Perfectly Normal: Living and Loving with Low Libido (Paperback)

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Product Description
Challenging assumptions about sex in our society, a noted sex therapist shows women how to start living and loving with genuine pleasure regardless of where they fall on the libido meter

How strong does a woman's sex drive have to be to be considered "normal"? Are widespread myths about frequent, lusty lovemaking ruining couples' sex lives? At various points in their lives, one in every three women rate themselves as lacking any interest in sex. Challenging unrealistic expectations that are leaving many couples disappointed and dissatisfied with their intimate lives, psychologist Sandra Pertot, Ph.D., in Perfectly Normal, reassures women who fear that their diminished desire is proof that there is something terribly wrong with them or with their relationship.

Dr. Pertot examines what constitutes "good sex" and explores ways to resolve the problem when a couple's needs and wants don't match-without either partner being made to feel inadequate or abnormal. It makes no sense, Dr. Pertot insists, to label low libido as sexual dysfunction when the numbers suggest it is "perfectly normal." Her provocative book points the way to a new view of relationship sex, and new hope for couples to stop berating themselves and each other for what they don't have-and derive maximum pleasure out of intimacy.

About the Author
SANDRA PERTOT, PH.D., is a clinical psychologist and sex therapist in private practice. She has been published in Woman's Day, Penthouse, and many publications in Australia where she lives.

Product Details

• Paperback: 256 pages
• Publisher: Rodale Books (January 13, 2005)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1579548849
• ISBN-13: 978-1579548841
• Product Dimensions: 8.8 x 6 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 12 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars See all reviews (5 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #512,052 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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5 of 5 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars I'm normal, March 10, 2008

By	Jane (NSW, Australia) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Perfectly Normal: Living and Loving with Low Libido (Paperback)

This book is a must for any woman of any age who worries there is something wrong with her because she doesn't have hot, lusty feelings for sex, or who often finds breast or genital stimulation is a turn off rather than a turn on if she is not already relaxed and feeling intimate. It's nice to know this is "perfectly normal" for many women, and Sandra explains why so many women feel that way. She doesn't promise to have the solutions for you to get these lusty feelings, but then, as she says, no sex therapist can or should make this promise. Instead, she gently supports you to not be discouraged by this but to explore your own sexuality, and to find your own reasons for wanting sex. She shows you the way to break the vicious negative cycle you and your partner have been in, and to confidently build a good sex life together. Once you have read it, get your partner to read it as well.

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Finally a book normalizing low libido, August 1, 2008

By	Psychotherapist - See all my reviews

Well written and a fast read. The content is excellent. Both low and high libido folks will appreciate the tips and explanations of the problems, conflicts, etc. A must read for couples fighting over mismatched libidos.

6 of 8 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A book every woman should read, May 24, 2006

By	Gipsy Rose "Gipsy Rose" (Victoria, Australia) - See all my reviews

This is the first book I have read on women's sexuality, of many read, that accurately described my sexuality, gently and clearly explained the aversive cycle my partner and I had shifted into, and put it all in a way that he could understand and relate to. It's probably going to take a while for us to heal, but I feel hope in a way I haven't for a long time. I had resigned myself to the quality of our sexual relationship being an impasse we had to accept. Thank you for writing this Sandra.