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Starred Review. This book was shaped by the results of a landmark sex survey called Integrating Sexuality and Spirituality (ISIS) that researcher and sex therapist Ogden undertook in 1997. Instead of focusing on the mechanics of sex, the ISIS survey asked the mostly female respondents how they experienced sex and what sex meant in their lives. Ogden (Women Who Love Sex) writes, "In some ways, the language of spiritual experience comes closest to expressing the fullness of our sexual response, for it is the language of connection and ecstasy." In Ogden's view, sex is (or should be) about more than physical sensation. She cites recent laboratory findings that show multiple areas of women's brains lighting up when they bring themselves to orgasm, including the areas connected with religious ecstasy and spiritual experience. The results of the survey bear Ogden out, as 47% of women say "they've experienced God during sexual ecstasy"; 67% say "sex needs to be spiritual to be satisfying." In this provocative, important book, Ogden functions as a gentle, persistent guide in mapping out paths—physical, mental, emotional and spiritual—that women can take to locate their sexual "center," where healing, ecstasy and transformation occur. There are also chapters on the chakras, tantric sex and creating ceremony for sacred lovemaking. (July 18)
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“This is a glorious book. Gina Ogden speaks directly to the heart of sexuality in a way that women all over the world will recognize. To read this book is to remember and reawaken to the melody of the life force that both created and sustains our bodies and lives. May this book soar—and take us all with it!”—Christiane Northrup, M.D., author Women’s Bodies, Women’s Wisdom and Mother-Daughter Wisdom

“Dr. Ogden’s work guides you to become that person you have always wanted to be in relation to your body, your soul, and your entire life. Part guidebook, part group therapy, and—best of all—part girlfriend-support for those who want more out of their lives. As a sex educator I can assure you many are looking for a tool to help themselves and Gina Ogden has delivered just that.”—L. Lou Paget, author of How to Be a Great Lover and The Great Lover Playbook

“Gina Ogden redefines female sexuality, letting us discover and design our own brand of sexual pleasure. Her research pronounces a holistic, non-performance-based model for women, cracking open old beliefs, unearthing fresh emotions, and carving out the paths for healing and awakening our sexual spirits.”—Patti Britton, Ph.D., President of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists and author of The Art of Sex Coaching

“This affirming, well-written, and useful book invites us to free ourselves from a performance-focus in sex by exploring powerful and empowering connections of body, mind, heart, and spirit. Here are fresh understandings, helpful tools and resources, compassionate insights, and, throughout, the voices of women.”—Judy Norsigian and Wendy Sanford, cofounders of the Boston Women’s Health Book Collective and coauthors of Our Bodies, Ourselves

“Gina Ogden demolishes the notion that sexuality and spirituality are polar opposites. She also shows how we can move beyond the degradation of women and sex in popular culture to meet our deep human yearning for caring connection."—Riane Eisler, author of Sacred Pleasure, The Chalice and the Blade, and The Power of Partnership

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  • Hardcover: 288 pages
  • Publisher: Trumpeter (July 11, 2006)
  • Language: English
  • ISBN-10: 159030294X
  • ISBN-13: 978-1590302941
  • Product Dimensions: 9.6 x 5.9 x 1.1 inches
  • Shipping Weight: 12.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
  • Average Customer Review: 4.8 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (15 customer reviews)
  • Amazon.com Sales Rank: #77,206 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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33 of 33 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars One of the tribe..., November 1, 2006
Here is the Book that so many women that I meet and that long for a sex life that works for them must read. Gina Ogden, conducted a survey with close to 4000 women on aspects of sexuality, spirituality and their meeting place. In addition to insightful and fascinating quotes from many of these women, the book explores in depth the emotional, mental and spiritual connections that mean the most in our sexuality.

One idea that seemed to answer a question that comes up continuously in my conversations about the question of desire is that when feelings of anger and fear are repressed, desire goes right along with it. It is not hard to see the connection and yet I never really understood so clearly how our repressed feelings cut us off from all our feelings. She quotes "you can't heal, what you can't feel."
And it seems that all the places we block, keep us from ourselves.

Particularly refreshing is a new formulation which the author terms ISIS - Integrating Sexuality and Spirituality which shifts the focus from classic definitions of healthy sexuality which is dominated by physical performance and ability to orgasm with specific stimulation to a newly and woman defined space of pleasure and satisfaction derived from a whole experience. In this process she explore a variety of energetic sexual models as well as tools for emotional and mental healing from sexual fears and abuses.

What I loved was the discussion about how our culture focuses and emphasizes the trauma of our sexuality and its lifelong events, but still offers little or no language to allow for the pleasure of our sexuality which is a primary source of our power, beauty and sense of belonging. We largely cannot allow for the "mind-blowing, self-affirming, emotionally juicy, transformational sexual experience" although more and more women are witnessing the remarkable transformations in their sexual identities and their lives.

I am grateful that this resource is available and hope to soon offer it on my website. What a great gift to meet the tribe...
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30 of 30 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars An outstanding book -- for women OR men!, November 2, 2006
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As a sex therapist I often work with couples who want more from their sex lives but don't quite know how. Gina Ogden's outstanding, accessible new book is written for women, and with a tremendous understanding of women's sexual experience, but I think it's a great book for men, too.

