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In reply to an earlier post on Sep 28, 2010 12:32:47 AM PDT
Kathy Weber says:
there is a doctor who had autism who is a consultant for problem animal behaviors but i cant think of her name. she has written books and has some on amazon

In reply to an earlier post on Sep 28, 2010 12:38:18 AM PDT
Kathy Weber says:
the doctor is temple grandin

In reply to an earlier post on Oct 13, 2010 5:48:25 PM PDT
x says:
@ J. Tew and anyone else who wants to talk more about dog training. Or Cesar Millan.

Look up the this thread: Cesar Milan - saving or destroying dogs?

Posted on Oct 13, 2010 7:17:10 PM PDT
Your dog thinks he's a cat. <g> Honestly, animals are just like people (and vice versa) and some of them/us are never going to be trained. Love him anyway; you don't have to always be in control. He doesn't sound like he's the "trainable" kind so why not just let him just be who he is?

In reply to an earlier post on Oct 13, 2010 7:36:01 PM PDT
stevign says:

re: "Your dog thinks he's a cat"

That ain't nothin', my baby thinks I'm a train.

In reply to an earlier post on Oct 13, 2010 9:21:21 PM PDT
STREGA says:
Very nice, DZ (up until the Neo-Nazi part, but I understand).

In reply to an earlier post on Oct 13, 2010 9:32:17 PM PDT
Last edited by the author on Oct 13, 2010 9:35:53 PM PDT
STREGA says:
Hmm, J. Tew.....not sure what Cesar Milan's being of Mexican descent has to do with any of this.
But, OK- so then what time is your dog training show on? We'll watch that one instead............. No?
So then, what is the title of your dog training book(s)? We can read those instead.............No?
Oh, so then your dog-training website is what? We can go there for online help or to buy your instructional DVDs...........No?
OK, so where is your dog training facility located? We can bring our dogs there instead............No?
Ok, then where do you work as a dog trainer? We can set up lessons with you instead.........No?
OK, then when will you come to our house(s) and help us train our dogs? We will be more than ready to listen when you meet the dog(s) and see what we are dealing with...........No?

OK- I think I understand now.....

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In reply to an earlier post on Nov 30, 2010 6:30:43 PM PST
Katielee says:
I will disagree on speaking to your dog. It has been shown that dogs do understand words. I talk to mine all the time, I house broke him using the advice of an older neighbor by speaking. If you talk to your dog and use verbal direction (keep it short), try speaking to him in another language one day and watch the confused expression. I tried this one day with French...the look he gave me was priceless...and a little alarmed.

In reply to an earlier post on Nov 30, 2010 6:36:47 PM PST
stevign says:
I'm not surprised, even dogs don't like the French.

In reply to an earlier post on Nov 30, 2010 7:15:48 PM PST
Jerrie Brock says:
Ok CO Harrell is a either crazy or has no idea what a Brussels Griffon is.

Get outside help immediately! Choose carefully, talk to many, maybe if you live in or near a big city call their police department and talk to the canine unit, find their trainer and ask for a reference. These dogs can be dangerous and if you are having trouble controlling it now, it will get worse.

The food method is not bad, if you have already established that the dog may not approach his bowl to eat without your permission. If you have not done that, if he rushes in and pushes your hand away, or growls if you get near his bowl, then you are already in hot water. However it is pretty easy to fix unless the dog is already dominating you. You tell him to sit, hold your hand up and then set the bowl of food down. If the dog starts to get up, don't set it down. Most will get it in only a few minutes.

All treats should be kept wrapped in your fist and only released when the dog takes it nicely. If they grab at your hand even if you say NO (loudly and preferrably as high pitched as possible), then once again, you have a problem that is probably beyond your help on your own with either a book or a TV show.

