It's A Guy Thing : An Owner's Manual for Women (Paperback)

by David Deida (Author) "Most women, at one time or another, have wondered why their man was so difficult-why, on occasion, he behaved like a jerk..." (more)
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Product Description
In a must-have book that puts male behavior under the microscope, noted relationship expert David Deida answers women's most frequently asked questions about men and why they act the way they do. It's a Guy Thing includes chapters on sex, work, relationships, and communication.

About the Author
David Deida is a contributor for the following Health Communications, Inc. Title: It's a Guy Thing

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Product Details

• Paperback: 200 pages
• Publisher: HCI (May 1, 1997)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1558744649
• ISBN-13: 978-1558744646
• Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.4 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 13.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.3 out of 5 stars See all reviews (19 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #19,058 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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50 of 54 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars It's a relationship thing, April 11, 2000

By A Customer

This is the second book of Mr. Deida's that I have read. I found "The Way of the Superior Man" to be more powerful, more direct, and more challenging. (Oh yeah, the disclaimer: I'm a guy...) I imagine he meant it to be, since it was aimed more at men.

I have found his observations to be quite accurate. Seeing things from the woman's side, in this book, has been very helpful. Thinking about my past relationships from the point-of-view of masculine vs. feminine energy (and the way in which I fell into the less-than-helpful patterns he points out) has definitely opened up new solutions to old problems for me.

Having said that, I think his books are really only for those who understand that romantic relationships are processes that change and require work and adjustment, and not static links to one's partner. If you're not willing to work at it, and to work through your own problems, then you'd be better off getting some less challenging "relationship" books. He makes it clear over and over that only by working through and from love can we get to a true embrace of our partner, and of life. It's not always easy, and maybe it's not supposed to be, but it's certainly wonderful when love works....

I'll add that I've not yet read any of John Gray's work (he seems about as masculine as Richard Simmons, and I wasn't interested), but I'm now curious to see how much of what John Gray says agrees with Mr. Deida....

22 of 24 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Great book that makes you think., September 20, 1998

By A Customer

This book pushes the envelope in this politically correct era by asking the reader to look beyond the surface of what we call 'equality.' Our society has well equipped women to master their masculine energy but not done the same for men and their feminine energy (society still denegrates feminine energy.) We have an overabundance of strong, professional women and men who are wimps.

This book explained in easy to read essays how men's minds work (women's too). Women may not like some of what they hear; I didn't like alot of it, but I've 'road tested' alot of it and it's true! I think it iluminates what supports men and women in relationships and life and gives insight into understanding and achieving real balance.

Until you know what's really happening between the sexes you have no chance to succeed in relationships where the participants really are different. This has made a world of difference in my relationship and ability to communicate and it explains alot about the failed ones. Better in my opinion than Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. Well worth reading.

18 of 20 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars making sense of a tough subject, October 14, 1998

By A Customer

As a guy I found myself resonating with many of things David states about male behavior and fundemental needs. He cuts through the fluff of political correctness to get at the core of the masculine essence. For those who are ready to transcend trying to force masculine and feminine to be satisfied by the same needs, and live from a center of love , this book will make sense.