A Couple of Friends: The Remarkable Friendship Between Straight Women and Gay Men (Paperback)

by Robert Hopcke (Author), Laura Rafaty (Author)

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Product Description
In an era when men and women are supposed to be from "different planets" and unable to communicate, many gay men and straight women seem able to connect almost effortlessly. Perhaps it is because this is not a relationship of convenience or forced by societal pressure, but a friendship based on common interests, mutual respect, and real affection.

Whether they are commiserating about love lives or getting the insider's perspective on what men or women really think, gay men and straight women often turn to one another for the real scoop. And they can count on each other to say, "you look fabulous," "thinner," or "younger" - whichever is needed. Best-selling author and psychotherapist Robert Hopcke and Tony-nominated producer Laura Rafaty combine poignant stories, psychological insight, and commentary to explore this common but often ignored bond.

Product Details

• Paperback: 260 pages
• Publisher: Wildcat Canyon Pr (September 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1885171331
• ISBN-13: 978-1885171337
• Product Dimensions: 8 x 5 x 1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 11.2 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.3 out of 5 stars See all reviews (7 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #598,918 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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17 of 17 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars I found this book truthful and very reassuring., October 5, 1999

By	Tripper - See all my reviews

I was very grateful to find a book like this. Having found my very best friend in my late thirties to be a gay man, I knew that this relationship was different than any other close relationship I had ever had. I knew there were a whole new set of rules and I was looking for reference materials to review. This book was just what I was looking for. I found reassurance that what I was feeling was normal. When I told him I felt closer to him than my husband and he told me he loved me more than his mother... I was thrilled to know we were not alone. If you are in this type of special relationship be sure to read this book. The stories and help on how to cope with specific issues are priceless. It will give you a reason for weeks of conversation, but then, that's not hard to do.

8 of 9 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Any true thing between two people is too normal to accept, May 22, 2004

By A Customer

I found this book to be healing. I was struggling with the feelings and love I had for this man I met that I knew was "Gay.
From the moment we met we "just clicked" and the friendship grew . We became so close in such a short period of time.
I knew I had met my "soul mate " in him and he felt the same way towards me. But a sexual undercurrent devopled which was ruining our friendship. I could not help the emotions and love I felt for this man and he was struggling with these issues himself . I tried to talk to him but it only pushed him furthur away. Neither one of us could understand why we felt so close to the other and why we felt such love. It almost ruined our 'special friendship. Reading this book explained it all. It was as if it was written for us. The understanding and healing words in this book saved our friendship and now we can share our lives,our emotions and our support and unconditional love for one another and know that it is normal to have these deep feeling for one another
thank you for writing and publishing this book

10 of 13 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars It's about time, February 26, 2000

By	Beverly01 (USA) - See all my reviews

It's about time.

Finally someone has addressed this subject which has bothered many straight women I have spoken to for years. What is it that attracts straight women to gay men? As the book points out, we get to know the femine side of men, which they all have, but straight men won't always show. I think the authors told the story with good taste and assured us that we are enjoying a "normal" relationship with our gay friends. Brova & Brovo to them for addressing this sensitive subject.