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In reply to an earlier post on Feb 12, 2012 11:05:25 AM PST
The End says:
I know exactly how you feel - violated. There are different kinds of violation, but this is definitely a violation of friendship, trust and privacy. It's a violation of your well-being.

I don't know what would happen if you made an 'official report'. A report to police? I know that you perpetrators have committed a crime, but is it is something that the District Attorney would pursue? I think that the danger to you or someone else or society at large would have to be great enough, or *perceived* to be great enough by police/DA/court before something could be done.

You can probably get records from your cell phone carrier that would prove that the perpetrators had hacked the phone, and that could probably be handled through a municipal court. However, to obtain records concerning your perpetrators hacking any email, you have to have a court order. The court may look at it as nuisance case. I contacted my email provider, and was told about needing a court order.

However, if you fear that you or your family may be in some kind of physical danger, I urge you to contact the police. Tell them everything, names, dates, get the records from your phone provider, or the police can help you. Once you start building even a small case against these people, it helps if their stalking/bullying escalates.

My best to you.

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In reply to an earlier post on Feb 13, 2012 5:52:00 AM PST
Whale Tart says:
Hi ILHJ!

I bumped into this discussion as I am always interested to learn about bullying etc. I did not know that you were cyber stalked, it is a tough one!
I have never experienced anything like this; only verbal slander and abuse via sms messages. It was very upsetting and I changed my cell number to get away from it.
I find that that kind of abuse is more difficult to deal with, I do not know if it is due to the lack of all the other communication tools such as body language and voice pitch, tone etc.
Now for my 5c, I do not know if you need it, you are a very together person impo;
YES, you should always put yourself first, if you don't then who will?
Thereafter your nearest and dearest, in your case your husband and daughter. It gives an extremely destructive message to them if you do not respect their feelings before other people's and they deserve better treatment from you. Please start doing that immediately by calling a family meeting, apologize for not doing it up to now, explain that you were confused but are not anymore, it is extremely important that you fix any damage that you might have caused to your relationships with them. Even if they assure you that they were not hurt it is still a very necessary step to take.
Now, re prosecution. That is a tough decision and depends on how strong your case is and if you have a high probability to win.
First of all, you will end up with muck on yourself even though you are the victim here.
Second of all, the justice system is human made and therefore very flawed. I personally rely on the non human justice system as in "let God take care of it" At the end of the day it is the only system that is non tampered with and leaves you feeling a true sense of justice. I am not a Christian but somehow, that part of religion has just always made sense though.
Thirdly, take whatever steps you can to stop the abuse legally. As I mentioned, I changed my phone number. You are taking your power back and because you block them the abuse should stop which will give you a mental break.
Any form of abuse has the same signs and symptoms. Abusers get away with abuse because they confuse their prey. Forgive yourself for not taking correct action until now, it takes time to realise that you are being abused if it is not physical. Abusers also have a way where they make you doubt yourself, pull back, decide what you deem appropriate behaviour and what not, stick to it and yell loudly when someone steps over the line.

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Posted on Feb 13, 2012 1:32:09 PM PST
I googled Police and Neighborhood Watch Programs bullying.It seems this is the way police conduct business nowadays.Thousands of "Undesirables" are being stalked.Just as it was in Germany,during the rise of Hitler.Many people are coerced into joining the "Program".This type of policing is unacceptable and leads to many acts of insanity.Some people of interest(police term)snap under the pressure.

Innocent until proven guilty.No charges, yet public lynchings,people being denied services because the police or an ally point out the victim ahead of time.Just as it used to be during pre- civil rights era.People are afraid to leave home.Do not let them get you to react.Go when and where you want to.Fascism is growing and poor and minorities are suffering!

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Grumbler says:
Ok fair enough about deleting, I am a nice person too i promise :)

This is going to stray a bit but hear me out. There is a book called Follow My Leader. (kids book but a great book if you haven't read it) It is about a blind kid who goes to a school to learn how to use a dog for assistance. There is one part of that book I have always remembered where the teacher leads Jimmy over to a sharp corner and puts Jimmy's hand on it and says it is right about eye level for him so he should be careful. Jimmy asks the teacher why they don't pad the corner so nobody gets hurt. The teacher responds 'Jimmy, do you expect the world to pad its corners for you?'.

That is my stance on bullying in a nutshell.

In reply to an earlier post on Feb 16, 2012 6:34:08 AM PST
If you know that she got a man convicted of rape based on her false accusation then you should contact someone and find out if you can help.

http://www.innocenceproject.org/

I am glad you got away from this scary individual.

