Don't Take It Personally!: The Art of Dealing With Rejection (Paperback)

~ Elayne R. Savage (Author)

Editorial Reviews

Review

"Never before has the impact of rejection been explored to this degree. Don't Take It Personally! offers much reasurrance and inspiration." -- -Susan Jeffers, Ph.D., author of Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway and End the Struggle and Dance with Life.

"This is a psychological education at its best. Elayne Savage has provided a thoughtful, good-humored, origianl treatment of a crucial life problem." -- -Elaine Aron, Ph.D., author of The Highly Sensitive Person

"This wonderfully readable ook offers wise counsel and information...useful insights into an issue that impacts each of our lives-rejection" -- -Judy Tatelbaum, M.S.W., author of The Courage to Grieve and You Don't Have to Suffer.

Product Description

This book examines what makes people so sensitive to rejection and teaches them how to turn self-rejection into self-confidence. It helps readers identify the stimuli that trigger feelings of rejection, understand the sources of sensitivity to such feelings, and learn how to depersonalize messages of rejection to guard against hurt and build self-confidence. 12 illustrations.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 240 pages
• Publisher: New Harbinger Publications (September 1997)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1572240776
• ISBN-13: 978-1572240773
• Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 6 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 13.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (9 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #167,130 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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34 of 35 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A sensible and compassionate approach to a painful problem, October 16, 1999

By A Customer

I usually find that the average self-help book could be boiled down to a long magazine article and not lose anything valuable in the process, but "Don't Take It Personally" is different. Dr. Savage is obviously a very experienced therapist; I especially like the perceptive way she explores the many reasons we allow other people's opinions and comments to wound us. I recognized my own tendencies in several of the case histories presented, and was also impressed by her canny analysis of clients' family background. I can't say that reading "Don't Take It Personally" has cured me for good of my hypersensitivity, but I do feel that I have a better grip on it: when someone criticizes me now, I'm far more likely to remind myself, "That's simply her viewpoint; she may be right or wrong, but it doesn't have to define who I am." Taking control of your own life is a great experience, and Dr. Savage's book is a useful tool for getting you there.

27 of 28 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars This book changed my life., July 22, 1999

By A Customer

I've never read a self-help book that so completely addressed pertinent issues for me. Not only does it deal with rejection, but also with over-sensitivity, personal boundaries and co-dependent relationships. The book makes you think a lot about how the messages from your childhood have influenced the way you perceive yourself as an adult. Once you can identify things like that, you can accept and move on. This is a wonderful book.

22 of 23 people found the following review helpful:

3.0 out of 5 stars Good Read with Some Great Advice, July 8, 2000

By A Customer

This review is from: Don't Take It Personally!: Transform Rejection into Self-Acceptance (Hardcover)

I first saw this book while browsing for something completely different. The price was right so i decided to pick it up. I really wasnt expecting much at all from it, but was pleasantly surprised to find it explained alot where behavior comes from when dealing with others in plain English. I wouldnt say it gives enough advice to do as the title says, but it does give alot of insight into re-evaluating past rejection--especailly with families. I feel this book has a lot of pontential, but unfortuantely doesnt explore things into as much depth as i would prefer. I would also have liked to see more said about approaching things and how to change instead of just exploring where certain things come from. However, it has a lot of great ideas presented clearly. All in all, a good book.