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Should married women wear sexy clothes?

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In reply to an earlier post on Feb 4, 2010 8:59:55 AM PST
SunnySideUp says:
Of course, within limits. Limits include not embarrassing your children or husband.
Sometimes, calculated modesty can be very sexy!! The imagination is a powerful thing!

Posted on Feb 4, 2010 4:53:48 PM PST
Mr RJB says:
Do you feel good wearing sexy things, then go right on wearing them! Why should others dictate what you wear? Now what should you wear? Wrap dresses [not the faux wraps..]; button front dresses and skirts; thigh high stockings; heels; shorter shorts; lower cut tops; clingy tops; and whatever sexy things that show you off a bit! Enjoy being a MILF if you want! Dressing in a sexy or seductive way can go a long way into feeding your sense of being a desired 'woman'. Go for it! Be desired! Be HOT!

Posted on Feb 4, 2010 5:03:37 PM PST
Mr RJB says:
If you want to keep each other filled with lust, continue being the hottie you once were! When a guy [I am a guy] sees other men looking lustfully at their wives, it makes them realize that their wives are HOT! Men, keep that in mind in how YOU dress and care for yourself. If you STOP treating your wife like a sexual being, and stop treating her as important enough to dress up for, she will look!

Posted on Feb 6, 2010 2:20:12 PM PST
Last edited by the author on Feb 6, 2010 2:33:36 PM PST
Golden Girl says:
I am fifty! I have 13% body fat, ripped muscles and I look like I am 35. I work out daily, lift weights and I look good! I wear what I damned well please and I don't need validation, or approval from any man or woman. I don't wear low-low cut shirts, I don't wear short shirts and I don't wear skirts up to my to my nether regions but I do wear low rise jean and skinny jeans, I do wear form fitting tops, lower cut tops that show a little cleavage and I do wear shear tops that show my beautiful abs. What you wear is a personal choice it just should be tasteful. Wear what makes you feel good. Be Hot! Enjoy being beautiful and most of all develop your own personal style, what ever it takes to get you there.

Posted on Feb 7, 2010 12:40:58 PM PST
You have to define sexy before you can even discuss this.

In reply to an earlier post on Feb 7, 2010 11:35:21 PM PST
In the U.K., they call that "Mutton in lamb's clothes" and I think it says it all! There is a more sophisticated sexy that makes someone over 40 look hotter than teeny bopper stuff.

You are right on!

In reply to an earlier post on Feb 7, 2010 11:39:56 PM PST

I think John was just saying that "hanging it all out there" didn't appeal to him or do much for a woman, but that in the end, what he thinks (or you, or I) doesn't matter. . . It's what makes the individual feel good.

I think hanging it out communicates something to people and "appropriate" isn't probably the image it communicates to most, but those people probably aren't going for "appropriate" or "classy" at the moment, right?

In reply to an earlier post on Feb 7, 2010 11:47:37 PM PST
HE! HE! Just PLEASE don't dress like the young guys. . . I don't know WHO thinks that skinny jeans falling off your butt is attractive (even the young girls), but we have NO NEED to see you walk like a penguin!

BTW, What Not to Wear would TOTALLY say to dress a sophisticated, figure-highlighting hot, not to have Juicy across your behind or wear a mini with stilettos and a bare-midriff shirt when you are inching up there in age! No matter how much people say "It isn't me!" at first on the show, we all know they look TONS better in the end! : D

In reply to an earlier post on Feb 7, 2010 11:53:40 PM PST
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In reply to an earlier post on Feb 8, 2010 6:56:24 AM PST
I despise "What Not to Wear!"

In reply to an earlier post on Feb 9, 2010 9:28:34 AM PST
Bonnie Kaake says:
Golden Girl, That is fantastic! You go girl. You are an inspiration for others.

Posted on Feb 9, 2010 9:42:28 AM PST
DJ in Austin says:
I/we agree with Eelkat's assessment. It may not jive with what a lot of the under 35-ish crowd would typically deem as being a "politically correct" viewpoint, least for Eelkat and my/our marriage of almost 27 years, it makes US happy. And, it's not a one-way street. If she's putting on the garters, back-seamed stockings & high heels to go out to dinner or a live music venue (wherever), then I too "dress to impress" by putting on the suit...and retro bow-tie...and cufflinks...and Humphry Bogart hat, etc. that she most enjoys seeing me in, including whatever cologne she has says she likes the best. And I do this gladly. We are less concerned that some other stranger(s) may find one or both of us attractive OR inappropriate...we're not here for THEM. We're here for US. If others want to look...let `em! We both know who we're going home with.

We're both in our mid-to-late 40's, in reasonably decent shape and her "sexy" look (we feel) is age appropriate. I like her in what at first glance would appear to be just a typical business outfit. 2-piece skirt suits mostly...but then she'll "sexy that up" by wearing full-fashioned back seamed stockings, needle thin stilettos and perhaps a semi-sheer blouse underneath the jacket. So to the casual observer, she usually looks like she just came from an office somewhere, unless you're really paying attention. That sort of subliminal sexiness is what we BOTH enjoy, and sharing that with one another, regardless of what others think about it, has contributed to a long & happy relationship. We are both also exceedingly frank with one another in being able to say: "Hun...that just doesn't look good on you".

