description

From the author of The Verbally Abusive Relationship

If your partner: seems irritated or angry at you several times a week; denies being angry when he clearly is; does not work with you to resolve important issues; rarely or never seems to share thoughts or plans with you; or tells you that he has no idea what you're talking about when you try to discuss important problems...you need this book.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 265 pages
• Publisher: Adams Media; 1 edition (February 1, 2003)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1558503048
• ISBN-13: 978-1558503045
• Product Dimensions: 8.3 x 5.4 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.5 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (35 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #40,807 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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Customer Reviews

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66 of 71 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Is This Book For Me?, November 27, 2000

By A Customer

Almost a year ago I realized that what I had been experiencing from my husband was emotional, phsycological, abuse and later on, I happened upon this book. I ordered it and while awaiting it's arrival, I was questioning myself as to was this book really aimed at what I had been going through, after all, there was NO name calling. I immediately went to the back cover for more insight to the content of the book, when it came, and it asked several questions concerning your relationship. I knew after the first two, this book was for me and still is. There are so many types of and methods of verbal abuse that are so subtle, you wonder if the abuser is even smart enough to know what they are doing, but to my amazement and relief, I saw myself on almost every page. I am now proceeding in going through with a divorce, not as a result of this book, that my husband has eluded to wanting for the past year but won't follow through because he never wants to look like the "bad guy", too late. This book has been very useful in helping me to realize that I had lost my "self" and respect for and that in no way could I ever hope to regain any self respect or find me again as long as I stayed in this situation, not to mention what I was modeling to my children, which was in no way healthy. I must say, since I started standing up for myself and calling my husband on every lie he told, the abuse worsened as the need to control what was slipping away became stronger, he has been mad at me ever since I stopped believing all his put downs and promises I knew would never come to pass...........Oh well, I feel great about myself again even though divorce is never fun. This book gave me the courage to stand up for what was right and true by putting my life in print for me to see. The realization was phenominal and I'll be forever grateful. If you have the slightest suspiscion, get it, you have nothing to lose but everything to gain!

44 of 47 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A must read, about a dark force that kills the spirit., May 29, 1999

By A Customer

I am recovering from a 10-year relationship with a man I loved and thought wonderful, who shared with me great world adventures and great times on many levels - but who at the same time was slowly, subtly, making me doubt myself through criticism, public humiliation, tuning out, rude remarks and sudden outbursts of anger. Because this was mixed with fun, adventure and "love", the total effect was confusion and - by the end of it - a complete dismantling of spirit. Patricia Evans' two books have guided me through a long (now 3 years) healing period, which even now is marked with a deep, unidentifiable pain - especially on encountering my ex-husband. The power of Patricia Evans' books lies in their specific outlining of what is actually happening in a relationship where one's deepest self is not honored or cherished. Any woman who is feeling an unidentifiable unrest about her marriage owes it to herself to read these books!

32 of 34 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Very Insightful Book, June 2, 1999

By A Customer

This book was of great help to me. I realized there were other people out there that had experienced the same things that I had. Basically that I wasn't crazy. I was married for 16 plus years and leaving the relationship was one of the hardest things I have ever done, but the best for all involved. My daughters had become a target for his verbal abuse and now they are more aware that relationships are not healthy in that form. Their dad has become more aware of his actions, he has gotten better with time but as far as changing completly, I don't feel in my heart right now that it is possible. I have forgiven but life is to short and it is all about choices.....excellent book. I have read both of Patricia Evans books and several others on this subject.