Today is the first time I have ever gone under these discusions. I was insulted, and treated terrible. I am laid up from surgery and was trying to get my mind off my pain. I will not go on these discussions again. I could not believe how many people tore me apart because I said I don't think our children should get very expensive gifts because most people cannot afford them. I love kids and Christmas but this place is not where you can get your mind of your pain.
Merry Christmas to you and hope you feel better soon. Give GBF another try and don't get disccouraged I agree with you, if you can't afford an expensive gift for a kid don't get one, stay within your budget. Some of my best memories were of the whole family being together, playing games and a nice meal together, the gifts were second by far.
MERRY CHRISTMAS. I agree with you re : spending on gifts. As usual I went over board, however, I bought no "big " gifts. I have been watching for and picking up clearance stuff since May. I too spend surgery recovery time here -ignore the dolts as able and check out other forums. Get well soon and MERRY CHRISTMAS.
Well if you really think about it you can come on here and it seems talk about whatever you want. Then others from around the world can talk junk about what you said or agree but in any case if the fools mad you mad you can try and talk it back to them and before you know it your chatting back and forth about some dumb topic that you might be getting mad about or you might be trying to get your point across but in either case you might not have your mind on the pain you have any more just the pain in the butt some people can be on here. ;)
Dear Emily, For most of us who have participated in forum discussions, with any kind of opinion, facts, or concerns expressed by us, get roasted from time to time. Typing in insults, mean spirited comments, and false accusations is very easy when your entire identity can be anything you say it is, truth or not. Then there are those who have started discussions, declaring it is for the community good and they will find a friendly ear, or support there, but later attack others when they do not agree, feel hurt by a comment they take personally , or simply make up some complaint about another out of thin air, causing a lot of damage to the thread or the person they attack. It then become s clear, the discussion they started is, in reality, really for their own uplifting, support, or need of ego stroking. They often see life in terms of black and white thinking, and they are 'always right'! (Any perceived apology, if in fact they seem to see they are wrong in some minor way, is way overdone by them and then they will repeat the cycle many times). The short of it (too late! Sorry! ;) !) is there is a huge mix of good and bad, helpful and hurtful, interesting and horrid, comments and people on this site.
The trick is to learn to tell the difference in who to listen to and who to let go of while participating. Especially now, at a time when you are most vulnerable, healing from a surgery. Only you can stop someone from hurting your feelings or letting it stress you out. It is hard when surprised by someone's cruel jabs, but it is necessary to develop the skill of keeping it in perspective, so it won't cause you so much distress. Don't let someone else push you out of something you once enjoyed. Unless you really were not into discussions online, really it is up to you. There is a free book from 'Jungle Deals and Steals' that someone does in mass email form, that has a book on how to reduce your personal stress, in e-form today. You can down load Amazon Cloud and keep it on your computer to read at your leisure.
I don't post often myself anymore..takes a good bit of time, and energy I do not always have myself. But I just wanted to let you know not everyone 'out here' is 'out there' mentally, or insensitive to others, or a 'troll'. It was a nice thing for you to do, starting a good will thread wishing others Happy Holidays.
I wish for you speedy and complete recovery from surgery. Also, I hope you have a very Merry Christmas, and Happy New Year!!