For Couples Only: Eyeopening Insights about How the Opposite Sex Thinks (Hardcover)

~ Shaunti Feldhahn (Author), (Author)

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Product Description

In 2004, For Women Only burst onto the scene to rave reviews from women who were thrilled to finally discover the truth of what men are really thinking about. Two years later, For Men Only provided an eye-opening counterpoint, with straightforward revelations for men about the seemingly mysterious ways of the opposite sex.

Since their debut, these fascinating guides to the inner lives of men and women have become perennial bestsellers, selling over 1 million copies. Now the two books are available as a boxed set, the perfect resource to get couples talking together about what they really want and need from each other.

Each book is based on a nationwide survey and more than 1,000 personal interviews. This innovative approach yields candid and surprising answers about the things each gender doesn’t “get” about the other, along with practical ideas for how best to love and support the people they care about.

Ideal for small-group discussions, marriage and premarital counseling, or simply helping a couple grow in intimacy, this boxed set provides fresh and relevant tools for building better relationships.

About the Author

Shaunti Feldhahn is a popular public speaker, best-selling author, and nationally-syndicated newspaper columnist. Jeff Feldhahn is an attorney and the CEO of the tech company World2One. Jeff and Shaunti each hold graduate degrees from Harvard University, and apply their analytical skills to helping figure out what makes people tick. They are active leaders in their Atlanta-area church and the parents of two children.

Product Details

• Hardcover
• Publisher: Multnomah Books (January 13, 2009)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1601422482
• ISBN-13: 978-1601422484
• Product Dimensions: 7.6 x 5.2 x 1.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 1.4 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.6 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (14 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #14,530 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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7 of 7 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A Wonderfully Enlightening Resource, February 21, 2009

By	Stacey (Las Vegas, NV USA) - See all my reviews (TOP 1000 REVIEWER)

"For Couples Only" by Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn is a two-book set containing their titles "For Women Only" and "For Men Only". These comprehensive guides de-mystify the opposite sex. They are incredibly valuable resources that encourage you to learn about your mate (and maybe even yourself). Packed with insightful information detailing the differences between men and women, these books can be used to spark conversation with your significant other. In this set, there is even a conversation guide included. "For Couples Only" is truly a wonderful asset to possess if you want to build your relationship.

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars For Couples Only - Insightful for both Men and Women!, September 10, 2009

By	W. Barker ""http://wendisbookcorner.blogs... (Seattle, WA) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

Perfect for : Personal Use, For couples, for newly-weds, for engaged couples, for church bible-study class, engagement gift, wedding gift

In a nutshell: For Couples Only is actually a set of books: For Women Only and For Men Only, which have been designed to help you understand your partner better. The books were written and based on input that was gathered by the authors from over 1000 surveys (each). We tend to make assumptions, and sometimes what we believe is actually far from reality. These two books are meant to be read by each partner, and are written in an easy-to-read format with great insight throughout. I was simply amazed at some of the survey results - many of the answers were the opposite of what I would have thought, which has led me to have a better understanding of why my husband and I understand the same comment two different ways sometimes. I've been able to learn a lot more about my husband by reading For Women Only. Read this book and find out what you didn't know about your other half - you might be surprised!

Extended Review: One key note I learned by reading the front of For Men Only (Yes - I peeked!) is that Shaunti took the time to write women a quick note inside the men's book, and it basically shares that we process the information we are learning in different ways, and while many women will learn something and then talk to their spouse about it as a way to better-understand what they are reading, men do the opposite - they like to think about what they are reading until they understand it, and THEN they will talk about it. Knowing that made reading and discussing the book easier for me, because I didn't take my husband's quietness as non-interest.

Content: The books come in a nice case that includes a Couples Conversation Starter

Format: The information they are sharing is straight and to the point, with examples and graphs that show the survey results. The authors take the time to explain why the topic is important and how it affects our significant other.

Readability: Very easy to read and understand. Each topic/chapter is easy a quick and easy read, although I did find myself re-reading certain chapters for my own benefit.

Overall: I think these books are wonderful for anyone in a relationship. There is so much we don't understand (even if we think we do) about the opposite sex. Pick up a set for yourself, and don't be afraid to give a set to a new couple, or one who has been together for quite a while! Everyone can benefit from these books.

2 of 2 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars what do they really think...?, February 13, 2009

By	Jeffrey Borden "Pastor" (Western, NY) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

Several months ago I had the opportunity to review the book For Young Men Only (see here). These volumes are the "adult" versions of that small book. I think, as adults, we often assume we have ourselves figured out. Sometimes these assumptions extend to our opposite gender counterparts and our spouses. Popular culture indicates a more realistic approach to this way of thinking is that we don't really know as much as we think or would like to know. We are inundated with polls, surveys, and misdirection from the media and marketing at every turn. The end result of this sensory onslaught perpetuated by our consumer driven society is false perceptions and in many cases, just wrong data. What comes from these false perceptions and erroneous data is wrong responses and reactionary behavior. What if we had unbiased information? What if we really knew what the opposite sex thought instead of what society and marketing firms tell us?

While the information provided in the pages of For Men Only and For Women Only is only a microcosm of our society at large, I think it reveals a different perspective than what we are used to. I think the surveys are helpful in breaking us free from false ideologies about our opposite sex. The first steps toward healing and understanding is accurate information. For an eye-opening look at what our "opposites" are thinking, be sure to check out these offerings from the Feldhahns. You might be surprised at the conversation starters you'll find in these books.