To those that seem to have a viewpoint that (paraphrasing here) says: "As soon as I do something for someone else, if it's not what *I* want, then I'm controlled...manipulated...put under the man's thumb...requiring validation...etc", I would ask: "Do you not have an altruistic bone in your body? Even for your life partner?" Of course it's your "choice". It's your body, your mind, your spirit. Do with them as you deem appropriate if that's what works for your relationship(s).

As for us, we'll continue to discuss those types of things with one another, occasionally rediscovering and redefining limits, borders, changes in attitude due to maturity & life's experiences. If she told me tomorrow that she was never going to wear heels again, I would tell her of my disappointment and in the same breath, tell her that I support her decision whole-heartedly. Then we would move on to whatever life throws at us tomorrow...together...continuing to discuss all of life's options even if we have radically differing viewpoints. That's what works for US.

In reply to an earlier post on Feb 9, 2010 1:34:54 PM PST
Last edited by the author on Feb 9, 2010 2:40:19 PM PST
L. Harris says:
SUBMISSIVENESS????? What's that all about. I don't think submissiveness is an attractive or virtuous feature.....maybe you actually meant.... CONFIDENCE or SOPHISTICATION; because, if you didn't ....DANG.......GOOD LUCK WITH THAT!

In reply to an earlier post on Feb 9, 2010 5:07:34 PM PST
coriolana says:
"What we can bring to the table is class, style, and submissiveness"

Are you insane? Inquiring minds want to know?

Posted on Feb 9, 2010 6:19:22 PM PST
The moment you cease attempting to look attractive to your partner is when things start to go downhill. It's important to note that a couple's physical attraction to one-another holds a significant place in maintaining a healthy relationship. This is, of course, not to discredit the mental attraction as it is more important.

Posted on Feb 10, 2010 9:08:40 AM PST
SweetStorm says:
You Can definately dress sexy at 50! Like some others who have posted, that does not mean letting it all hang out. Bring out your natural curves with a belt around the waist, a blazer with a cami, a hot pair of shoes, etc. Dress appropriate to you body type and age, but still being sexy.
One thing that I see in some situations is woman that just stop trying. Most men like eye candy, especially if he's your husband. It keeps him looking at you. That's how I look at it, as long as you're not attracting undue attention.

Posted on Feb 10, 2010 11:20:57 PM PST
Lyn says:
I wear what makes ME feel good about Myself! I've never dressed smutty. But good fitting Jeans that show off my assets, and tops, YEP! Most women wear clothes that make them feel good about themselves and for themselves. So, whatever makes you feel confident! In my humble opinion, would be the right answer! Each to her own!

In reply to an earlier post on Feb 11, 2010 3:00:38 AM PST
Sexy can be done tastefully at all ages, as long as it's appropiate to the occasion. Less is more, in not showing too much thigh , waist or cleavage, sice most women do not have the figure of a 15 year old. Play up you best assets. Use more color to accent neutrals and basic black. Playful earrings and bold jewelry is sexy, just as a great fragrance and being confident.

Posted on Oct 16, 2010 4:56:50 PM PDT
Let me see that would be yes, my wife is 60 and looks smoking hot she works out and has legs to die for,and her dressing sexy was the first thing I noticed about her she had dressed sexy for the longest time and I was not about to change that in her, I encourage her to wear very short skirts and high heels, in dec we are going to vegas and she has bought a black leather micro mini skirt that she is planning on wearing with stockings not pantyhose..we will have a lot of fun she even wearS short skirts to the office with seamed stockings and an anklet

Posted on Oct 17, 2010 5:05:11 AM PDT
DJ in Austin says:
For us it's as simple as: "being sexy is fun". We're always tasteful about it but like to push the fashion envelope right up to the edge, without going over it. SweetStorm has a point about continuing to look appealing to your significant other. We don't stop "trying" financially, or with our careers, or raising children, or volunteering our time just because we no longer "have to". So why quit trying with the attractiveness thing just because you're no longer actively seeking a mate?

Posted on Oct 17, 2010 12:06:38 PM PDT
james howe says:
If You don't do it ... and your man wants to see it... SOMEONE Out there will.... just a thought

In reply to an earlier post on Oct 17, 2010 4:36:51 PM PDT
Frank Twain says:
You are exactly right. My wife will turn 36 in two weeks and looks super hot when she goes to the gym. She is not concerned about wearing tight lycra capri bottoms, which make her look to die for. However, if our son has a school play or sports she wears approriate clothing. She always takes a shower and great pride in her appearance, I see way too many women who dress two sizes bigger than what they are and look like they have not combed their hair in days. Just b/c you're married with kids does not mean you can't look attractive for your spouse. My wife will not wear sexy clothes to run errands, but if we go out on vacation without the kids, she will wear a bikini and short skirts and dresses. Everythihng within good taste of course.

In reply to an earlier post on Oct 19, 2010 9:55:26 PM PDT
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Posted on Oct 24, 2010 4:14:38 AM PDT
Cathio says:
If a woman does not wear sexy clothes her man, he will most likely be looking more and more at women who do.

This does not have to be a public experience but at home in private will do. In public some men like their woman to look sexy, in a tasteful way, never trashy, I have found.

I have also found women worry too much about how they look to dress sexy for their man and they shouldn't. Most husbands are not nearly as concerned about it as they are. You can be sexy at any size. He loves you. You will be beautiful to him.
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