Most Helpful Customer Reviews
|
|
24 of 27 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
A genuinely helpful guide to fulfilling feminine sexuality, July 28, 1999
By A Customer
"My husband says there's something wrong with me." "I don't enjoy sex; I think I'm flawed." "I'm afraid I'll lose him." A surprising number of women are plagued with varieties of sexual dysfunction and unhappiness. Sometimes the problems can be traced to certain traumatic events in their lives, but often the unhappiness stems from ignorance or an inadequate conceptual framework by which women (mis)understand the dynamics of their own sexuality. Sex therapist and practicing psychologist Linda Savage has written a book to help both women and men become more sensitive to the ways in which women are sexual, from their youth into their elder years.In Part One ("The Wisdom of the Goddess") Savage critiques the prevailing western worldview of female sexuality and outlines an alternative way, the way of the goddess. Drawing upon ancient Sacred Marriage traditions from around the world, a deep appreciation-actually, a veneration-of feminine sexual and spiritual being ("goddess sexuality") is described for the reader in lively, lucid prose. Savage emphasizes the life-affirming superiority of goddess sexuality through a fictional "Tale of Two Daughters": parallel accounts of Inanna and Eileen as they come of age sexually. Innana is a representative of a woman-positive culture wherein sexual desire is a gift, whereas Eileen is raised in a conventional modern mind-set which has taught her that sex is to be hidden for its sinfulness. Savage's tale introduces the notion of three life stages through which women grow: Maiden, Mother, and Crone. Part Two ("The Three stages of a Woman's Life") explores in more detail the characteristics of each of these three life stages. During the Maiden stage women are discovering their individual creative potentials in many areas of life; most important for Savage's focus is the emergence of "a conscious relationship with intuitive body wisdom, which will continue for the remainder of life" (p.58). It is a time of exploring sexual pleasure without the responsibilities of motherhood. Here, as throughout the book, Savage is careful to recognize that no single pattern of pleasure-preferences is to be considered requisite or even normative for all women. With the first pregnancy comes the Mother stage of accepting responsibility, as women are physiologically and psychologically transformed to elevate the well-being of their children above all other concerns. Savages gifts the reader with insights into the potent-albeit less conspicuous-sexual nature of the Mother stage. Her insights are particularly helpful for husbands, since the season of child-bearing and -raising leaves many men confused and frustrated about their wives' sexual desires. Passing beyond those years women arrive at the Crone stage, a time of sharing wisdom. Here Savage illuminates a widely misunderstood and unappreciated area of female sexuality. She characterizes the Crone stage as one of sexual empowerment, by which she means "an inner confidence about your feminine sexuality that belies the physical image seen in the mirror . . .a state of awareness of the internal strengths of emotional compassion, focused will, and clarity of intention" (p.154). In Part Three ("The Power of the Feminine Way") Savage applies the concepts outlined in the first two parts in very practical ways to the actual circumstances women face. The organizing principle of her advice is body wisdom: learning deeply from one's own physico-psychic signals and sharing that knowledge with one's partner for enduring and thrilling intimacy. The reader will find in these pages directly applicable exercises and rituals to expand the erotic senses. Savage has written a genuinely helpful, reader-friendly book. Unafraid to share the story of her own life's odyssey, she exudes the compassion and commitment of the very life-stages about which she writes so well.
|
|
|
21 of 24 people found the following review helpful:
2.0 out of 5 stars
For people who don't have self-confidence, December 16, 2000
By A Customer
I had high expectations for this book when I bought it. It got high ranking from rating in here, amazon, and has extremely interensting subject and title. I thought that this would be a book that would change the way I feel sexuality to more positive and open way and make me honour the feminine self even more. But as I read through the pages - and I did read the whole book trough - some things truly made me disappointed and sorry rather than positive and happy. Linda E. Savage surely is a sexual therapist, but why on earth all her examples about partnership were so exaggerated? Surely not all men like to give oral sex to their partner, but is it truly neccessery to tell, that some men even trow up after giving it to their wives? Does this help someone to overcome her fear of touching or in other senses help her feel better? Another somewhat irritating thing was naive attitude towards ancient cultures: sure sexuality was very differend and more open compeared to todays way, but how does the author know that "when Inanna from Goddess culture four thousand years ago got her first menstrual period, all the women in her family gathered together to tell stories and give little presents to her". Surely this is all possible, but author seems to claim that life 4000 years ago was all happy and whitout any problems at all. I know this may be little bit of a hairsplitting, but there is a chapter talking about "losing to Jennifer" - that is, married man fells in love with young female outside his marriage. Author complains how much pain and desperate hope to feel young again this causes for elder women. This is with no doub true, but compared to this, it seems little weird that in the next chapter author praises older women who dare to take younger lovers! It seems unfair that the same thing - taking younger sexual parners - is acceptable to females, but forbitten for males! Book earns two stars for the Goddess- and women-positive attitude, that carries trhoughout the book, and for exellent sexual exercises, that were very interesting and inspiring. Generally, this is a good book for women, who, for some reason, have experiencet truly traumatic perioids in their life and who do not feel desire at all, or who for some reason dislike their body in sexual sense: however, I felt that normal, positive and sexually open person does not foud this book very helpfull at all. And finally, sorry for the mistakes in this writing, english is not my first language.
|
|
|
6 of 7 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Fresh Approach, January 15, 2003
Reclaiming Goddess Sexuality is a creative integration of ancient spirituality and the best of psychotherapeutic advances. It is a gem of a book for women who feel alone on an issue that is often too difficult to even articulate. You will find yourself somewhere in the pages of this beautiful book!
|
|
|
Most Recent Customer Reviews
|
by Jean Shinoda Bolen
by Jean Shinoda Bolen
See all 6 books citing this book
