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10 of 11 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Book saved our family, December 1, 2000
Date: Fri, 1 Dec 2000 From:BaxBell81@aol.com To: DrDriving@aloha.net Subject: Thank you for your Book Dear Dr. James-I had to write and tell you how incredible your book is. After having written to you about a month ago and getting your supportive and helpful replies, I ordered your book through Amzon com. I found it extremely useful and chock full of practical suggestions. It has not only helped me as a spouse of rageful driving husband, but he agreed to read it!! His agreement followed your recommendation of asking all the family members to write him a letter of what his problem has cost us emotionally. My son of 26 choose to tell him directly rather than write, but the talk was also very effective. We are also utilizing your idea in contracting before riding together, and he is using the more of "the supportive" driver techniques (rather than being oppositional and so arrogant).( Progress not perfection!!) We both have a long road ahead of us- no pun intended- but your help was a phenonmenal series of tools to aide in ameliorating this life threatening problem. I have to add that I myself am a licensed psychologist in private practice in Ohio and I am now recommending your book in recurrent cases where wives (usually) complain of this concern. Again, my massive thanks for a fantastic and much needed book.- Marilyn - Ohio
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4 of 5 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Driving You Crazy, January 3, 2001
Road Rage is a winner! It will resonate with readers who have been threatened on the road, trapped in a car with an irrational driver, or who want to shake off learned habits of driver aggression. It gives us a peek at the distorted reasoning behind driver aggression, as well as larger implications for our auto-centered culture. It is a fascinating, accessible, and well-documented look at the rapid and sometimes bizarre evolution of our experience on the road.
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:
4.0 out of 5 stars
Road rage (or the caveman inside), November 7, 2007
The authors of this book are regarded as experts on the subject- they also set up a website on driving, which is widely cited by the media.
Overall, this book is well worth reading. It's divided into 3 parts: part I describes the problem of road rage and cites some horrific incidents; part II is a "self-help" manual for reducing driving stress and improving one's "emotional intelligence"; section III consists of misc. topics and is a bit dated since this book was published in 2000. Each chapter cites a variety of references and academic studies; however, because of this, the writing and organization are a bit jumbled.
I'm fascinated by road rage because it's amazing how people with no criminal background can commit extreme violence with so little provocation....driving literally taps into the cavemen inside us all. Basically, reducing road rage is about emphatizing with other drivers (letting other drivers into your lane which is what you'd want in their place; or slowing down when someone makes a right-turn, which is again what you'd want in their place). It's also about becoming less competitive- realizing how futile it is. The final step is to NOT respond with insane fury when someone provokes you without cause (like giving you the finger)....in "Mean Genes" (2000), I read that evolutionary psychologists believe we retaliate so instantly and without thinking because we evolved in small communities where it was important to maintain one's reputation because we would encounter the same people time and time again- in the case of driving today, the chances of encountering the same driver again are near-zero, so we should just let it go...easier said then done. (Also, there's a BIG difference between retaliating with a fist fight and while moving in a hunk of steel at 70mph!)
One thing the authors get wrong is when they insist road rage is learned behavior (esp due to parental influence) vs. biology. Well, in that case (for biblical fundamentalists), Adam and Eve must have been abusive parents- how else could the cycle of violence have begun?
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