In reply to an earlier post on Feb 16, 2012 6:42:06 AM PST
VA Mom says:
Patbirdlegs...

Call your local animal control office and lodge a complaint. If necessary, get the police involved if your sister and nephew become belligerent and threatening. You may need to move away from your sister in order to get any peace.

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GargenGal, in response to your neighbor constantly harrassing you.........OMG.......you, too? Our nut job neighbor did the EXACT same things, but for 7 years. She thought she was best friends with mayor, son-in-law (now ex son-in-law, wonder why?) was a city policeman on and on, and on. In other words she thought she had "contacts" to make us look bad. In the end she lost friends and made herself look the fool she really is. She wrote up dozens of false police reports about us damaging their cars, etc, etc., but the police were soon on to her stories. She tried on many occasions to hit me with her car, yelling nasty words (I can't even print) at us on a daily basis We documented everything with pictures, video, etc. We never reacted to her and that's what made her so crazy mad! She just wanted attention. She got so mad she got a relative at no cost to her file a lawsuit against us for the dumbest things. (example, leaving a back patio light on in the evening) End of the story is my team of lawyers had a field day with her. Did I mention her lawyer/relative died during this year long lawsuit? LOL! She had to pay for a REAL attorney and it cost her dearly. I laugh every day on my way to the bank! She is really crazy to think she could have pulled that off. But WE DID! Moral of the story........always be truthful and let the law (lawyers) handle it. She now hides inside her house every day instead of coming out and harrass us. Her husband tried on one occasion to continue being a bully and after one call to my lawyer, who reported it to her lawyer and the court who handled our case, that stopped as well.

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Posted on Mar 7, 2012 7:29:42 AM PST
I have started discussions on "Bullying" and "Mean Girls" in Amazon's Psychology forum, if anyone is interested in pursuing this topic:

http://www.amazon.com/forum/psychology
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Does it have anything to do with aliens? I hope so because I love your alien posts! Big fan!:)))

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Posted on Apr 21, 2012 7:05:16 PM PDT
I have a situation that's like stalking, but I'm really not sure what to call it since the offensive person only shows up about once every six months.

I met this dude about 5 years ago, and he's been nothing but human crazy glue ever since. He tried every lame trick in the book to get me to have sex with him. I told him I would be friends with him, but nothing more. He agreed to that, but continued to do & say a lot of stuff that became progressively creepier. At worst, he lied about having a vasectomy, so that he could trick me into having unprotected sex with him (aside from me telling him, millions & millions of times, that I wasn't attracted to him, I had said that I don't take birth control and I'm allergic to rubber). Several months later, he started saying some weird stuff about how he'd love to have a baby with me (this is how I know he lied about the vasectomy). He also kept touching me inappropriately, trying to kiss me, trying to hold my hand, calling me EVERY day, asking me how much money I have (he's a "recovering" gambling addict), following me around town, etc, etc. I finally got sick of his cr@p and cussed him out, but he showed up again, a few months later. I felt sorry for him and tried being friends with him again, but the usual BS began again. I cussed him out and ran him off again, last summer. Lo & behold, he showed up again, just a couple of weeks ago, asking me if I needed my lawn mowed ( I don't, I do it myself). I told him to get lost and NEVER come back. He waddled back to his tin can on wheels and took off. Wonder how long that's gonna last?

Not sure what to do about this character. It's not exactly a 'call the cops' type of situation. I'm honestly scared; not of him, but myself. I can feel the anger building inside of me. Every time I envision his goofy face, and think about all of the lies he's told me, and all of the lies he has told to cover up the previous lies, I feel like I'm going to explode. He's one of those people who is REALLY bad at lying, btw, which makes me hate him even more. He insults my intelligence every time he opens that big, fat mouth, and spins another ridiculous liefest. His IQ has GOT to be ultra low; double digits at best. He just sucks on every level imaginable. I feel sorry for his brothers & sisters (whom he scrubs off of); I'd put a gun in my mouth and pull the trigger if I was related to that worthless douchenozzle.

In reply to an earlier post on Apr 21, 2012 7:25:47 PM PDT
Last edited by the author on Apr 21, 2012 7:26:19 PM PDT
Actually this IS a call the cops matter. They can help you take the appropriate steps to begin a restraining order. You need to have your legal work done AHEAD of time in case he progressively gets worse.

Otherwise you might up like a canoe without a paddle. And no more of this 'I will be friends with you' crap. BE CLEAR HERE. You aren't friends, and consider him a problem that you intend to report to the police. Be noisy about your situation with people who can help you. Be noisy about your disgust with him. Consider getting a dog.
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