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In reply to an earlier post on Feb 27, 2010 7:58:13 AM PST
Elliot says:
Jack I am Dearelliot@yahoo should you care to discuss likes and dislikes..I so enjoy that genre...I am quite sure somewhere there are 2 sisters wiith a busty older mother who wouldlove to have a wealthy subserviant husband ..I know there are hundreds of them in Bangkok.

Posted on Feb 28, 2010 6:52:48 AM PST
Elliot says:
Jack I agree re Stanton and his drawings especially.....I am also a switch...in play with Mistresses I prefer they can switch as the session ends...I love to make them kneel in turnabout is fairplay...For me it is the ritual..the costume...the make up...as Stantons women are decorated and prepared. bound breasts presented with swollen nipples...hanging fruit..walking around with "Mouth openers and drooling" I have met with couples where the wife is degraded and told to perform for him and his friends...I love to see a naked lady among a a few well dressed men as she goes about kneeling for their pleasure, I love it when a wife is required to discuss her oral talents and ask if I would like her to show me. At a swing club years ago I watched a naked woman made to wear a vibrating unit on her clit and have an orgasm while all watched.
Terrible Ted: I have come to the conclusion if I want to play with women in this kinky fashion as all here have described..I have had to find women who want something in return..it hasnt been sex. Im married so I cant offer commitment, for me the next best thing is how can I improve their lifestyle..$$ yes..but not professionals. I have proposed a bit of play with what are otherwise willing housewives and offered them tribute..and have found several takers...when the offer was welll presented Aside, I have been amazed at how well and quickly these ladies pick up the dominant theme.
I realize many men are against paying and surely no more than I am/was...but if I want to play "kinky" D/s maybe once a month... if I dont pay...I dont play at all, period end of statement..!!!...For me if Im going 6 months or more maybe a year without enjoying playing kinky, D/s .(and I was) .then the writing is on the wall for me...I licked the bullet so to speak..and anything else she wanted me to...

Now if a guy looks like George Clooney..or is George Clooney I am sure he doesnt have to pay.

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In reply to an earlier post on Feb 28, 2010 10:36:51 AM PST
R. Lenart says:
elliot your one sick person.you need help take some pills & chill out.sick mind sick thoughts

In reply to an earlier post on Feb 28, 2010 10:55:45 AM PST
Elliot says:
Oh...Lenart..Thank goodness people like you are around to guide us poor unfortunates...If only I had had access to your wisdom and knowledge when I was a young man how much better my life would have been.. Your friends are so lucky..God bless people like you, Great One

In reply to an earlier post on Feb 28, 2010 2:37:41 PM PST
Jack Curtis says:
Where the blazes did Lenart come from? Stay own your own backyard if you don't like the discussions here. Elliot you certainly are a patient and understanding person. Thanks.

Posted on Mar 31, 2010 1:00:52 AM PDT
Simon Lowrie says:
I'm fascinated by the middle two initials of bdsm - the domination and submission - but the other two, the bondage and the masochism, I can take or leave alone. My kinks are feminine submission to the alpha male, which is common enough, but also something rarer: women putting men who are not alpha in their place. This sounds like femdom but it's not - at least, not exactly.

btw, could one of you who is _not_ an author please think about starting a 'Have You Written a BDSM Novel? - Come Tell Us About it' thread? I'm not asking for myself, because my books don't quite fit, (not having the B or the M), but I'm an editor for an erotica publisher and I know of authors who would love to have a legitimate place to promote their stuff to a more specialist group than just plain-old Erotica.

Posted on Mar 31, 2010 11:11:03 PM PDT
Last edited by the author on Mar 31, 2010 11:14:21 PM PDT
I like a submissive woman, but only if she is into it, my ex-wife & I would engage in BDSM somtimes, although I would prefer to dominate, I was always willing to let her have her sweet revenge afterwards..... it is a rush!!!.....almost like a drug!...... still searching for another woman to fulfill this desire, Sarah is right, it is all about the fantasy aspect of it all.

In reply to an earlier post on Apr 1, 2010 8:58:20 AM PDT
Jack Curtis says:
Thanks for the reply Eliot. Tell me more.. I do enjoy older busty women. Especially if they are aggressive.

Posted on Apr 1, 2010 9:57:05 AM PDT
Elliot says:
Re older busty women...god yes, I met with a semi pro...a wife who felt good about having some income..and we talked and she took onn the persona..she was 50ish and busty sloppy busty...but oh so soft..tok me by the ear and made me undress and go upstairs rto her clothes closet...made me stand in the dark naked and smell her clothing..later she took me out and puished themember for getting erect without direct permission...Yes Jack older ladies sometimes know well what turns men on

In reply to an earlier post on Apr 10, 2010 8:21:55 AM PDT
Jack Curtis says:
I remember an older lady that brought a young man to a party dressed in a short, tight latex skirt, black net hose, sky high heeled boots with his arms tied behind his back. She had to feed him. I must admit I envied him somewhat.

In reply to an earlier post on Apr 10, 2010 8:54:36 AM PDT
Elliot says:
Hmmm Id love to hear more about that party.

Posted on Apr 10, 2010 9:16:40 AM PDT
Elliot says:
I met Claire thru Adult friend...if any are familiar with. she is about 50ish perfect body if you dont mind small breasts...which BTW she usually binds as to present them better..The first time we met..

Posted on Apr 29, 2010 8:26:46 PM PDT
The plot is something every author includes but i believe if there is strong connection and desire in two characters then the plot can be small and precise. I just read master of the Mountain and I was hooked on the main characters coming together and just hearing about them.

