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Initial post: Feb 6, 2012 8:05:02 PM PST
If I told you that I had a weight loss client that was in a particular bad mood regarding her current weight you might not be surprised as it seems to be a lifelong struggle for most. But what if I told you that this client is 55 years old and she is 5'5" and weighed in today at 127 pounds?

Now wait a minute... Put down that axe and read on.
This situation is a lot more common than you might think. Often times individuals are not able to understand the reality of their situation and fall victim to "thegrassisalwaysgreeneritis". It's a real condition!

It's not a person's weight that is the problem it is their perception. Clients that are 300 plus pounds tell me that I am trying to recruit "fat people" to make money when I should be telling them that they are fine and that people should accept the overweight for who they are. After I grab some tissue and wipe away the tears I tell them, "That's like telling diabetics that they should accept the fact that they are just sweet people."

Whereas a person should always be happy with whom they are they should also always expect a certain level of health from themselves, both physically and mentally. How a person perceives their health, their ideal body weight, and especially how they perceive their rate of success is key in achieving long term success and maintaining it.
Here are the 7 most common misconceptions that we hear on the Genetix Program when it comes to diet, weight loss and fitness.
How many do you have?

7. I gained some weight today, but I didn't eat anything unhealthy... Maybe the weight I gained is muscle.

Gaining muscle is not easy, and it is not something that happens over night. It takes weeks of concentration and effort. So the weight you put on overnight is probably NOT muscle mass.
Gaining weight takes the same amount of focus and preparation as losing weight. Some important facts about gaining weight:
You can not gain muscle without gaining some amount of fat as well.
There are no magic foods, powders or pills that will allow you to gain muscle and lose fat at the same time. Some people can do this naturally (again, the genes), but most will gain some fat along with the muscle.

Your body is extremely different from a bodybuilder-trying to gain mass to look like them is not the best idea. Bodybuilders have different muscle fibers than you or I and some bodybuilders may even be getting a little help from illegal substances.
Gaining weight requires a combination of consuming more calories as well as lifting more.

6. If I do well on my diet I should expect to lose 1 pound per day!

I often tell my clients that you can be stuck on a desert island with only water for 1 month and you still would not manage to lose 1 pound per day. The average weight loss that any person should expect is approximately .5 - 2 pounds per week regardless of what type of diet program you are undertaking. Factors that influence the rate of weight loss include: age, genes, exercise, stress levels, sleep levels, certain medical conditions, and certain medications and of course most of all your diet.

5. My friend lost weight and now she looks TOO SKINNY! I would never want to look like that.

The WHO (World Health Organization) has set certain weight parameters that are based on a person's Body Mass Index to help set the highest standard of health. These BMI parameters may seem to be strict, but they are optimal and based on years f medical research.

People tend to tell others that they are "too skinny!" when either one, they themselves cannot get off their butts and lose weight, so to make themselves feel better they will try to make you feel worse. Or two it is because America has become such an obese nation that some people are actually confused about what is actually healthy and what is not.

Simply put, if you fall within your normal BMI range for your age, sex and height then you are healthy. Despite what other misguided or jealous people might tell you.

4. My friend was on the program and lost 30 lbs in two months so I should definitely lose, at least, that much.

American writer, Ken S. Keyes once wrote, "To be upset over what you don't have is to waste what you do have."
No two people are alike EVER! There are so many different factors that determine a person's rate of weight loss that you cannot compare your weight loss with that of anyone else, including your own family.

Always remember that no matter how tough it is to lose weight, you WILL lose your weight eventually no matter how bad your metabolism is, or how old you are as long as you learn two very important lessons: 1. Patience and 2. Consistency.
3. Yesterday I ate a little bit of this or that, but I exercised for an hour, why did I still gain weight?

Remember, diet is 80% of weight loss whereas exercise and other factors make up only 20%. Even the smallest slip in your diet can be very impactful on your weight. This is why focus and accountability are very important in losing and maintaining your weight.

2. I went to a party and didn't eat the pizza or chips, or soda or even beer and I just had a little bit of cake... why did I gain weight?

Unfortunately your scale does not factor in the foods that you could have eaten but didn't. You can't fool the scale. If you could my little nephew would have been thrilled when he got on the scale and tried to suck in his gut to get the scale to go down.
The only thing that matters is what crosses your lips.

1. I am doing everything right, and I am not losing weight... I guess it is just not meant to be.

Sometimes it may seem that you are doing everything right, but the simple fact is YOU'RE NOT. There is no condition that will completely stop a person from losing weight.

People often think that the hardest clients that the Genetix Counselors have to deal with are the clients that go off the diet and have a donut or pizza when they should not. But, believe it or not, these clients are not the hardest to deal with. They know what they are doing is wrong, and need support and accountability to change their ways.

The hardest clients to deal with are the clients that believe they are eating healthy, but in fact they are not. How do you tell someone who firmly believes that what he or she is doing is right, is in fact wrong?

There are a lot of foods out there that appear to be healthy, but they are not. Combination of foods and amount of foods are other factors that when unbalanced can really throw you off your diet even though it may appear that you are doing everything right.

It is important to not jump to conclusions about your weight loss. Listen to the experts and be patient. Most of all a POSITIVE ATTITUDE is key when losing weight and getting in shape. Remember, there is nothing that can stop you from losing weight. It's just a matter of time. Be patient you will get there. In the meantime appreciate how far you've come and always strive for more.

Posted on Feb 10, 2012 8:47:21 AM PST
Thanks for the tips Darby. But there is one thing I totally disagree with...
you say, "There is no condition that will completely stop a person from losing weight."
Sorry, but thyroid and hormonal issues can definitely alter a person's weight loss success. When I dealt with my hormones and changed my macro-nutrient ratio to higher fat, lower carb, but most of all a higher quality of food, I lost 47 lbs. Today I am 122 lbs, fit and slim. That was almost 3 yrs ago and I am well over 60 yrs. old.

In reply to an earlier post on Feb 10, 2012 9:03:22 AM PST
Freelyn, thanks for the reply. I'm glad that the tips are of some value to you. In regards to thyroid and hormone issues. You are right that they play a major role in a person losing weight, but they can still lose weight. It is just a matter of finding the right combination of macro nutrients in an individuals diet to help them be successeful with their weight loss. Along with patience and a strong support network.

Posted on Feb 1, 2013 2:55:16 PM PST
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To lose weight, you have to drink a lot of water, run a lot and minimize your calories intake. I have substituted soft drinks with water; I drink water whenever I feel like drinking soda. Whenever I feel hungry, I drink water first to see if it can satiate my hunger. Avoid the habit of going to bed immediately after eating. Walk around to feel that the food you've eaten has digested before you should go to bed. In addition, you shouldn't nor drink too much sweet or sugary food. In my case since I wanted to lose weight badly, I stopped eating and drinking sugary foods and drinks. I included a lot of vegetables in my food and ate a lot of fruits.

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