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Are highly emotional people more prone to unhappiness?


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Initial post: Aug 4, 2012 8:40:47 PM PDT
Last edited by the author on Aug 4, 2012 9:11:56 PM PDT
John Adams says:
Recently I read a phrase, "If emotions control you most of the times, you are bound to bump into troubles frequently." (From "Discover Happiness" by Shengren) and it evoked a thought in me- are emotional people more likely to be unhappy? I have also observed from people near to me in my life that people who are kind of laid-back and don't seem to bother much about little things in life tend to be more happy. Its people who are tensed-up and look into the details of everything who seem to be more unhappy. What's your thought on this?

Posted on Aug 8, 2012 10:24:25 AM PDT
ZombieDiva says:
I agree with this sentiment, because emotional people attach a higher level of importance to things that may or may not be within their control. When things feel out of control, and they are very important to us, we tend to be bothered by it more. When we assign a high level of importance to everything around us, it's no wonder we get depressed when things don't work out the way we hoped or planned. We set ourselves up for disappointment. It becomes a cycle of ups and downs.

In reply to an earlier post on Aug 10, 2012 9:53:07 PM PDT
John Adams says:
Well Said ZombieDiva...

Posted on Aug 11, 2012 8:54:01 AM PDT
Blackout says:
I am a highly emotional person but I'll tell you it did take a while to learn how to guide that powerful emotional charge towards the positive and let the little things go. It takes practice and skill. I would rather have strong feelings than be a passive blah bag, yet you need to be able to detach yourself sometimes and recognize what emotions are - a a guidance system. When you follow your bliss and joy you usually are on track, and negative emotions are not bad nor should they be suppressed - they should be recognized and used to guide you, just like it feels better to see your gas tank is full than empty - empty is not 'bad' but merely an indicator you need more gas.

In reply to an earlier post on Aug 11, 2012 8:08:21 PM PDT
John Adams says:
@ Blackout: Liked what you said, specially the part, "I would rather have strong feelings than be a passive blah bag". I suppose Being emotional is not a bad thing. What matters is how much control you have and how much you can harness the powers of "emotion". Recognizing the root of one's emotion is very important and controlling behaviour is vital. That's why, these days, the topic of "emotional intelligence" is a much talked about topic and it is widely said that what matters for success and happiness is not IQ, but EQ (emotional intelligence)

Posted on Aug 16, 2012 3:59:16 PM PDT
PM says:
I don't consider myself a highly emotional person, but I do tend to "read" more into things people say than I probably should, and I tend to dwell on things that bother me a lot longer than I should. Like if I catch someone in a blatant lie, I take it personally. I assume that they don't respect me or think I am deserving of the truth, when in fact it is the liar that has a problem and prefers to lie instead of being truthful. But it's hard to not be offended by such a person. I think the secret to happiness is to not care at all what others think or say. But that kind of makes you less than human, emotionally detached. So to answer your question, yes, I think unemotional people are happier and on a more even keel than highly emotional types. They don't look to deeply under the surface of daily interactions with other people. I need to work on that!

In reply to an earlier post on Aug 18, 2012 3:47:02 AM PDT
John Adams says:
@ PM...Like what you wrote; however, given the description about yourself, I would tend to think that you are more on the emotional side. Nevertheless, I agree with one thing though; being able to ignore what others are saying is certainly a good thing. In fact, I think it is those who are confident about themselves, are good at ignoring what others are saying

Posted on Aug 18, 2012 11:57:32 PM PDT
Last edited by the author on Aug 18, 2012 11:58:58 PM PDT
Liz says:
I think all emotions are good and necessary. When I feel an emotion it is trying to tell me something. Either what I want or don't want in my life. I believe that emotions are like naughty children that want to be noticed and so as you give them attention they seem to go away. They might come back a bit later but seriously notice them and heed the message and they go away. However, ignore them or distract yourself from them and they grow and grow. Feelings aren't bad. Strong emotions aren't bad - it is just when people act on a strong emotion be it greed, happiness or anger- they do themselves a disservice. So I don't think highly emotional people will be prone to unhappiness but people who act when they are highly emotional will make poor choices.

Posted on Aug 22, 2012 12:55:46 AM PDT
John Adams says:
@ Liz...absolutely brilliantly said. Unfortunately, in most cases people with high emotion translate their emotion through their behaviours as well. But what you said is very right. Being a sack is not the way to go. Emotions are natural and cannot be denied. But what is important is to understand the emotion and to make sure that behaviour is not self-destructing due to high emotion.
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