The Healing Power of Anger: The Unexpected Path to Love and Fulfillment (Paperback)

by John, R. Rifkin (Author)
Key Phrases: anger spectrum, dysfunctional anger, dysfunctional use, Bad Parent, Hurt Child, Good Parent (more...)

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INCLUDES THE 3-STEP STOP, DROP, AND ROLL PLAN TO "UNBEND" ANGER

Conventional wisdom views anger as red-hot yelling and screaming, a force to be feared and repressed. But psychotherapist John Rifkin views anger in a revolutionary way — as the natural energy created to heal one’s emotional injuries. In The Healing Power of Anger, Rifkin explains how to identify dysfunctional uses of anger so that readers can "unbend" it and become empowered and self-nurturing. To do so, he explains his Stop, Drop, and Roll system, which he’s used with clients for more than 20 years. In addition, Rifkin explores the childhood roots of anger, the spectrum of angry behavior, how anger can be a gift to a relationship, and ice-cold passive-aggressive anger. He also discusses anger’s links to addictions, anxiety, mood disorders, and difficulties with emotional intimacy. Readers will come away with new insights into their emotions and behavior and new skills for using their anger in a healthy, functional manner.

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"Dr. Rifkin has crafted a profound yet easy-to-understand roadmap of the key emotions that drive our lives. The book is a ‘must-read’ for people trapped in the whirlpool of anger, sadness, or fear. The take-home value is immediate." - Jim Warner, author of Aspirations of Greatness: Mapping the Midlife Leader’s Reconnection to Self and Soul

"John Rifkin, a gifted psychotherapist, tells us how we can lead happier lives not by stifling our anger but rather by using it constructively. In his straightforward, down-to-earth style, he shares with us easy-to-learn techniques for achieving greater emotional well-being." - Evelyn Bassoff, Ph.D., author of Mothers and Daughters: Loving and Letting Go

"This excellent book is full of pearls and good advice for people with common psychological problems. Dr. Rifkin’s extensive experience and wisdom shine through these pages." - Steven L. Dubovsky, M.D., professor and chair, Department of Psychiatry, University at Buffalo

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Product Details

• Paperback: 204 pages
• Publisher: Paraview Special Editions; Special edition (November 1, 2004)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 1931044821
• ISBN-13: 978-1931044820
• Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 5.9 x 0.5 inches
• Shipping Weight: 9.6 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)
• Average Customer Review: 4.7 out of 5 stars See all reviews (32 customer reviews)
• Amazon.com Sales Rank: #783,715 in Books (See Bestsellers in Books)

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6 of 6 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars A Pathway to Emotional Health, February 22, 2006

By	Rebecca Johnson "SeasonedwithLove.com" (Washington State) - See all my reviews (TOP 10 REVIEWER)    (REAL NAME)    (COMMUNITY FORUM 04)

"Most people associate anger with loud, scary, and bitter explosions. But I define anger as the natural healing energy that the body generates in response to an injury. This energy is meant to address or tend to the injury." ~John Rifkin

When I think of anger, two things come to mind. Being emotionally abused by someone who is angry and being angry enough to change the situation. In many cases, my own anger in return just makes situations worse, especially when maintaining the relationship and allowing the angry person to repeat the abuse.

Without peaceful consistency, I experience conflict and disorder as if what is occurring inside is represented on the outside in my environment. Leading a well-organized life where everyone is pleasant and kind seems a dream. That is why the title of this book is slightly more than intriguing. Normally one assumes that the path to peace is love and understanding. Anger lashes out and is hardly an appealing cozy hug.

John Rifkin sees anger as a path to a more fulfilled life. He explores the reasons we "develop holes in our heart" and then gives practical ways we can deal with our thoughts, feelings and behaviors. He delves into the emotional damage you may have experienced while a child and examines anxiety (PTSD), mood disorders, depression, bipolar disorder and ways we misuse our anger. Chapter Seven contains helpful information about resolving conflict in relationships and how to improve communication skills.

Is anger a wake up call? Could you be anxious and angry because you have made choices that are harming you? Does anger help you to break out of complacency and change your life? What are the seven categories of emotional damage from childhood? Category six started to sound very familiar.

John Rifkin discusses anger on the entire scale of expression, from angry red anger to passive-aggressive anger. He also explains why Emotional Intimacy is one of the most difficult things to accomplish. I liked his ideas about identifying low self-esteem and why anger often takes the form of self-destructive behaviors. He explains why individuals can seem to be emotionally unaware and why people who are depressed often find themselves in a downward spiral. Is there hope and what can be done about depression and anger?

"Anger plays a central role in major depression and in all depressive behavior. Therapists define depression as anger turned against the self, combined with a sense of hopelessness or helplessness." ~Chapter 5

If you are interested in anger and want to understand why you react or the basis for the reaction, then this is an excellent place to start. This book is very much about learning to communicate effectively so you can use milder feelings of anger to solve the problems in your life. John Rifkin has truly written a book to help us understand anger from a variety of perspectives. I actually started reading this book when I was quite angry and by the time I finished, I felt like finally someone understood! Highly recommended to anyone experiencing anger, conflict in relationships or a general feeling of frustration, anxiety or even deep depression. If you think you may be bipolar or know someone who experiences wide mood swings, this book can help you understand bipolar disorder.

This book would also be an excellent resource for social workers, psychologists and counselors. Throughout this book there are numerous case studies. The Healing Power of Anger addresses all the shades of anger and how it can lead to depression, addictions and on the flip side, could help you overcome both.

~The Rebecca Review

6 of 6 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars groundbreaking, February 7, 2005

By	Kayla Powell (Pittsburgh, PA) - See all my reviews

On its way to the bestsellers list. This is the most insightful, intelligent, and practical analysis of anger I have ever come across. John Rifkin is onto something. His Stop, Drop, and Roll technique will change your life. A must-read if you suffer from anxiety or depression. Beautifully written, well paced, logically organized, helpful metaphors, an easy read. Perhaps the only advice on anger to date that is of any use to anyone who seeks real and lasting change in their relationships.

6 of 6 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars The Healing Power of Anger, November 6, 2004

By	Trish - See all my reviews

A Boulder psychotherapist with 29 years of experience, John Rifkin's book, "The Healing Power of Anger" is one of immeasurable value. The premise of the book, that anger contains energy that can be used to empower you and fix what's hurting you, is brilliant! He weaves real life case examples throughout the book to illustrate the practical application of this concept. You won't regret reading this book - it will challenge your previous assumptions and could change your life.