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Open Marriage vs. Swinging vs. Swapping

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Initial post: Nov 20, 2009 10:41:26 AM PST
Anonymous says:
My defination as far as I know is as this:

Open Marriage means dating others without your spouse, having sex without your spouse present and loving your spouse first but it being ok to see other people.

Swinging means to share others with your spouse and both people are present at all times with subtle variations of course.

Swapping means your swapping partners with someone else and your spouse is not present.

Here is my question to all you fun loving folks!!! My wife and I have been swingers, on occasion we have not both been present while the other is out having fun with another couple or group, but can anyone share a success story of swapping. I mean I think I would be alright with it. I mean I would have another man or woman and she would have the same as well. However, for me, my biggest thrill gained from swinging was always to watch my wife with another person. What is the perspective on Swapping and Open Marriages???

In reply to an earlier post on Nov 20, 2009 3:34:15 PM PST
G. JOHNSON says:
Would not like to see my wife with another man ever, nor would she want to see me with another woman.

Posted on Nov 20, 2009 9:27:04 PM PST
fook4fun says:
The turn on of swapping is knowing what the other is leaving for and hearing the hot stories of what they did when they get home. Some like the idea of knowing there partner is being pleased/being the pleaser. All of these forms are voyeuristic fun if both sides agree.

Posted on Nov 20, 2009 9:29:28 PM PST
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In reply to an earlier post on Nov 21, 2009 12:52:39 PM PST
G. JOHNSON says:
Only if you can't please your significant other would that be a turn on, some men I think allow that type of behavior out of fear that if they do not their wife/girlfriend will leave them.

Posted on Nov 21, 2009 1:38:51 PM PST
Amazon guy says:
My wife has a special friend since 9-28-07 and they have been together sexually at his home 26 separate occassions. I encouraged her each time. I watch her dress up w/new lingerie each time she meets this married man and I wait at home for her return each time. They spend 2 to 3 hours together with my approval. Sharing has enhanced my sex afterwards and made my lust, love, marriage much stronger. My wife likes sex with her friend from her previous employment and likes the other (married) man wanting her sexually and also likes how "horny" and "hard" I get knowing she has had sex with another man. Our sex together after she returns is enormously intense and satisfying. I only hope she continues the sharing sexually with other men. We are 61 and 58, 155 and 125 lbs, in shape and still have sex 5 to 6 times a week besides our sharing. All of this is only possible because of sexully sharing our love and marriage together totally.
Thank you to open marriages and swinger club events that can and WILL save and enhance any marriage and committment you both have. This is a REAL story of our36 year marriage, two grown children and 2 grandchildren. We also attend church weekly and are very comunity involved.

In reply to an earlier post on Nov 22, 2009 8:16:13 AM PST
Anonymous says:
I agree very much with everything you said funlovingcouple. I believe a strong sexual appetite makes for a stronger marriage. i think however, that i would also want to play with another if my wife was. I am very much a voyuer when it comes to my wife, but i also love to participate too!!!

In reply to an earlier post on Dec 5, 2009 3:09:17 PM PST
Altair31 says:
My wife also dresses up and goes out occasionally. Similarly our sex together is very hot when she returns home. We also from time to time get together with single guys for MFM threesomes, and the sexual sessions can run on for a couple of hours (taking turns)
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Posted on Dec 22, 2009 9:03:52 AM PST
Anonymous says:
I think I would very much enjoy my wife getting dressed up and leaving to go out on a date. Especially if I was able to meet the guy or girl. Watching my wife get ready would be like the feeling a kid gets on Christmas Eve, when there is nothing under the tree but knows by the time he wakes up that tree will be completly surrounded with gifts. I love my wife very much and am very capable of pleasing her. She is very capable of pleasing me as well, however, after 13 years together, you have to spice things up a bit. Some will say that they believe they can control a person from leaing you or cheating on you. I say thats BS. If a person is going to cheat or leave, there is nothing you can do whatsoever, short of taking their legs off, which is not reccommended!!! My biggest turn on is watching my wife have sex another man, seconded only by her with another woman. The thrill from that is like watching a live action porn movie. Except in this porn movie you get to be involved.

When you first meet someone, you try everything you can to impress someone, and the heat from flirting and the initial sexual encounter are so revved up from the heat of lust that it seems to be the best its ever going to get. After many years of marriage the heat goes down. Most marriages end in divorce because someone strays looking for that same heat. So what harm comes from adding to the heat WITH the person you love. Most men do not cheat because they do not love their spouse. They love them, but want to feel the heat again. Women cheat mostly, because when a man courts a woman he is opening doors, buying roses and candies and taking them out to fancy dinners. Women miss that and that also tends to dwindle with time in a marriage. So I say again, what is so bad from heating the marriage up WITH the person you love. As long as you constantly communicate, express feelings of love with only your spouse then it can't be bad.

Plus I love watching men flirt with my wife. Its like working at a candy store (being the owner of all the candy) and having a bus load of kids come in with a pocket full of money and wanting nothing more then to taste the perfect sugary goodness you have to offer!!!

In reply to an earlier post on Dec 22, 2009 9:42:51 AM PST
Amazon guy says:
Hi I Be Me, Check out my post above from Nov 21st. Your marriage sounds like ours! Ours is a "TRUE" story of our last two years of marriage. 28 marriage enhancement days my wife shared with her special friend w/benefits. The sharing sexually has definitely made our marriage much stronger, exciting, fulfilled and enhanced. Sharing sexually is not cheating and will enhance and strengthen your marriage. I could not stand my wife cheating but....I love knowing she is spending sexual time with her special guy friend and I lie waiting in bed for her to return and share everything they did together with me. Our sex lives keep getting better each day!!!!!!!
I would not change a thing in our longterm marriage! Thanks babe for enhancing our sex lives
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