Still A Dad: The Divorced Father's Journey (Paperback)

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"Still a Dad validates the pain, rage and powerlessness often experienced by divorced fathers. However, it also provides hope for a brighter future." -- Mary Giuffra, Ph.D., Certified Couples and Family and Core Energetics Therapist

"Still a Dad offers a fresh perspective and hope for all those loving fathers who have been shut out of their children's lives." -- Paul T. Finger, M.D., F.A.C.S., Founder, Coalition to Save Our Children

"From the wounded heart of a father who always longed to parent his children into the mystery of personal life comes a passionate essay. Serge Prengel speaks for the countless fathers unseen by the cold letter of the law and for the children deprived of the strong warmth of a dad. A must-read for all the actors on the stage called divorce." -- Marcel A. Duclos, Professor of Psychology, Jungian Psychotherapist

"I enjoyed reading Still a Dad. It is a well-written journey of a divorced father, written poignantly and personally, yet factually and honestly." -- Warren Farrell, Ph.D., Author, Why Men Are The Way They

"Poignant and wise, Still a Dad outlines both a personal odyssey and a hopeful road for those who will experience divorce and a search for parental identity. Mr. Prengel has made constructive suggestions to give children what they need post-divorce." -- Kim Boedecker-Frey, CSW

Still A Dad has received enthusiastic pre-publication reviews and endorsements: -- Multiple Reviewers

Still A Dad places the reader inside the experience... allowing us to form the insight necessary to show compassion, to find strength during periods of despair and to focus on ways we all can help." -- Travis Ballard, Esquire, Past President, National Congress for Fathers and Children

Product Description

A deeply-felt, well thought-out guide for separated and divorced fathers. It provides a look inside the heart and mind of a typical divorced father, during and after his divorce. The narrative is interwoven with psychological and social perspective. It includes stories of actual divorced dads.The book provides a message of hope as well as practical advice.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 220 pages
• Publisher: Mission Creative Energy (February 28, 1999)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1892482002
• ISBN-13: 978-1892482006
• Product Dimensions: 8.5 x 5.5 x 0.6 inches
• Shipping Weight: 9.8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 3.7 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (12 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #1,418,928 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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11 of 12 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars This is THE book to get ., May 2, 2000

By	Susan Wilkins-Hubley (Nova Scotia Canada) - See all my reviews

If you want to get into your husbands heart and headregardinghis feelings and thoughts as a Divorced Dad, this is THE bookto get. (I personally got a lot out of this book)

As second wivesand many times custodial mothers we have encountered difficulty relating to our husbands anger and frustration as a divorced dad. As a second wife to a divorced non-custodial father, I believe this book is invaluable to not only divorced dads, but to second wives trying to understand.

11 of 12 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A book not only for fathers but also for mothers in divorce., February 25, 1999

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Members of the Children's Rights Council already know Serge Prengel as an author: in 1996/1997 his series "Twelve Steps for Divorced Fathers" was published in this newsletter -before it came out in book form as Twelve Steps for the Divorced Dad a few months ago (New York: Mission Creative Energy, 186 pp., paper, $13.95). Now Prengel, who last December retired as president of CRC's NYC chapter after serving for more than five years, has published a new book, which hit the bookstores in February: Still a Dad: The Divorced Father's Journey (New York: Mission Creative Energy, xvi + 224 pp., paper, $13.95; ISBN: 1-892482-00-2). Contrary to many other books about divorce, Still a Dad is not a work borne of anger, resentment, and quick judgments arrived at after very painful lessons. Rather, it focuses on the healing process that must take place if the disenfranchised divorcé wants to be what he is called upon to be: a good dad. Serge knows the anger battered fathers experience when their ex-wives and judges treat them as mere sperm and money banks, the agony of losing daily contact with one's children, and the bitterness at being demeaned and exploited. But he also manages to see the horrible situation in our hostile matrimonial courts from the ex-wife's point of view. Serge makes us feel her fear, her conflicts, and her sense of the danger of being deprived of a sense of identity and power. And so Still a Dad has a powerful conciliatory effect: it teaches us to accept what has to be accepted if we want to be the best fathers we can be to our children, no matter how adverse circumstances are or even how impossible they seem to make true parenthood. At the same time it enables us to listen to our adversaries-which is the first step to the dialog that is necessary for our children's well-being, as well as our own. For this reason I hope that Still a Dad will find as many women among its readers as it finds men. Without the truce, or ideally even peace, this book propagates, our internal conflicts will not be resolved until they have transferred to our children and damaged them for life.

Review by Thomas Thornton in New York City Children's Rights Council, Newsletter Vol. VII No. 3 (March 1999)

7 of 8 people found the following review helpful:

1.0 out of 5 stars Still a Dad, But, June 14, 2002

By	Randy D. Shillingburg "Long-time fan from WV" (Elkview, WV United States) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

I ordered "Still a Dad" while going through a divorce, thinking that it would help me learn ways of becoming a better father. This book essentially advises all fathers to just give in to the biases of society and the court system -- biases which essentially turn fathers into visitors. Rather than fighting for shared custody, which is in the best interests of children, this book suggests that fathers should acquiesce to the discriminatory attitudes that keep fathers away from their children.

For fathers who truly love their children, I would recommend "The Father's Emergency Guide to Divorce," which provides practical advice, as opposed to the advice provided in "Still a Dad," a book that from all indications was written by a feminist who wants to perpetuate the discriminatory attitudes of society and courts.

For fathers who are satisfied with the "status quo" of having custody of their children every other weekend, this book is an affirmation of their decision to become part-time parents. But to the father who wants to continue being an active, involved part of his children's lives, this book is good bathroom material -- if you don't have toilet paper.