You need some sort of confinement for your dog, a room, a large crate, a pen, some thing. When he misbehaves, he needs a time out, not a shake, a flip, or a smack on the nose. He needs every bit of his wake time controlled. If you are not there during the day, he needs to be confined, with a nice Kong toy stuffed with peanut butter, a Nylabone, a teddy bear, etc. Make it fun. I have a room with everything secured so they cannot get in trouble when I am not home. In it is a little wading pool, full of tennis balls, softballs, cheap squeaks and plush, pieces of wood, anything. It does not have be expensive. When I leave, I throw some soft chewy treats, some milk bones, and then usually one really great treat (turkey jerky) in the pool and let the pup go for it while I am gone. They do not mind being confined, they do not have the opportunity to get into trouble so there is no yelling when I come home, they feel secure, it is their 'place' even when I use it for a time out. Think kid's bedroom!

Then everything else must be consistent in his life. Treats only for some thing, even a sit, no furniture, no feeding from tables, etc. And the biggest thing is, that the dog needs to be useful. He needs a past time that takes some effort because they are incrediably intelligent. Fly ball, obstacle course, frisbee, jogging, a whole host of things. They are not children, they do not need their own time. For pups, that usually equates with destruction because it is the most fun.

But I cannot emphasize enough that you may have made a mistake in getting a dog that is more than you are able to handle if you are not willing to make a consistent effort. Either find a trainer and be willing to put forth the effort now or find an appropriate home before the dog's bad habits make it unadoptable. I do not mean to sound harsh but you took on a handful of dog without being aware of its needs.

I do not really watch TV, I don't have time so I cannot comment on much on it, but I can tell you that a show I have seen a couple of times, Its Me or the Dog seems to be to have the most sensible trainer i have ever seen. And remember if you take CO's advice, be prepared to either be bit, or have some one else some time biten. Dogs may be like people but we have bullies in people too but for dogs we put them down when they misbehave, we don't give them jail time or probation.

In reply to an earlier post on Nov 30, 2010 7:29:23 PM PST
Jerrie Brock says:
Oh and by the way numeral uno in the most critical factors -- get him neutered. If he is still intact and you will not do that to regain control than all of this is pointless. The foolish idea that some day you might breed him then your commitment to making him a reliable pet is pointless.

In reply to an earlier post on Nov 30, 2010 7:37:08 PM PST
This latter post by S, jerems is totally false and posted by an unknowledgable person devoid of analytical ability. It is based completely on emotion and incorrect information.

In reply to an earlier post on Nov 30, 2010 8:11:46 PM PST
Jerrie Brock says:
And of course Clear Thinker is Vet so they are perfectly capable of answering it with authority. If she had the ability to control the dog then perhaps it would not make as much difference. if she wants it to be a good citizen and friendly pet, it is most definitely an issue. Only some one who fails to acknowledge research done at major universities on that issue would assume I am devoid of analytical ability. You can be dellusional if you want, but I am trying to help this obviously sincere and caring person try to make an naturally dominant and intelligent dog into a loving member of their family.

Posted on Dec 1, 2010 11:03:47 AM PST
Karen Baker says:
I have to agree-- especially for a woman owner who needs to be the alpha of a willful male dog, it is an absolute necessity for the dog to be neutered, no two ways about it. Research or not, it's common sense. I wonder what's up with Clear Thinker's irrational attachment to testicles?

Posted on Dec 11, 2010 12:03:22 PM PST
DR says:
Everyone wants to label their dog dominant or submissive, when in reality any issues are usually due to something else entirely. Motivation is usually the most important thing to consider.

Dogs work for rewards - that is to say, they behave in certain ways in order to please themselves, they will chase the squirrel even though you're saying 'sit' because chasing the squirrel is more fun or more rewarding than the small piece of kibble you usually give for sitting. This whole process has nothing to do with dominance.

For more information read TRAIN YOUR DOG LIKE A PRO by JEAN DONALDSON

If you don't know about or how to train duration, distraction, distance, and proofing, then you probably shouldn't try to train you dog on your own. Hire a professional dog trainer that doesn't use force or positive punishment.

In reply to an earlier post on Dec 11, 2010 12:40:01 PM PST
stevign says:

In most cases it's not about "training" a dog, it's about unwanted, harmful, neurotic and fearful behaviors. I think Cesar Millan makes that "important" distinction.

