A bitter pill. No doubt this is all good advice--the authors are therapists and boy, does it show. Problem is, if you could do all the things they suggest you wouldn't need a book. Shy? Solution: Don't be. Not assertive or overly assertive? Solution: Don't be. And so it goes.

I can't imagine anyone who doesn't make some of the mistakes the authors describe--nor can I imagine anyone who could correct these just by reading this book. (I'm not even convinced years of therapy would necessarily work but I digress).

To be fair, the authors pretty much say that you're gonna have to have a lot of dates, its likely to be a long process. One thanks her family and friends for "helping me maintain my sanity through all those years of dating". Sounds like fun, doesn't it?

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5.0 out of 5 stars Relevant to more than dating, May 29, 2000

By	Kharmic Tide Pool (Chicago, IL) - See all my reviews

This book shows the reader how to be a better significant other by focusing on improving themselves. While that is the main focus of the book the rules applied to dating by Gruzen and Sperber are also very applicable to all relationships that people are in, friendships, roommates, etc. Humerous but poignant examples show the reader what he or she might be doing wrong, and often what he or she is doing right!

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3.0 out of 5 stars Relationships "Lite", July 27, 1999

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This book has everything you need to cure your dating dilemas, but the information is presented in such an "in your face" style that it may offend some dater's delicate sensibilities. Yeah, I'm flawed, but I don't need the good doctors to hit me over the head with it. Break it to me gently. Some of this stuff may be a revelation to the truly dating impaired, and we need a little more coaching to make it our own. Don't get me wrong, this quick reading book covers every dating mistake you are likely to make (many more than the 10 in the title), and gives you suggestions for improvement. However, if you would like to have the subject covered with more sensitivity, try reading John Gray's Mars and Venus on a Date, or Barbara DeAngelis' Are You the One For Me?

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