Columnist for Forbes, HuffPo and Harvard Bus. Review, Emmy-winning former NBC commentator and Wall Street Journal reporter Kare Anderson speaks on ways to communicate-to-connect, be more frequently quoted
It’s probably no surprise to you that we most admire those who exude the right balance of strength and warmth, even if the notion runs counter to Machiavelli’s famous view that, “It is better to be feared than loved if you cannot be both.” If you’re a woman or non-white this capacity is especially vital according Compelling People co-authors John Neffinger and Matthew Kohut. For example, they discovered that Hillary Clinton “has been the butt of more jokes than any other human being, living or dead.”
Here are some of their tips:
• “It’s not up to women to conform by replacing strength with warmth, but rather to increase their expression of both,” suggests Neffinger… Read more
Many books promise to provide specific tips yet one sure sign is how much we underline sentences and add reminder notes next to nuggets, then turn the corner of the page over for easy review (or at least that's my method when reading a printed version fo a book). In this book I found myself doing those things a lot. If you seek concrete ways to reduce conflict from happening, or dissolving it once it strikes, and turning more situations into opportunities to change your mind-set and actions to turn more situations into opportunities to genuinely connect with others without manipulation, you, too may find this book valuable. His conversation tone reinforces his core message… Read more
One of the most exciting upsides of social media is that merit can matter more than money, title and even physical attractiveness. With our increasingly connectedness, digitally, merit is often measured by the value and relevance of our ideas - and how we visibly support each other. That's why I'm a fan of Klout Matters because it shows us exactly how we measure up to others so we can get ever better at what we offer, thus legitimately burnishing our brand - and benefitting from it. As well, the humanizing side of social media can be about shining a bright light on what you most admire in others.
And there's another humanizing benefit, and flip side horrifying downside with the… Read more