Ogden expands our notion of sex far beyond the physical and into the emotional, mental, and spiritual domains. She does this with candor, humor, compassion and imagination. She frames sex within a much broader context than we usually understand it and gives women (and couples!) concrete strategies to move their sex lives into the realm of cosmic sex, a path to oneness with self, partner, and the Divine.

You don't have to be a religious person or even think of yourself as exceptionally "spiritual" to benefit from Ogden's expertise and heart in this book. It is truly a gift to the soul.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Finally someone has asked the women about the heart/soul of sex!, November 4, 2006
Dr. Gina Ogden moves the discussion of sex from a quantitative ordeal (how big, how many, since when?) to a qualitative discourse (how deeply felt, how connected, how passionate?) Or let's say that she uses quantity - 3,800 people, mostly women, answered her survey - to get to the quality of their experience as sexual creatures. There have been very few American sex surveys this large and few that concentrate on what Ogden coins the ISIS: the integration of sexuality and spirituality. In fact, the scope and focus of this in-depth enquiry into what women feel about sex challenges the very nature of classic American sex research, which prefers information it can simply count.

Much research into women's sexuality has focused in some physiological way on their dysfunction, often with the assumption that women lust after "it" less than men. In the cultural background are the messages that sex is dirty and so are the women who are gagging for it. In fact, Dr. Ogden's review of the previous scientific cannon on sexuality makes you welcome her counter-approach. For example, she sites the University of Chicago's 1994 survey in which 1,500 women were asked to own up to any of seven sexual problems and when 43% checked even one, they were characterized as "dysfunctional." The researchers might have concluded that there are gobs of awkward lovers out there, but instead the 43% figure of sexually "dysfunctional" women has become ubiquitous, even used in ads to sell "solutions."

In contrast, Ogden demonstrates that girls want to talk about sex not in terms of how many pulses there are in an orgasm or the length of our clit hoods, but in terms of where sex takes us and what that journey feels like. Ogden's survey has given thousands (33% more than the Hite Report) of women that opportunity.

Ogden believes that sexual feelings are with us from birth to death, and wins my agreement in associating dance as strongly to sex as orgasm or penetration. It takes me back to the days when slow dancing was the most reliable foreplay a girl could use on a femme. "The Heart & Soul of Sex" addresses the need of women to take control of their own sexuality through the sex-positive message that all of us have the right to intimacy and pleasure. The book then provides tools (the ISIS Connection) and self-help material to use in connecting spiritual and sexual sensibilities.

WHO TOOK THE SURVEY?
I couldn't help but turn directly to the end to check out the survey data. Ages start at 18 and reach 86 and 82% of those surveyed identify as female. They are mostly well-educated and work in business or the professions, with only 5% calling themselves homemakers. With 86% checking Caucasian and only 8% African-American, Native-American or Hispanic (and an additional 5% Multiethnic), people of color seem somewhat under-represented. But sexuality better reflects the population as a whole with heterosexual respondents at 80% and 12% identifying as bi, gay or lesbian. Only eleven transgendered people took the survey, Ogden told me.

Ogden made a particular effort to include people likely to have opposing views, including, she reports, "Catholic clergy and pro-choice activists, male sex offenders and female abuse survivors, fundamentalist Christians and lesbian women." Her survey was eventually distributed by two national magazines, New Age and New Woman, and she appeared on Oprah in May, 2000 to talk about early stages of the research.

WHAT DOES THE SURVEY COVER AND WHAT ARE THE RESULTS?
Ogden explores the connection between spirituality and sexuality and finds that 69% always or sometimes feel that really satisfying sex needs to have a spiritual element. The vast majority connect that spiritual sense to being in love or feeling committed. This would come as no surprise to lesbians, perhaps, who as two women often have a double-dose of the love-huggies. The survey shows a good deal of overlap between the respondents who felt sexuality involves "excitement" (97%) and "oneness with partner" (94%) and the 91% and 85% respectively who felt the same thing about spirituality. I was surprised that a full 15% (the largest number) said drinking or drugs contributed least to spiritual sex. So much for the 1960s!

Dr. Ogden points out that this has been a self-selecting survey: women who identify as spiritual are likely to have been receptive. Still, it is interesting that 84% of those surveyed said they had "experienced sexual ecstasy" and a bit surprising to my cynical mind that a full 70% felt the same about "spiritual ecstasy." But the final (44th) question of the survey is revealing indeed. How important are these three things to your present life, it asks: Sexuality (84%), Spirituality (91%) and Religion (34%). Clearly Ogden is on to something: women want it, but they want it heart and soul.
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5.0 out of 5 stars Sexuality and Spirituality - for Women AND Men
In 1997 Gina Ogden, a sex therapist and sexologist, created a survey of women's attitudes and feelings about their sexuality entitled "Integrating Sexuality and Spirituality"... Read more
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5.0 out of 5 stars A True Sharing
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This book changed the way I think about sex. It offers a new framework to think about sex--less linear and more complex. It has helped me break down some walls I have put up. Read more
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Gina Ogden is a compassionate and sincere woman who writes from her heart and experience as a woman and a psychologist who specializes in this arena. Read more
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I am a sex therapist and researcher. Many clients have never experienced the kinds of sexual experiences described by participants in the study presented in this book. Read more
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2.0 out of 5 stars The writing wasn't my style
I ordered this book because i was signed up to attend the author' s workshop. I am a voracious reader but this book just didn't grab me. Perhaps it was the chatty tone. Read more
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