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8 of 8 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
WONDERFUL & REAL, April 20, 2000
While watching this movie, my emotions were running crazy. I was sad, mad, happy, etc. I have worked with people who were mentally retarded. I was deeply touched by this movie.I liked how the producers made the movie, the entire family has some type of problem. The father used to drink (heavy), the mother is obessed with trying to have a "picture-perfect-Kodak-moment family", one daughter is gay, etc. The movie shows that even with money there are problems. I felt the movie could have went deeper in terms of showing how hateful people can be toward people with mental retardation. I mean a little more should/would have happened to Danny in real life at a public school, than just having gum in his helmet. Also, while I liked the characters, I would have liked to see Danny & Carla, with more facial features that the public (non-mental health professionals) associate with mental retardation, such as a "Down's Syndrome" type of look. Danny might have dressed differently, since his income was different than Carla's. Danny's "drinking" problem was never "handled", I assume it just got better? This was unrealistic, since Danny says "I like to drink". It would have been nice for Danny to go to some type of treatment program and "pass" it, showing that he could pass "something" (since he failed most of his attempts to do anything else) and it would show that Danny is trying to be a man of good character. (This part could have been left out totally). The wedding of Carla and Danny was the best part of the show, I cried. It was so nice to see two people who love each other get married and be determined to fight the odds. Actually this is what "marriage" was/is supposed to be about anyway. Diane Keaton gives a wonderful performance. While Ms. Keaton may appear to be "mean". She is actually concerned and scared for her daughter. Letting go is always tough, she has one daughter that is getting married, one daughter that is gay (and she is dealing with the issues of that) and one daughter that has mental retardation. Ms. Keaton's character has a lot on her plate to deal with, not to mention the relationship with her husband and all the pressures of being "well-to-do". Ms. Keaton plays a type of person the general public (non-mental health professionals) can relate to. But there is a change in Ms. Keaton's character and she does "turn-the-other-cheek" if you will. She begins to see (what others need to see), that her daughter, Carla, despite mental retardation is a PERSON, and is capable of making her own decisions (or at least most of them) and leading a normal life, including marriage (which is what almost every mother wants for her daughter). The father was a little too passive for me. I could tell he loves Carla, but I think it would have been more interesting if more conflict were shown between him and Ms. Keaton (one of my favorite actors). The two sisters were wonderful with Carla. The conflicts between the sisters were with their mother. It is interesting all three sisters had problems with their mother in some way or another, this also makes Carla more of a central player---------she is not a problem----her mother is a problem to almost everyone in the house at some time or other. Everyone overlooked the housekeeper, Winnie. Who is very supportive of Carla and who Carla shows more affection and attention to when she arrives home from school the first time. Winnie is very patient. The "food pack" Winnie sends home with Carla to share with Danny is very nice. But another question, why wasn't Danny invited to the family dinner? It was impressive how Danny and Carla planned their wedding and paid for it with their own funds. Another minor problem, I was surprised not to see Danny's father at the wedding? However, I do remember that Danny's father hung up during a telephone conversation with Danny. I would have also liked to have seen Danny "struggle" more. Let the public or general viewer see what is like to be mentally retarded and try to get a job or find a new house/apartment. It was a little unrealistic for Danny to travel back to see Carla from his train ride by dangerously hitchhiking back. I was really concerned for this safety. All and all I felt this movie was wonderful. Diane Keaton is wonderful, as are all of the other members of this wonderful cast. Ms. Keaton's expressions and behaviors are similar to someone who has not been around mentally retarded persons. Wonderful. I would recommend it highly. I would also recommend it to professionals that work in the mental health field, it's a must-have.
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