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Initial post: Jul 1, 2012 7:17:49 AM PDT
Last edited by the author on Jul 1, 2012 8:05:25 AM PDT
A. Esposito says:
I am looking for historical, regency or contemporary books where the virgin h does not give in sexually to the H, but makes him wait until marriage. I've read so many books where the h gives up her virginity 5 minutes after meeting the H. I enjoy a steamy book as much as the next person. I just prefer them to be married first. One example is Duncan's Bride. Any suggestions?

In reply to an earlier post on Jul 1, 2012 12:04:14 PM PDT
Last edited by the author on Jul 1, 2012 12:06:19 PM PDT
ap2010 says:
Have you tried Susan Fox? All her characters are married, I believe. My favorites are A Prodigal Wife and A Marriage on Demand but I love all her books..her heroes are wonderful!!
Wanted: One Groom by Pat Ballard I loved the hero as well
Did You Say Married?! (Desire, 1296) by Kathie DeNosky
Wedding Promise (Harlequin Historical) by Carolyn Davidson (the author has a long backlist of historicals all her characters I believe are married at the start of the book)

I hope you get lots of recs for this theme which I seem to prefer as well.

In reply to an earlier post on Jul 1, 2012 1:27:13 PM PDT
pona says:
Lucy & Simon, the H & h in Elizabeth Hoyt's The Serpent Prince, don't consummate their relationship until their wedding night, almost midway through the book. However, Simon is so turned on by Lucy that he "take matters into his own hands" long before that. IMO, it's Hoyt's best book with a great tortured, dandy hero.

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Posted on Jul 1, 2012 2:23:30 PM PDT
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A. Esposito says:
Thanks so much for the rec's! Keep them coming. One of my favorite authors is Lynn Kurland and I've currently been reading some Julia Quinn. I can't wait to find some new books to add to my favorites!

Posted on Jul 1, 2012 3:17:34 PM PDT
Edenbrooke by Julianne Donaldson, it has no sexy scenes though its regency Jane Austen type, heartwarming pure romance. Highly recommended.

Posted on Jul 1, 2012 3:55:25 PM PDT
MelissaB says:
Honor's Splendor, The Secret, Ransom, Saving Grace, The Bride by Julie Garwood - all are married before anything happens beyond a kiss

Defy Not the Heart by Johanna Lindsay - marriage of convenience so nothing happened before (but they fall in love after of course!)

Posted on Jul 1, 2012 4:20:28 PM PDT
Last edited by the author on Jul 1, 2012 4:23:58 PM PDT
Then Came Heaven by LaVyrle Spencer
Ravishing the Heiress (Berkley Sensation) by Sherry Thomas
To Seduce A Sinner (The Legend of the Four Soldiers) by Elizabeth Hoyt

Posted on Jul 1, 2012 7:29:46 PM PDT
Last edited by the author on Jul 1, 2012 7:30:03 PM PDT
tealadytoo says:
Not too common in contemporaries except for Christian fiction. I find quality to be spotty with inspirational fiction, (good intentions alone don't make a good book) but I really liked True Devotion (Uncommon Heroes)

Posted on Jul 2, 2012 6:33:33 AM PDT
A. Esposito says:
Oh I did enjoy all of Julie Garwood's books. Also, Cindy Miles had some cute stories that fit my preferences. I just finished Mary Balogh's Lord Carew's Bride and Dark Angel. While she is steamier, the h and H were married at the time so I have no problem with it. Keep the rec's coming!

Posted on Jul 2, 2012 2:32:56 PM PDT
ap2010 says:
Matthew (Circle Eight) by Emma Lang steamier but they are married
A Forever Family by Brenda Coulter (christian but not preachy imo very sweet hero)
Tempest in Eden by Sandra Brown I liked hero

I recommend you google marriage of convience theme goodreads if you haven't done yet so. I get a lot of recs for the theme on GR.

Posted on Jul 2, 2012 7:05:34 PM PDT
Purse Monkey says:
I love this theme also but I like it more when there's temptation but h waited instead of just marriage of convenient.

The Windflower by Laura London is one of my all time favorite books. H kidnapped h and there were few close calls but h held out until they married.

Under the Cowboy's Control by Lynda Chance. Loved this book. More like a long novella. Heroine held out for marriage before giving it up.

Lots of Amanda Quick's single titled books. Also Wildest Heart by JAK. Contemporary where they married pretty earlier on.

I think the thing I like about this theme is that the h isn't putty in H's hands. I hate it when h just falls into the H's arms.

