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Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless & Hopeful (Paperback)

by Anthony Ravenscroft (Author)

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Tony Ravenscroft leaves behind the speculation, the guesswork, and the Utopianism that only confuse the discussion. Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless & Hopeful begins from the absolute basics of intimate relationships, and clearly lays out the pitfalls and problems that await everyone who embarks upon this difficult and highly rewarding way of life.

Polyamory (the book) is for everyone with any interest in the subject. Whether you’re merely curious, or already embroiled in a complex responsibly nonmonogamous life, you will find a greater understanding of what is going on. Even if you are happily married for the rest of your life, you will improve your relationships with the other people in your life.

Even a book this large can only hope to answer half your questions. Tony Ravenscroft does that, and shows you how to find your own answers for the rest.

About the Author
The author speaks from 20 years of experience and observation, replete with more mistakes than you ever want to make. He shares these tales with the wit and candor of a skilled storyteller. You will ponder, argue, laugh, and thank your lucky stars that you’ve been warned.

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Paperback: 294 pages
Publisher: Crossquarter Publishing Group (July 2004)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 1890109533
ISBN-13: 978-1890109530
Product Dimensions: 8.9 x 6 x 0.9 inches
Shipping Weight: 1.2 pounds (View shipping rates and policies)

Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars See all reviews (10 customer reviews)

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5.0 out of 5 stars Polyamory for the Real World, March 1, 2007

By	Viktoria Whittaker "valkyrie127" (Albany, NY United States) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

This is the best book available on polyamory, bar none. It is also the most intelligent and honest book about polyamory that is out there today.

Yes, the writing style is fairly complex and perhaps rambles a little. To that I feel I must ask, if you don't have the patience to handle this complicated a book, how can you handle the heavy-duty, complex and sometimes rambling discussions with lovers that are the meat and potatoes of polyamory? (And I can't help but wonder if the author, Tony Ravenscroft, had deliberately written it that way specifically for that reason.) In my opinion, if you must have Polyamory Lite, then you can't do polyamory. This is because it requires endless talking and negotiating with your partners as well as their partners. Imagine talking things out with your spouse, and now multiply all of this exponentially. Get the picture?

The author's motivations are fundamentally different from those of other authors of books about polyamory. His aim is not to convince you to go right out there and become poly because polyamory is so wonderful, it is to give you the most rational and realistic portrait of polyamory and polyamorous relating that is out there. And it is constantly asking you the questions, "Are you SURE that this is for you? Are you SURE this is what you want?" To my mind, this makes his book much, much more trustworthy than others.

What also particularly won me over is that this book spoke directly to my real-life experience of polyamory. Unlike many books on the subject, this one was very upfront about the fact that not every polyamorous person is a harmless sweetie-poo. Sometimes the "icky-squishy tree-huggers" are not the harmless hippies that they appear to be, but are in fact abusive manipulators (Just like real human beings! Wow, what a concept!). My own experience with polyamory was, in a word, horrible. In brief, I wound up surviving an abusive and manipulative polyamorous situation as my initial foray into polyamory. A learning experience, to be sure, but what always stuck out in my mind was that the perpetrators used the same, tired old lines on me about how wonderful polyamory is that you hear in many other poly books such as "The Ethical Slut" and "Polyamory: The New Love Without Limits". In short, I was left completely unprepared for the possibility that I might be used or abused by polyamorous people. Ravenscroft not only addresses that this sort of thing does happen in polyamory (early on in the book, too!), but also why you are not likely to be warned about it or about which people to avoid by members of the poly community. The community needs to address this and police itself better, or else more desirable, young bisexual women such as myself will get burned and perhaps even be lost to polyamory forever as I nearly was. But yet here I am, ever hopeful, in spite of it all. Thank Goddess I came across this wise and wonderful book and have been educated as to where I went wrong and how to avoid the pitfalls.

In a nutshell, if you have any interest in practicing polyamory, do not take the plunge until you have bought and read this book. I can't think of any other book that will prepare you anywhere near as well.

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5.0 out of 5 stars Definitely Thought-Provoking, August 4, 2006

By	C. A. Zakrzewski "sundart" (Amherst, MA USA) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

This is the best book on polyamory I've read so far, and it's the type I'll be happy to have in my collection for years to come so that I can re-read sections and lend it to friends and partners, and maybe excerpt relevant passages for relatives.

That said, you'll also have to be serious-minded to get through this book, since it's both long and dense. If you have a problem with listening to a strongly opinionated author with a wicked sense of humor, you might get turned off before you manage to plow through the whole thing. Personally, though, I found it to be excellent and thoughtful. And the bibliography is a great starting point for more exploration of this and related topics.

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5.0 out of 5 stars Say what?, August 23, 2007

By	Scuba_Grl (Tempe, AZ) - See all my reviews

Wow, can this guy rammble. I'm giving this book five stars because it really helped me understand the mind set of poly folks and the winding road of chaos within the lifestyle choice. My best friend from high school has been poly for several years and she highly recommended this book because she found it a saving influence on her primary relationship. For me, the book was educational and also successful at eliminating any possible poly attempt in my personal life. You may find this book helpful if you are considering poly for the first time, wanting to learn more about poly in general or dedicated to poly and having a hard time of it. It's not the kind of book you can summarize, meaning you read it and you're thinking "what did I just read, I can't remember what his point was."....so know from the onset that this book is oddly structured and vague.

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2.0 out of 5 stars I didn't find this book useful
The style of this book was was largely stories about the Author and his friends/aquantances. If there was a point to any of these stories; I was too bored to find it. Read more

Published 3 months ago by Kirk P. Blee

4.0 out of 5 stars Very good
This is a very informative book, and complements "the Ethical Slut" very well. I recomend both of these books for 2 different view points.

Published 12 months ago by Alle Kat

5.0 out of 5 stars Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless & Hopeful
Wow, a really honest book about a very tough lifestyle. A great road map, it was written well, lots of good humor, and true honesty you can't get most places. Read more

Published 14 months ago by J. Z. Perry III

3.0 out of 5 stars Ramble On
Unfortunately I can't review this book fully because I can never seem to go past a few pages of it (and I don't think the patience of dealing with a poly relationship has anything... Read more

Published 14 months ago by Danyell N. Chalk

5.0 out of 5 stars Astounding
This is the first book on the polyamorous lifestyle I've read which is blissfully bereft of the self-congratulatory tone of most books on the subject. Read more

Published 20 months ago by Ward Hoelscher

3.0 out of 5 stars Loaded with insight and really, really long sentences.
Written in a conversational, narrative style. Content seems thoughtful, thorough, and well intended, but the writing style isn't easy to digest. Read more

Published on January 11, 2007 by Pat Stone

5.0 out of 5 stars Should've been 7 stars (or at least 6)
Let me state it another way: the book is great, primarily because there are so few books on polyamory not aimed at "icky-squishy tree-huggers" looking for justification &... Read more

Published on January 15, 2005 by Anthony D Ravenscroft

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