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4.0 out of 5 stars
Cupidity by Michael and Hayley DiMarco Book Review, January 28, 2010
This review is from: Cupidity: 50 Stupid Things People Do for Love and How to Avoid Them (Paperback)
Cupidity. I laughed when I saw the title. Cupid and Stupidity all rolled into one and just in time for Valentine's day! "The DiMarcos must have one sick sense of humor." I thought to myself. Then I read the tag line, "50 stupid things people do for love *(*and how to avoid them)". Covering topics such as "Expecting another person to bring you hope, joy or peace," "Blending finances before marriage," and "Fearing the silence," the Hayley and Michael DiMarco show that they are not afraid to get down to the nitty gritty in their new book.
Broken into five sections, Cupidity is both easy to navigate and that is what makes it such a huge resource. My favorite (is it ok to say favorite even though it convicted me? Hmmmm.) act of cupidity (read: one that I am guilty of and willing to admit on my blog) is "not accepting his kills". The DiMarcos that since your husband no longer has to literally kill something to provide for you, he instead will bring you flowers or other acts of service. When I receive his roses with an exasperated, "You shouldn't have spent the money" he becomes depressed and exasperated at me. If instead I had accepted them with a smile and a kiss and an exuberant "Thank you!" my husband would have been reaffirmed in his ability to provide for me.
All in all, I give this book four stars. It took me a bit to get into it, but once I did, it was a quick and helpful read. It is also a book that I would put on the bookshelf to reference in the future!
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1 of 1 people found the following review helpful:
4.0 out of 5 stars
If you're single, Don't chase him. If you're married, Let him decide., February 14, 2010
This review is from: Cupidity: 50 Stupid Things People Do for Love and How to Avoid Them (Paperback)
Hayley and Michael DiMarco define Cupidity as love meeting stupid. It takes our quirks in how we handle/react to the opposite sex and teaches us how we can get the results we want by doing things a little different. Despite the seriousness of the subject, Cupidity uses a lighthearted approach to help us discover each other.
Personally, it made me chuckle here and there because I could see myself and my husband in some of the pages. For example, Cupidity tells us what romance means to men versus women:
Women - flowers, surprise picnics, love notes
Men - An Xbox 360, power tools, a 1966 Mustang
The above items describe romance in my own relationship to a T.
The authors tell us that "Love is not a feeling. Adrenaline can feel like love. Jumping out of an airplane can feel like love." Some of you who are single out there may remember the adrenaline rush of meeting a new date, or finding a new crush. It can certainly feel like love, especially if you become somewhat obsessed over the other person. Well, Cupidity gives you a few tips. For women, let him get the door, plan and pay for the date, plus let him call you back versus you calling him back. This allows him to take that leadership role early on, versus letting him follow your lead. It might save you from having to be the boss if the date moves forward into a relationship. "A few descriptions for women who try to be the boss are bossy, nagging, unthankful, and difficult."
The cover of the book actually lists thestupid things people do for love. Not what you would typically expect. Some of them are Trying to fix things, Pleasing the other person at all costs, Rehearsing the other person's faults in your own mind, Using sex to get love. Many of us need direction in the area of relationships, and whether you're single or married, this book will definitely give you incite on how to handle yourself to improve the quality of your relationships.
God bless.
A free copy was given for review by Tyndale House Publishers, Inc.
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3 of 4 people found the following review helpful:
4.0 out of 5 stars
My Review of Cupidity by Haley and Michael DiMarco, January 20, 2010
This review is from: Cupidity: 50 Stupid Things People Do for Love and How to Avoid Them (Paperback)
The book is about learning what constitutes "Cupidity" in a relationship. According to the authors there are emotional, mental,physical,social and spiritual cupidity. From the first chapter "..acts of Cupidity aren't disastrous, and they are most often reversible.They're what some like to call opportunities to "fail forward." Every failure at love is just a chance for you to learn more about what not to do. And that's not just the case in dating; the first year of marriage is often full of close-quarters Cupidity." Cupidity is about the differences between a man and a woman and how each gender handles certain things like women wanting romance and a man wanting a soulmate.
Each chapter gives advice as to how to avoid these Cupidity challenges, aka stupid love, and to have the relationship with your significant other that you want . Along with the relationship advice on how to deal with the cupidity there is spiritual advice as well. A lot of quotes from the bible to help you on your way to changing your lives.
I found, for the most part, this book to be interesting. Did I disagree with some of it? Yes I did, I have been married to my husband for 27 years and together for 30. We raised four children together from the cradle and assisted them in flying from the nest. A marriage is a partnership and both genders are equal in my mind. The book states,as in the Bible,that a woman should honor and obey a man. I think that the man and woman should honor and obey each other. Again, my opinion.
This book was easy to read and uplifting in a way, but not a book that I would use in my life. Would I recommend it to others? Yes I would. There was some humor in it and like I said a lot of reference and quotes from the bible that that in itself helped me to understand the message that the authors were trying to tell the reader. Oh yes, I liked cover and the font is a maroon color instead of the usual black print....This book would make a great gift for the upcoming Valentine's Day!!!
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