Master of The Mountain was my first BDSM novel but i have read thousands of romance novels. When woman are on bottom I feel that the man is dominant and the woman is helpless which is a turn on for me. It is also hot for a woman to gain some of the control and maybe roll her partner around to straddle him. To be honest I would include both but it does depend on the characters. Aggressive men always like control so a hot scene could be where she takes control but he limits her time on top then rolls her back underneath him or another aggressive position.

I find the BDSM adventures to be hot and a turn on to an extinct but I feel odd about partners sharing. The clamps, whips, and hand cuffs are hot for my kinky personality but i also have a romantic side where i believe that a woman belongs with one man. Everyone is different but i believe and like all my characters to be just for each other as in one lover with another!

Stephanie's Opinion!

In reply to an earlier post on May 7, 2010 7:28:28 AM PDT
Last edited by the author on May 7, 2010 7:32:45 AM PDT
I honestly have a difficult time reading BDSM fiction, because I know too well how everything feels and works in real life. Generally, for me it has to me F/m (Dominant Female/submissive male) with a focus on my particular areas of interest/fetishes (crossdressing, role play, chastity, etc.). Many of these are written as stories where the wife either discovers or forces her husband's interest, and while I definitely like a deep and growing D/s relationship... well, real Dommes often have more than one sub, and I do prefer more variety than that. However, I'm a sensualist, not a sadist... I want to know how things feel and how much a sub yearns for me, not how much pain he can endure, and the fantasies where Dommes torture and abuse multiple subs without any romantic interest or connection completely turn me off.

All of this being said, my favorite BDSM fiction is probably Carol Queen's _The Leather Daddy and the Femme_ because it reminds me of my old pansexual family-by-choice. Yes, there is a male top, but both the variety and the relationships are there, and you can see how they develop and intermix.

In any case, my actual advice to you is to find your niche, and develop it. As has already been said, everyone is going to give you a different answer. You might want to pick a more specific market segment (M/s flogging or F/s foot worship or whatever) and then ask readers of those books.

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Posted on May 7, 2010 8:00:13 AM PDT
Jack Curtis says:
I agree that there should be love, not aggression, in any kinky relationship. Ropes can be tightly secured but not painfully so. I've only had a few experiences with B/D and they have all been positive because I was in love and so was my partner.

Posted on Jul 3, 2010 11:14:05 PM PDT
Dawn says:
I am very interested and turned on by BDSM - I love being bound, domimanted, very submissive and love medium pain MY PROBLEM IS - my husband is soooooo not into this. Just recently I have taught him to spank me, pinch me, cuff me, and choke me. How do I get him to play with me more? I can get rtelease from just these things but its hard for me to get him to play. Anyone have any suggestions- please help.

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Posted on Jul 9, 2010 7:38:11 AM PDT
Last edited by the author on Jul 9, 2010 7:43:50 AM PDT
Sassy Lane says:
To the original poster all I can say is write what you love. You will always find someone to read what you write, but writers who care deeply about their stories are not as commonly found.

I have read tonnes of BDSM stories. They are my favorite kind. I like my sex hot and kinky and I like lots of it. Some of the M/f stories are quite good like Cherise Sinclair's Lean On Me. Several posters mentioned an interest in GLBTQ authors especially f/f. I would drop by Beth Wylde's Yahoo group. She just finished a month long Pride event and introduced hundreds of published authors in the genre with lots of excerpts posted also. Read the older posts, you may find what you like there.

I don't mind Femdom if it is well done, but I personally prefer M/M in all it's infinite varieties. I own hundreds of stories in this genre and can always find more. Two good ones are Forever Bound by Chloe Stowe and Above the Dungeon by SM Johnson. There are way to many authors to list but these two are good examples of the genre.

Good luck.

In reply to an earlier post on Mar 5, 2012 4:37:32 AM PST
A Blair says:
I like writing books like this. I write female domination books but i like to develop the characters and explain their personal journey. I want to explore their motivation and how they interact in both their fantasy and real lives.

In reply to an earlier post on Mar 5, 2012 4:41:14 AM PST
A Blair says:
Yes sometimes too much detail is not good.

In reply to an earlier post on Mar 5, 2012 4:46:12 AM PST
A Blair says:
I have just read a fem dom book called Lady Sophia James in Thailand. No sisters and busty mothers(If you meet a busty woman in Thailand she is probably a he) but it is about a thai bar girl being instucted on how to enslave her abusive customer.

In reply to an earlier post on Mar 5, 2012 4:51:54 AM PST
Elliot says:
HI Jack..Well yes some of do go to Thailand for BDSM, Im, going next month..as the price is about half and the service is outstanding. As my wife loves the area and the food etc, it works out well for us..she of course isnt into any of this.
The area in Bangkok where we stay there are a few place easily within walking distance ofour hotel to play although the true BDSM place charge a bit more..there are many other prtoviders caqpable of the service who chargle less.
I did several years back write for a couple of BDSM papers ..stories a few pennys a word.. .

In reply to an earlier post on Mar 5, 2012 5:12:46 AM PST
A Blair says:
There is a place in Pattaya called the castle that is meant to be quite good. It is quite expensive though.

In reply to an earlier post on Mar 5, 2012 5:43:39 AM PST
Elliot says:
Ill be in Pattaya in April..Ill google it today. I go to Berlin every year and my thoughts are the Germans are the masters of BDSM.. I visit a place that is superb, but expensive..about 250 US for the hour as opposed to Bangkok, at about 90 US
And London is supposed to be great but also high priced. BUt really the Asian women seem to carry of the role play so well

In reply to an earlier post on Mar 5, 2012 6:01:52 AM PST
A Blair says:
London is very expensive but you can find just about anything there.
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