Compelled to Control: Recovering Intimacy in Broken Relationships (Paperback)

~ (Author) "You're controlling my life!" Sue shouted at Roger..." (more)
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Product Description

J. Keith Miller takes on the question of control in relationships, a response to disorder that often alienates others. He deals with this phenomenon with compassion and offers a way out of the dilemma.

About the Author

J. Keith Miller is one of the nation's most widely respected inspirational speakers. He is an entrepreneur-turned-author with degrees in business, administration, theology and psychological counseling. Miller has more than 15 books to his credit, among them Facing Codependence, which he co-authored with Pia Mellody and Andrea Miller, A Hunger for Healing, Hope in the Fast Lane and The Taste of New Wine.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 250 pages
• Publisher: HCI; Revised edition (April 1, 1998)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1558744614
• ISBN-13: 978-1558744615
• Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.5 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (9 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #30,522 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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17 of 18 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent book, October 12, 2005

By	S. Harmon - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

As a therapist I have recommended this book to many clients and friends. It helps to bring an understanding to a personality feature which can be perplexing and difficult to change. As far as the "God" references mentioned by one reviewer, it is used in the context similar to many recovery books. This book would be appropriate for someone in a 12 step program or someone pursuing personal growth and relationship improvement.

9 of 9 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars 12-step recovery program for controllers, December 7, 2005

By	Heady Dude (So Cal, USA) - See all my reviews

The author applies typical 12-Step recovery program methodology to getting over the compulsion to control people. I read this book to learn more about someone who I thought might have control issues and it gave me great insight into that person and myself. I am not planning on doing the 12-step program so the latter portion of the book was a tiresome read, but if you have a severe control problem, the entire book would be pertinent to recovering from the issue. The references to God are probably no different than any of the other 12-step recovery programs.

31 of 38 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Must Read!!!!, May 29, 2001

By A Customer

This book is fabulous for anyone dealing with any kind of co-dependence issues, self-esteem issues and just issues with the way you were raised by your parents in general. It is not a blaming book for the past, but a real planning book for the future. It absolutely changed my whole attitude about life, love and how to deal with both of them. I can't wait to read more books by Mr. Miller and his wife.