False Intimacy: Understanding the Struggle of Sexual Addiction (Paperback)

by Harry Schaumburg (Author)

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WHY ARE SEXUAL TEMPTATIONS SO HARD TO RESIST WHEN THE PRICE IS SO HIGH?

We all long for true intimacy. Many people seek to fill that void by seeking sexual relationships-whether real or fantasized-that promise to provide the relief, acceptance, and fulfillment for which they long. But it is false intimacy. And as Dr. Harry Schaumburg points out, "Sexual intimacy can't relieve their deep, unmet longings."

False Intimacy goes beyond behavioral symptoms and willpower-based solutions to provide biblical guideposts for the journey to restoration. With frank honesty, False Intimacy examines the roots behind these kinds of behaviors and offers realistic direction to those whose lives or ministries have been impacted by sexual addiction.

"The finest work available for all who struggle with their sexuality or want to understand and help those who do."-Dr. Dan B. Allender, author of The Wounded Heart

"More people than we know battle against compelling sexual desires. Dr. Schaumburg thinks through the realities of the battle and offers a biblical perspective with wisdom, clarity, and compassion."-Dr. Larry Crabb, teacher, counselor, author of Inside Out

"This is the best Christian book on sexual addiction I've ever read. Schaumburg goes far deeper than the surface symptoms to expose core issues of this common problem."-Bob Davies, executive director, Exodus International TABLE OF CONTENTS: Chapter 1: What Is Sexual Addiction? Chapter 2: Sexually Addictive Behaviors Chapter 3: What Causes Sexual Addiction? Chapter 4: Hope for Those Who Are Sexually Addicted Chapter 5: Responding to Your Sexually Addicted Spouse Chapter 6: The Recovering Marriage Chapter 7: Women and False Intimacy Chapter 8: Preventing Sexual Addiction in Your Children Chapter 9: Sexual Addiction in the Church Chapter 10: The Church as a Healing Community Chapter 11: Healing for Christian Leaders Appendix A: Indicators of Childhood Sexual Abuse Appendix B: Ministry Resources

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WHY ARE SEXUAL TEMPTATIONS SO HARD TO RESIST WHEN THE PRICE IS SO HIGH? We all long for true intimacy. Many people seek to fill that void by seeking sexual relationships-whether real or fantasized-that promise to provide the relief, acceptance, and fulfillment for which they long. But it is false intimacy. And as Dr. Harry Schaumburg points out, "Sexual intimacy can’t relieve their deep, unmet longings." False Intimacy goes beyond behavioral symptoms and willpower-based solutions to provide biblical guideposts for the journey to restoration. With frank honesty, False Intimacy examines the roots behind these kinds of behaviors and offers realistic direction to those whose lives or ministries have been impacted by sexual addiction.

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Product Details Paperback: 256 pages Publisher: NavPress; Revised edition (July 1, 1997) Language: English ISBN-10: 1576830284 ISBN-13: 978-1576830284 Product Dimensions: 8.8 x 6 x 0.7 inches Shipping Weight: 12.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies) Average Customer Review: 4.1 out of 5 stars See all reviews (28 customer reviews) Amazon.com Sales Rank: #22,095 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books) Popular in these categories: (What's this?) #9 in  Books > Health, Mind & Body > Recovery > Sexual #15 in  Books > Religion & Spirituality > Christianity > Ministry & Church Leadership > Pastoral Counseling #22 in  Books > Health, Mind & Body > Self-Help > Abuse

