Getting Through to the Man You Love: The No-Nonsense, No-Nagging Guide for Women (Paperback)

by Michele Weiner-Davis (Author) "seminars, or reading self-help books), knowing that you can effect change single-handedly enables you to take the energy you spent trying to convince your mate..." (more)
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Product Description
An irresistible message for womenIf someone told you that you could have better, more meaningful communication with your partner, hug him without his thinking sex was imminent, get him to become more involved with the kids, or even realize that, unlike the oven, the house isn't self-cleaning, wouldn't you want to know how? Of course you would. Well, Michele Weiner-Davis is about to let you in on her secrets.Drawing on more than two decades of experience in helping couples make their relationships great and using her own twenty-something year old marriage as a testing ground for her techniques, Weiner-Davis explains: ( women's biggest "beefs" about men ( why blaming, nagging, and talking about feelings don't work ( why action-oriented methods are infinitely more effective ( how to talk so men will listenMost important, Weiner-Davis shows how every woman can become an expert at getting her man to be more responsive to the things she wants and needs in their relationship. So, if you've been at the end of your relationship rope and you're ready to let go of the line, hang in there . . . solutions are right around the corner. AUTHORBIO: Michele Weiner-Davis is an internationally renowned relationship expert and therapist in private practice. She specializes in a revolutionary therapy approach-Solution-Oriented Brief Therapy-aimed at helping people change their lives quickly and painlessly. She is the best-selling author of Divorce and Change Your Life and Everyone in It and the co-author of In Search of Solutions. She is the creator of the relationship program Keeping Love Alive. She lives outside of Chicago with her husband and two children.

About the Author
Michele Weiner-Davis is an internationally renowned relationship expert and therapist in private practice. She specializes in a revolutionary therapy approach-Solution-Oriented Brief Therapy-aimed at helping people change their lives quickly and painlessly. She is the best-selling author of Divorce and Change Your Life and Everyone in It and the co-author of In Search of Solutions. She is the creator of the relationship program Keeping Love Alive. She lives outside of Chicago with her husband and two children.

Product Details

• Paperback: 272 pages
• Publisher: Golden Guides from St. Martin's Press; 1st edition (October 27, 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 158238035X
• ISBN-13: 978-1582380353
• Product Dimensions: 9.1 x 6.1 x 0.8 inches
• Shipping Weight: 10.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars See all reviews (6 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #104,049 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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25 of 26 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Very goal oriented book on making relationships work better, June 18, 2004

By A Customer

Let me just say - I loved this book, and have loaned it to some friend who've been very impessed as well. I'm shocked it only has one review so far, and so was inspired to write another.

It's very pragmatic, action-oriented, and goal oriented. I actually took notes on it. Here's a summary of my notes(although you'll definately want the get the book, if just for the examples and short stories alone):

Instead of thinking of things he shouldn't do, think of what he should do.

Your goals should be specific and action oriented, like "hold hands in movies".

Break your goals into mini-goals

If a particular stragety doesn't work, don't do it! Keep your eyes on the cheese.

Do something different strategies:
- do something unexpected
- do a 180
- act as if...
- "easier done than said", i.e. take action

48 of 55 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars I'm Finally Getting Through to The Man I Love, May 8, 2000

By	Louise (New York) - See all my reviews

I am only one of a lot of women out there but wanted to personally say I love this book.

I call it my "man bible". I literally carry it with me all the time. I don't keep it at home because heaven forbid he would find it. I have now read the book twice and am now going through it again a third time underlining everything that I want to emphasize in my head. That way I figured I could look at these lined phrases in those emergency circumstances.

This wonderful book has really given me new eyes to look through. I will probably memorize it from cover to cover and then read some more. I have already seen some changes! This book is the best thing I have found in a long time.

12 of 12 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars One word...Wow!, February 21, 2006

By	Jill Williams (Idaho) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

Are you bitter because everything you try to discuss with your man never seems to be heard, let alone get through? Then this is he book for you! Michele Weiner-Davis is amazing! Its like she's been there. The ending is the best, though! If your marriage is in trouble because of communication problems, this is a must have! It sure helped me! And I didn't think ANYTHING could save us!