Posted on Dec 11, 2010 6:00:51 PM PST
Last edited by the author on Dec 11, 2010 6:05:45 PM PST
R. Devinney says:
The previous posts have some good advice and some not-so-good. I'm sure you can sort it out. Here is my two cent's worth: If all else fails, spend some time with a good dog trainer. I know that is difficult if you are a very good trainer yourself, but even the best pros have to sometimes get advice from another trainer. Sometimes a trainer will see something you don't see.

Posted on Dec 12, 2010 2:10:40 PM PST
Amanda Peck says:
I'm currently high on Ali Brown's SCAREDY DOG

My--very dominant--mama-dog (no more puppies) Patty, seems to have dropped a lot of her leaning on me behavior since I started feeding her a handful of her food--so she doesn't drool too much--and then play targeting games with her and the rest of the food, something I've adapted from Brown's book--the chapter on targeting. (the original point was that another dog is a VERY slow eater) I think she's enjoying it. I hope so.

I've also learned some things that help when another--genuine scaredy dog--misbehaves.

In reply to an earlier post on Dec 13, 2010 12:02:01 PM PST
Jenny M. says:
Oh My God! This is priceless! LOL Roll Over & LOL Again!

In reply to an earlier post on Dec 15, 2010 12:24:22 AM PST
R. Hedges says:
I thought I had the same problem with my Chessy. Turned out that she was born with hip dysplasia and the behavior was her trying to tell me that something was wrong. Once treatment began, her behavior changed unbelievably. Might want to have your little one get a thorough check up to rule out health issues. Good luck and don't automatically assume it is a personality issue before seeing your Vet.

In reply to an earlier post on Dec 15, 2010 12:31:13 AM PST
R. Hedges says:
What if the pup has a health issue that has gone undiagnosed thus far? Punishment without further investigation? Dominance going to take care of this? Automatically assume it's a personality issue? Doing these will damage the pet. Give your pet the benefit of the doubt FIRST and consult your Vet. I did and found my Chessy was born with hip dysplasia. Once treatment began, she blossomed and is now 12 years old and doing very well.

In reply to an earlier post on Dec 15, 2010 9:07:09 AM PST
helen says:
lol, first off you have a grif:) i have 2 affens! your dog is known as the wal-mart greeter! tre-cute. ok, sorry as for whose boss? well your doggie type dominates with love and kisses, way too easy. take everything away even the kisses. as he demands them back, make demands of your own. hand feeding will only re-inforce his "i love you real good" attitude. its like they think they have you cornered with their hugs and kisses and they usually do! good luck, it can be done. btw this is a great therapy dog i hope you really enjoy it. oh, one more thing. if the schnauzers and the grif don't sleep/share together the grif will arbitrarily decide he is boss, above the other dogs not just you. after all the wal-mart greeter does APPEAR to be in charge of the whole store.

Posted on Dec 15, 2010 11:37:53 AM PST
parker lewis says:
A puppy needs to be put in it's place. I've only needed to do it once with every dog I've had.

It's been consistently around 12-14 weeks. The dog will decide take things a little too far, and you'll know what it's all about if you're even remotely a 'dog person'. When this happens you need to whoop the dog.

I don't mean whoop the animal like he's robbing your house or molesting your kids...but whoop him like a tiny pup that you want to understand it has just done something it will never do again. Roll up a newspaper or flick your finger on it's rump and keep doing it until the dog runs out of the room or corners itself.

Do Not Hurt Your Dog. Ever.

Dogs teach through discomfort...there is a fine line between this and outright pain.

In reply to an earlier post on Jun 8, 2012 12:17:48 PM PDT
Last edited by the author on Jun 11, 2012 5:43:31 AM PDT
Molly says:
The whole idea of dominating an animal that man bred to be man's *companion* is ridiculous. I wonder if the people who say "don't anthropomorphize" are the same who think their dog understands the concept of interspecies respect.
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