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Initial post: Sep 18, 2009 10:47:25 PM PDT
Last edited by the author on Sep 28, 2009 1:27:07 PM PDT
2 cents says:
What is the Key to Happiness?

I'm not asking for lists like love your kids a lot and enjoy your cheesecake and deserts and play with cute puppies and appreciate rainbows and flowers and unicorns and have mind blowing sex and make lots of money and junk. No lists. I'm asking what is THE Key to Happiness, or is there one?

EDIT: And thanks for all the 'no' votes ------(s) ;-) My message to u - "L"

In reply to an earlier post on Sep 18, 2009 11:55:01 PM PDT
J. Westwind says:
Perfect health -- probably not possible :(

In reply to an earlier post on Sep 19, 2009 12:01:29 AM PDT
2 cents says:
Why not possible? What do you mean by "perfect"?

In reply to an earlier post on Sep 19, 2009 12:09:39 AM PDT
Last edited by the author on Sep 23, 2009 10:48:07 PM PDT
J. Westwind says:
Difficult to explain 'perfect' health.
Maybe...total self-appreciation and acceptance -- physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually ...
I would be a very different person if I loved, or even liked, everything about myself --
and I suspect that many, if not most, people feel the same way.

Posted on Sep 19, 2009 4:57:32 AM PDT
E. Levy says:
In my opinion the closest thing to a single key would be self worth. Happiness comes from within and from what I have witnessed if there is no self worth, a person feels they have no right to happiness. If you don't have it, no matter what wonderful things life presents to you, you will dismiss it and turn away because after all, you're not worthy...

In reply to an earlier post on Sep 19, 2009 11:06:15 AM PDT
2 cents says:
Good answer. I will contemplate this.

In reply to an earlier post on Sep 19, 2009 11:42:30 AM PDT
Aviva Lynne says:
Happiness is a choice. Decide to be happy. And realize that you are not the center of other people's universe. Most of the unhappy and/or angry people I know chose to be the victim in every situation. example: If a clerk is rude that day they think the clerk is being rude specifically to them. When a clerk is rude to me I think wow he/she is having bad day (going through a divorce, a family member's illness, a boss you just yelled at them, 3 rude customers that came before me, whatever...I just never assume the rudeness was because of me so I let it roll over my back and don't react in a way to escalate the situation and think I put the incident out of my mind)

In reply to an earlier post on Sep 19, 2009 12:02:27 PM PDT
2 cents says:
Right, unhappy people tend to think "it is all about me" whether they realize it or not. Funny. So, take it easy, you are not so important.

In reply to an earlier post on Sep 19, 2009 1:37:28 PM PDT
Just to add to this, if you accept every aspect of your-self, then all the other relationships in your life will be wonderful. Why? Because we only have subjective reality, or subjective consciousness. If there is nothing unacceptable about us, then there will be nothing unacceptable in those who come into our lives/consciousness.

And, when we are able to love, to really love everyone in our lives as we love our self, then we are in partnership with the Creator. This will bring us joy. More on this here: http://www.mindbridge-loa.com/reality-creation.html

Posted on Sep 19, 2009 2:33:03 PM PDT
The secret to happiness is...are you ready for it...YOU!!

Posted on Sep 19, 2009 3:55:15 PM PDT
Being true to yourself

In reply to an earlier post on Sep 20, 2009 10:40:54 AM PDT
I've been told many times it is "letting go and and letting God""--to which I usually would think, right!!??, if you were in my shoes you wouldn't say that!!. But yes it does happen to be true. To explain it in easier terms it means don't try so hard to control things and others or even question why me? I know, I hated people to tellme that but after haning finally done it, just really giving up that control and let the "God of your understanding " whio I guarantee you, sees the larger perspective will help you release that terrible burden of all that baggage you carry around you. I wouldn't tell you if I didn't know it to be true. I am living proof--and I was and still am a tough nut to rack. If God loses any sleep at night (which I doubt) I must take part of the blame. I know I've managed to frustrate everybody else who's had the "plesure" to know me. Good luck on your quest. It's no as hard as you think to get there. I'll be praying for you. Suzanne

In reply to an earlier post on Sep 20, 2009 10:42:55 AM PDT
Last edited by the author on Sep 20, 2009 10:45:14 AM PDT
Absolutely E. Levy. You hit the nail right on the head! (Easier said than done--don't you think? :-))

In reply to an earlier post on Sep 23, 2009 9:20:11 PM PDT
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In reply to an earlier post on Sep 23, 2009 10:54:24 PM PDT
Happiness is a personal thing and it is fleeting. The Buddhists think that all life is suffering and this is tied into attachment. If you give up attachment to things you will find happiness. Read my book, "A New Wrinkle: What I Learned fomr Older People Who Never Acted Their Age," and you will find out more about what happiness is adn and how to achieve it. Eric

In reply to an earlier post on Sep 23, 2009 10:54:54 PM PDT
Happiness is a personal thing and it is fleeting. The Buddhists think that all life is suffering and this is tied into attachment. If you give up attachment to things you will find happiness. Read my book, "A New Wrinkle: What I Learned fomr Older People Who Never Acted Their Age," and you will find out more about what happiness is adn and how to achieve it. Eric

In reply to an earlier post on Sep 23, 2009 11:37:25 PM PDT
Last edited by the author on Sep 23, 2009 11:37:52 PM PDT
2 cents says:
You can't give up attachment to things without giving up meaningful, authentic, passionate relationships with other human beings and with your self!