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Most Helpful Customer Reviews 57 of 60 people found the following review helpful: 5.0 out of 5 stars Outstanding help for anyone wanting freedom from addiction, March 15, 1999 By A Customer I have been denying my problem with sexual addiction for 35 years. False Intimacy has not only shown me my denial, but pointed me toward true intimacy with God as the starting point for having close relationships with other people. The book contains the clearest thinking I have ever heard on the subject of trusting God. If you are an addict, think you might be, or are just unsure about what it means to have a close/intimate relationship with God and with your spouse, you need to get this book. 29 of 29 people found the following review helpful: 5.0 out of 5 stars This is the book if you're looking for spiritual depth, March 17, 2001 By A Customer I've been reading various books and Internet resources about sexual sin and addiction -- this one demonstrates far more appreciation of the deep complexities and mysteries of the spiritual aspects of this issue. There's not even a hint of the kind of cheap, quick fix that some other books claim. Along with that, Schaumberg's emphasis on our willingness and ability to accept the nature of this world earned my respect. I highly recommend it to those who are looking for understanding in a spiritual context. For obvious reasons, I'm posting this anonymously, but I want readers of this review to recognize that they probably already know people who are quietly struggling too, so I'll identify myself as a successful high-tech executive, often speaking in public and in the news. In the high-tech culture, our technology makes sexual materials so easy to obtain; our stress makes it tempting indeed. 55 of 60 people found the following review helpful: 5.0 out of 5 stars Harry shoots straight and makes you confront yourself. GOOD, July 23, 1998 By A Customer After struggling with sexual addiction since age 19, I had experienced most all the disappointments in life, including job loss, career ending acts of compulsive behavior, loss of friends, divorce and even arrest. I read Harry's first book after being confronted with an act of voyeurism. I was especially struck to the core of my heart and conscience by his profound, yet quite simple, approach to bringing the addict to the point of compliance with God and His design for redeemed men. It was on a Sunday afternoon in October, 1995, that I was reading this book. In the back of False Intimacy, I noticed Harry's counseling advertisements. I was desperate and needed help, not only for my own sanity, but for the saving of my marriage. Just 2 weeks later, I went with my wife to a 5-day Intensive Counseling course at Harry's offices in Colorado Springs, CO. " Very intense" is hardly the phrase to describe it. Harry made me realize that I was a very shallow and ho! llow person. The bottom line is that we Christian men have a reluctance to initiate and maintain an intimate relationship with God. I had a lot to work out, and I am still working my way out of sexual addiction and experiencing increasing sobriety from this sinful lifestye. Harry is a talented, qualified professional, whose writings get to the core of the problem, from a spiritual perspective, because that is wherein the problem lies--sex addicts have a sin problem, which only God, according to Harry, can rectify. I recommend this book to men in the Church, especially, who struggle with this area. Thanks, Harry, I am hanging in there.		Most Recent Customer Reviews 5.0 out of 5 stars What a blessing! We went through counceling and used this book. What a blessing this book was to us. This is not only for the spouse who is struggling with Sexual Addiction but also for the spouse... Read more Published 26 days ago by Toast 5.0 out of 5 stars False Intimacy This is a book, not only for those who have a sexual addiction, but any addiction. It should be compulsory reading for every young person, especially in our culturally-sex-crazed... Read more Published 6 months ago by John 2.0 out of 5 stars Treatments. Key strategy/ work to FINISH THINGS! Addicts do not finish things,ENDING THINGS (what things?) adds substantially to recovery. They prefer to "keep options open. Read more Published 16 months ago by Sparkle 5.0 out of 5 stars Hardcore I bought this book out of desperation and a desire to help my suffering loved ones. This book is painfully honest and not for the faint of heart. Read more Published 24 months ago by E. R. Wright 5.0 out of 5 stars Excellent information This book was suggested to me by a counselor I was seeing to help me deal with the fallout of my husbands confession of sexual addiction. Read more Published on January 10, 2007 by By His grace Donna 5.0 out of 5 stars The Real Source of the Problem I recommend "False Intimacy" more than other books to those men who are battling the behavior of sexual addiction, but who also desperately want change at the source of the... 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Product Details

• Paperback: 256 pages
• Publisher: NavPress; Revised edition (July 1, 1997)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1576830284
• ISBN-13: 978-1576830284
• Product Dimensions: 8.8 x 6 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 12.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.1 out of 5 stars See all reviews (28 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #22,095 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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  #15 in	Books > Religion & Spirituality > Christianity > Ministry & Church Leadership > Pastoral Counseling
  #22 in	Books > Health, Mind & Body > Self-Help > Abuse

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Most Helpful Customer Reviews

57 of 60 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Outstanding help for anyone wanting freedom from addiction, March 15, 1999

By A Customer

I have been denying my problem with sexual addiction for 35 years. False Intimacy has not only shown me my denial, but pointed me toward true intimacy with God as the starting point for having close relationships with other people. The book contains the clearest thinking I have ever heard on the subject of trusting God. If you are an addict, think you might be, or are just unsure about what it means to have a close/intimate relationship with God and with your spouse, you need to get this book.

29 of 29 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars This is the book if you're looking for spiritual depth, March 17, 2001

By A Customer

I've been reading various books and Internet resources about sexual sin and addiction -- this one demonstrates far more appreciation of the deep complexities and mysteries of the spiritual aspects of this issue. There's not even a hint of the kind of cheap, quick fix that some other books claim. Along with that, Schaumberg's emphasis on our willingness and ability to accept the nature of this world earned my respect. I highly recommend it to those who are looking for understanding in a spiritual context. For obvious reasons, I'm posting this anonymously, but I want readers of this review to recognize that they probably already know people who are quietly struggling too, so I'll identify myself as a successful high-tech executive, often speaking in public and in the news. In the high-tech culture, our technology makes sexual materials so easy to obtain; our stress makes it tempting indeed.

55 of 60 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Harry shoots straight and makes you confront yourself. GOOD, July 23, 1998

By A Customer

After struggling with sexual addiction since age 19, I had experienced most all the disappointments in life, including job loss, career ending acts of compulsive behavior, loss of friends, divorce and even arrest. I read Harry's first book after being confronted with an act of voyeurism. I was especially struck to the core of my heart and conscience by his profound, yet quite simple, approach to bringing the addict to the point of compliance with God and His design for redeemed men. It was on a Sunday afternoon in October, 1995, that I was reading this book. In the back of False Intimacy, I noticed Harry's counseling advertisements. I was desperate and needed help, not only for my own sanity, but for the saving of my marriage. Just 2 weeks later, I went with my wife to a 5-day Intensive Counseling course at Harry's offices in Colorado Springs, CO. " Very intense" is hardly the phrase to describe it. Harry made me realize that I was a very shallow and ho! llow person. The bottom line is that we Christian men have a reluctance to initiate and maintain an intimate relationship with God. I had a lot to work out, and I am still working my way out of sexual addiction and experiencing increasing sobriety from this sinful lifestye. Harry is a talented, qualified professional, whose writings get to the core of the problem, from a spiritual perspective, because that is wherein the problem lies--sex addicts have a sin problem, which only God, according to Harry, can rectify. I recommend this book to men in the Church, especially, who struggle with this area. Thanks, Harry, I am hanging in there.