Surviving Infidelity: Making Decisions, Recovering from the Pain (Paperback)

by Rona B. Subotnik (Author), Gloria Harris (Author)

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Product Description
What Now? Not all extramarital affairs are the same, nor do they all call for the same response. In Surviving Infidelity, therapists Rona Subotnik and Gloria Harris examine:

The different kinds of affairs (and why they happen)
The effects of an affair on the marriage
Strategies for coping with hurt and betrayal
Life after an affair-from deciding whether to continue the marriage to undertaking the challenge of rebuilding it
The Importance of sincere apologies, communicated with empathy, in re-establishing a couple's relationship.

Drawing on their clinical experience, Subotnik and Harris offer a nonjudgmental and compassionate look at infidelity from the spouse's point of view, emphasizing practical approaches to recovery. Their work is bringing new hope to couples who confront these painful issues.

About the Author
Rona Subotnik, M.F.C.C. is a licensed marriage and family counselor in private practice in San Diego. She is a clinical member of the American Association of Marriage and Family Therapists.

Dr. Gloria Harris, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologists in private practice in San Diego. She is the co-author of the groundbreaking Assertive Training for Women.

Product Details

• Paperback: 223 pages
• Publisher: Adams Media Corporation; 2nd edition (May 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1580621376
• ISBN-13: 978-1580621373
• Product Dimensions: 8.4 x 5.5 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 8.6 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars See all reviews (12 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #422,227 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

64 of 64 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Surviving Infidelity, Saving My Relationship, December 14, 2000

By A Customer

I recently was informed by my spouse that she had a past 1 year affair. I remember being very numb and angry. It was recommended that I read Surviving Infidelity. What a true blessing this book provides. At a time when I felt my world was coming to an end this easy to read paperback has given me the strength to move forward and understand why people in general have affairs but more importantly than that the book affirmed the emotional feelings I am experiencing right now are NORMAL and thou I share some responsibitlity for our relationship I am not at fault for my wife deciding to have the affair. I have decided as a result of this reading that my relationship with my wife is worth saving and this book has given me valuable tools to move in that direction. Thank-you Rona and Gloria for giving me more insight and understanding.

48 of 49 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Anyone going through this pain should read this book, March 30, 2001

By	C. W. SULLIVAN "cindysully" (Upstate NY USA) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

I have been going through the pain of infedility for several months before discovering this book. It is very easy to read. It gave me a lot of insight into why my husband had an affair and how he thinks and insight into my own feelings. After I read the book I asked my husband to read it. He even stated that the writers were right on the money and confirmed some of his ideas on how I was feeling and what I am going through. Now we both are talking more and moving to resolve things and make our marriage better. I would recommend this book to anyone going through this terrible ordeal. I just wish I had found this sooner so we could start healing sooner.

101 of 110 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars the best that there is out there, July 28, 2000

By	Pamela Stone (Wichita Falls, Texas United States) - See all my reviews

This book will help you over the rough spots of Infidelity. The authors let you know you are not alone and we all go through the same stages of Infidelity.

Not all affairs are the same, but they are just as hurtful, nor do they all call for the same response, which does not make cheating right in any way. Surviving Infidelity will help you to understand what goes on in a cheaters mind. Here you will find answers to the many questions you have. I believe the hardest part to get over is the betrayal. Every one handles infidelity differently. Remember: we must never take it on ourselves, the cheater is wrong.

Here is a list of subjects the authors explain to us: Why affairs happen Discovery and its impact Coping and healing Dealing with the martial crisis Repairing the relationship, if that is what you want The post affair marriage Increasing your self-esteem What it takes to be a survivor

I noticed this book in a bookstore as I was searching for a book to improve on myself. Something told me to buy it because at the time it fit my life, boy was I glad I did. I realized that I did not need the fixing because I was the injured party. It is really strange but those of us cheated on seem to take the blame for something that is out of our control. Remember where the blame lies -- we are the hurt and damaged ones. Read the book it will really help you pick up the pieces of your life. It did me.

This one earned High Marks from this reviewer.