Dating After 50: Negotiating the Minefields of Mid-Life Romance (The Best Half of Life) (Paperback)

by Sharon Romm MD (Author) "GREAT! YOU'VE DECIDED YOU DON'T WANT TO BE ALONE..." (more)
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Dating seems scary, especially if you haven't dated in a long time, but it can be manageable and even fun if you remember to go at your own pace and stay in your comfort zone. Think of it as similar to a job search in which you are looking for a good fit between your interests and requirements and the needs of your potential companion.

In Dating After 50, you'll learn the safest and most efficient way to find dates, but the story doesn't end once you've planned a second date. You'll get help negotiating the early months of your relationship. You'll find out what's reasonable to tolerate and how to set limits

Expect sound advice on managing second families, jealousy, former spouses, rejection, money, benefits, retirement and a host of other issues common to later-life relationships. Learn when you should consider ending a relationship and how to do it with dignity and a minimum of distress.

Looking for Love? Companionship? This book is for you if you: • Have a history of unsuccessful dating and worry that time is running out. • Are recovering from the loss of a long-term relationship and want to find a new partner. • Equate getting older with being less desirable and wonder if you are still attractive. • Enjoy sex and want to continue to enjoy it after 50. • Worry that because of your age you will have to settle for a relationship with someone who is not physically attractive to you. • Are concerned that as your age shrinks, so does your options for meeting potential mates. • Want to help a lonely friend or relative find love.

Learn: • The quickest, safest and most efficient way to find people worth dating. • How to arrange and survive the first meeting. • The pleasures and problems of sex. • How to set limits. • Breaking up with style. • Knowing when to call for help and where to find it. Author Bio: Psychiatrist and author Sharon Romm, M.D. is a nationally-known therapist specializing in the matters of the heart. She is breaking new ground in the psychotherapy of couples and older adults.

After earning an M.D. from Boston University, Dr. Romm specialized as a plastic surgeon, practicing at Georgetown University. She then decided to focus on other aspects of patients' need to feel better about themselves. She trained in psychiatry at Harvard and now is on the faculty of the University of Washington. Over her career, Dr. Romm has received numerous awards for teaching and medical practice.

Dr. Romm is the former editor of Medical Heritage, author of The Changing Face of Beauty (Mosby, 1991), and The Unwelcome Intruder: Freud's Struggle with Cancer (Praeger, 1983).

She has also contributed a dozen chapters to books and edited six collaborative books, and published over 100 articles in professional journals and popular press, including Vogue and The Washington Post.

Dr. Romm brings years of experience helping people create successful relationships, teaching and leading groups, and showing compassion for the loneliness of others. She believes in her subject: Being over 50 means you are starting the best part of life, and with the right advice, everyone can find love and satisfaction.

About the Author
Psychiatrist and author Sharon Romm, M.D. is a nationally-known therapist specializing in the matters of the heart. She is breaking new ground in the psychotherapy of couples and older adults. After earning an M.D. from Boston University, Dr. Romm specialized as a plastic surgeon, practicing at Georgetown University. She then decided to focus on other aspects of patients' need to feel better about themselves. She trained in psychiatry at Harvard and now is on the faculty of the University of Washington. Over her career, Dr. Romm has received numerous awards for teaching and medical practice. Dr. Romm is the former editor of Medical Heritage, author of The Changing Face of Beauty (Mosby, 1991), and The Unwelcome Intruder: Freud's Struggle with Cancer (Praeger, 1983). She has also contributed a dozen chapters to books and edited six collaborative books, and published over 100 articles in professional journals and popular press, including Vogue and The Washington Post. Dr. Romm brings years of experience helping people create successful relationships, teaching and leading groups, and showing compassion for the loneliness of others. She believes in her subject: Being over 50 means you are starting the best part of life, and with the right advice, everyone can find love and satisfaction.

Product Details

• Paperback: 228 pages
• Publisher: Linden Publishing (October 1, 2004)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1884956394
• ISBN-13: 978-1884956393
• Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 5.9 x 0.7 inches
• Shipping Weight: 14.4 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.9 out of 5 stars See all reviews (7 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #55,766 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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10 of 10 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars The dating is in the details, July 22, 2005

By	[e-mail] (St Peterburg, FL) - See all my reviews

You're a smart, accomplished, mature adult with a lot to offer. You're professionally competent and confident. But does the idea of launching a romantic voyage of discovery just feel too overwhelming, confusing and potentially embarrassing? If so, read this book for an even-handed exploration of the modern possibilities for meeting new partners and friends. It's hard for sophisticated adults to subject themselves to the uncertainties of looking for love and Ms Romm uses matter-of-fact examples and her own experience to lower the anxiety threshold and explore the options, step-by-step. Most current dating books focus on the internet as the most efficient way to connect with appropriate new partners and this one does, too. The author details her own experiences and provides lots of practical advice from how to word your descriptions, to where and how to meet, topics to steer clear of, red flags, guidelines and positive reinforcement. And she even gives you some help with how to kindly phrase and deliver a graceful exit speech too, which let's face it you're going to have to manage at some point unless you marry the first person you meet.

12 of 15 people found the following review helpful:

1.0 out of 5 stars Was She Rollerblading When She WroteThis?, November 25, 2004

By	Grace Thompson (Upper Arlington, OH USA) - See all my reviews

Dr. Romm's monograph constitutes nothing more than just a conglomeration of banal rantings that have been, in all probability, dictated while she engaged in some mind-numbing activity. It is highly reiterative of "Guerrilla Dating" published in the early 90's. It is sad that her vulgar self-marketing campaign, e.g. salsa dancing, personal ads, constitutes a list of frenetic activities designed for those who cannot make any meaningful personal connections in their quotidian lives. Instead, it is proposed they go to activities, not for intrinsic interest, but as a means of luring a catch. The most tragic suggestion is Dr. Romm's proposal of a dehumanizing tickler file specifying such parameters as the name of date, general impression, and future contact. Along these lines, she should have incorporated results of relevant blood titers or annual income. It is of question that if she were so successful in her dating strategy, why does she still "appreciate" her intermittently silent Nordic partner. Excuse me, but where is the mention of love and meaningful joining of spirits? Do not waste your money on this silly pap.

9 of 11 people found the following review helpful:

2.0 out of 5 stars I sure do wish this was a better book!, December 8, 2004

By	Kathryn Lord "Your Romance Coach" (Tallahassee, FL United States) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

Since many of my clients are indeed over 50, I had high hopes for Sharon Romm's *Dating After 50: Negotiating the Minefields of Midlife Romance* Unfortunately, I was disappointed. Despite the author's professional background (psychiatry) and personal dating experience (an active date search with 751 responses before meeting her now-boyfriend), I found her suggestions tedious, simplistic, and depressing. Her orientation towards the reader's search is so cautious and wary that I even felt a little frightened. Maybe that's where the *minefields* of the title came from. Granted, mate searching at any age has it's difficulties, but finding a Sweetheart doesn't have to be as hard as the author alludes. Believe it or not, she ends the book with a chapter entitled *Breaking Up*! While certainly when and how to break off a romantic relationship are important skills, to end a book on dating with a how-to for break-ups is a horrid message. Unfortunately, I cannot recommend this book.

Kathryn Lord, Your Romance Coach
www.Find-a-Sweetheart.com