Buddhism is bunk. A religion for old hermits living in the woods and misty mountain tops and monks and nuns.

In reply to an earlier post on Sep 24, 2009 9:42:27 AM PDT
Zen Druid says:
Actually, Buddhism is alive and well in the US and worldwise, thanks. I would differ with your opinion that meaning, authenticity or passion requires attachment. These things can come from being fully engaged in the moment without being attached to the outcome.

In reply to an earlier post on Sep 24, 2009 11:11:00 PM PDT
2 cents says:
>>fully engaged in the moment without being attached to the outcome.

Without being attached to outcome.... NO interest or desire for any particular outcome.... I'll just "be in the moment" and not care whatsoever about what happens as a result of what I am doing or why I am doing. I mean why do something if, hey, I am only in the present moment and desire for a particular result is wrongheaded? Just going with the flow now....I think..I am..starting to get teh oops typo what;s it mater im in the moment nowjjdoooooosdf dfhf djjj euujd whatever dhdjd it is doo notttnfsidufh slnufhhdfvnmmattter jwata i do no outtcome dfpendent sd ffddkjnc dddifdjsjmsl

In reply to an earlier post on Sep 25, 2009 2:52:56 PM PDT
Last edited by the author on Sep 25, 2009 3:05:48 PM PDT
C. Goff says:
Bob,

Maybe all the things you "listed" are the keys, cheesy as they may seem.

Or, maybe the "key" is to stop looking for keys, including THE Key to Happiness. Just accept what happens without complaining about it. Stop seeking happiness. Just seek the Truth in all things, do what you know is Good, and if you are so inclined, Pray.

If you're uncertain how to pray, here's a helpful primer:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fINh4SsOyBw&feature=related

On a more practical level, maybe it's a vocation thing. Consider:

What are your values, what do you care about the most?
What are your skills, what do you do well? (this could even be something abstract, like thinking, reading, studying, etc., as well as "job" skills)
What do you enjoy doing the most? (including "lazy" things like sitting around doing nothing).

Values + Skills + Pleasure = "Bliss"

You could even leave out the pleasure part: Values + Skills = "bliss", maybe

Wait a minute...something's coming over me...I'M SPEAKING IN TOUNGUES...I HEAR YOU LORD, YES, YES, I'LL TELL THEM!

The Pythonic Revelations!!!

Here you go Bob, all the answers to Life! Behold:

Your Place in the Grand Scheme of Things
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LQqq3e03EBQ

How to Handle Life's Biggest Challenges, Including Pain and Death
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1loyjm4SOa0

And Finally, the MEANING OF LIFE!!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qBArMmngVH4

Ultimately, Bob, you gotta figure it out for yourself. If there was an easy answer we'd all know it by now and wouldn't be having this conversation.

Just laugh right in the face of adversity, boredom and pain, like some drunken Viking and don't take crap from anybody, Bob!

In reply to an earlier post on Sep 25, 2009 6:33:11 PM PDT
2 cents says:
>>like some drunken Viking<<

Alcohol is never the answer.

Posted on Sep 26, 2009 5:55:22 AM PDT
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In reply to an earlier post on Sep 26, 2009 10:44:44 AM PDT
Hi Bob,

There is no key to happiness. It is a combination lock.
If you follow the steps to happiness which are simple, you can unlock the door to happiness. All of your respondents are correct, good health, self esteem, choosing to be happy, self acceptance, accepting the world as it is, generosity, forgiveness of self, and more importantly, of others, are all part of the combination.
So...if you are asking how to get happy, you must know some basic information about happiness AND THEN you have to practice the daily tools to rewire your brain. We have more than enough information about WHAT happiness is (scientifically proven by Positive Psychologists) now we have to APPLY the proven and effective tools simply to every day life. From information to transformation, if you will. In other words "Knowing is not Being".

People are born with a happiness set point. According to research performed by positive psychologists, 50% is genetics (happiness set point). 10% is your environment and 40% is changeable. Studies prove that your INTENTIONAL activities can boost your set point. So for the poor sucker that has a happiness set point of a measly 3 out of 10 there is a lot of work to do. The lucky one with a set point of 8 doesn't have to do much to reach and maintain a state of joy.

Ask yourself right now, on a scale of 1 - 10, what is my happiness set point. At what level do I live most of every day of my life? Am I in frustration, irritation and impatience or am I in contentment? Do I get angry a lot or do I let things flow. If your score is low, you have some work to do. If your score is high, you have only a little ways to go.

We have started Applied Happiness Foundation to develop the tools to help people who are seeking the answers to happiness. The goal of the organization is to provide a solid foundation of positivity to help you find joy in your life, to find your place in this world.....Buddha, Jesus Christ, Lao Tsu, Carl Jung etc etc all had parts of the combination to happiness. The trick is to put it all together in this unique modern world that we live in to make sense of YOUR meaning of life.

Our website is under development...stay tuned for more information on the tools of applied happiness....

Mary Ann Cullens

In reply to an earlier post on Sep 26, 2009 9:22:03 PM PDT
Remove 'that' which makes you unhappy from your life. Don't worry about what other people think so much. Happiness will come on its own.
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