Are you an habit automaton? Or a decision maker?
Another way to put the question is "What percentage of your moments run on automatic, are controlled by old outdated habits and decisions?" Or its converse, "What percentage do you actively control and decide about?" How much freedom of choice do you exercise?
I find it hard to make an estimate. I'm 87 and am the most in charge of my life I have ever been. I have loads of habits. I acquired them starting from birth or perhaps even before. The vast majority I acquired unconsciously. I didn't choose them, I just fell into them, or was forced, or repeated situations established them. Many of them were bad---harmful to myself and some have been harmful to others. I'd say less than 20% of my moments ran on automatic yesterday. My guess is that your percentage was much higher. But make your own estimate. Put it out front with a post here.
I continue working on changing habits I want to eliminate and have been doing so for years. That's why I feel quite sure more of your moments run on automatic, are out of your control, than mine. But the point isn't to compare you and me. It's to compare you or me with the way we were the day before yesterday, last month, even last year.
I hope readers will join me in posting here on how we work on becoming more in charge of our own life. What succeeds in your effort? What in mine? What can we learn from each other? I hope for an active discussion: questions, answer, opinions, experiences.
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