Posted on Jul 2, 2012 9:02:18 PM PDT
D. Politis says:
Tempt me At Twilight by Lisa Kleypas has the hero and heroine get married before anything happens. Tempt Me at Twilight (Hathaways Book 3) Do not read the previous 2 books in the series because those do not have this theme you are looking for. (But I love those books anyway)

In reply to an earlier post on Jul 3, 2012 6:06:53 AM PDT
Last edited by the author on Jul 3, 2012 6:11:58 AM PDT
A. Esposito says:
I totally agree Purse Monkey. It just takes away so much of the romance when they are intimate too soon. And waiting for the wedding always brings out some interesting characteristics in the H :)

ap2010, thank you so much for the suggestions. I will definitely check these out!

Thanks to all who have given recs. I am a little leery of Kleypas, but have heard good things about Tempt Me At Twilight so look forward to checking it out. Keep them coming, I know they're out there!

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Posted on Jul 3, 2012 6:29:13 AM PDT
Last edited by the author on Jul 3, 2012 6:38:27 AM PDT
Historical note:

Legally a Betrothal which was rather formal (contracts signed, announcements made, balls given, bands read) was as considered as morally and almost as legally binding as a marriage which is why when broken the wronged party could sue for breach of promise and engagement rings were basically collateral for the promise. The actual marriage ceremony was more like a formality/wedding reception.

This is why it was considered so scandalous and reputation damaging to break off a betrothal and why sexual relations after betrothal were so common and expected (at least among the upper and lower classes - the middle class as is often the case tender to be prudes and sticklers) that about 25-30% of brides were pregnant by the time they married in Regency England.

Posted on Jul 3, 2012 7:11:43 AM PDT
tealadytoo says:
I don't know about "prudes and sticklers", exactly, but the middle classes tended to be more religious than the upper or lower classes (though the upper classes would pay lip service to the value of religion, anyway.)

In reply to an earlier post on Jul 3, 2012 7:27:06 AM PDT
Last edited by the author on Jul 3, 2012 7:29:47 AM PDT
I think it's far more to do with social position than being religious. The saying is morality is for the middle class because the poor can't afford it and the rich don't have to. The middle class is very conscious of being middle especially then since it was an emerging growing class far smaller than the lower classes. They dreaded slipping lower and aspired to being higher so they tended more toward minding their Ps and Qs. Interestingly this sensibility and mindset grew in the Victorian age until it was the more common practice or stance but there was so much rampant hypocrisy covering so much sin in that era that it's very doubtful the Victorians were more religious than their Regency, Georgian or Medieval counterparts.

Posted on Jul 3, 2012 7:35:28 AM PDT
tealadytoo says:
By the Victorian era, other forces were at work. Faith in science as the road to progress and prosperity was growing by leaps and bounds, partially displacing faith in a deity, while at the same time, the Queen was a stickler for old-fashioned "family values". Sincere on her part, but being Queen, she tended to impose her views on everybody else. Hence the rampant sexual hypocrisy of that era.

Posted on Jul 3, 2012 7:54:41 AM PDT
Last edited by the author on Jul 3, 2012 8:06:21 AM PDT
I'm trying to think of books that are steamy but have a long enough lead into marriage that it constitutes waiting... so often they're married (or even betrothed) right away there wasn't any time to wait. There are tons of trad regencies where there's waiting but very little sex if any let alone steam.

LaVyrle Spencer: Morning Glory
Judith McNaught: Almost Heaven
Jo Beverley: Dark Champion (waiting before and after marriage)
Elizabeth Lowell: Untamed (there's waiting after an arranged/forced marriage)
Madeline Hunter: By Arrangement
Mary Jo Putney: Veils Of Silk (waiting after marriage - hero is impotent)

Posted on Jul 3, 2012 9:10:34 AM PDT
AnekaTX says:
Secrets by Brenda Joyce. I'd say it's very steamy, but no s*x before marriage.

Posted on Jul 3, 2012 9:37:39 AM PDT
ap2010 says:
Keegan's Lady by Catherine Anderson h is scared of sex she was abused by family members if I remember correctly great H.

Posted on Jul 4, 2012 8:37:38 AM PDT
A. Esposito says:
Just curious, what kind of abuse in Keegan's Lady? No rape I hope.

Posted on Jul 4, 2012 9:15:23 AM PDT
ap2010 says:
I can't exactly remember if there's rape. I just remember I liked the book and it does fit the theme request. I'm sorry I read a lot and it has been awhile since I read the book.

In reply to an earlier post on Jul 4, 2012 9:41:24 AM PDT
MelissaB says:
In Keegan's Lady the h was raped by someone before the story starts. The H initially scares the h but when he realizes how abused she is, he is really sweet to her and tries to get her to trust him.
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