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by Melody Beattie (Author) "Hurry," I told the taxi driver as we wound our way through the village of Giza..." (more)
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Using the unlikely backdrop of Northern Africa, Melody Beattie (author of Co-Dependent No More) blends the genres of travel adventure and spiritual quest. Traveling mishaps such as being led unknowingly into the souk of Cairo (rumored to be a clandestine marketplace of no return), become metaphors for learning how to let go of fear while still honoring your instincts. Interrogations at border crossings symbolize the self-examination we must endure before crossing over to a new stage of enlightenment. Fortunately, this is not a U.S.-centric travelogue. In war-ravaged Algiers, Beattie diligently pursues the truth of its people rather than her own reactions to poverty and terrorism. Despite its pop-psychology title, this is a book of impressive depth, exploring the global challenge of loving thy neighbor as well as thy self. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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This is a sequel to Beattie's best-selling book, Codependent No More (Hazelden, 1993). Her new work contains the same compassionate tone and penetrating insight for which Beattie has become well known and loved. She takes her audience on an odyssey that starts in Northern Africa. On her journey she shares hope and encouragement and employs analogies along the way to Casablanca, Algeria, and Egypt. She provides lessons about letting go of fear and trusting one's instincts. This is a masterful blend of travel adventure and a refreshing guide to spiritual discovery. Some of Beattie's other books include The Lessons of Love (HarperSanFrancisco, 1994) and Journey to the Heart (HarperSanFrancisco, 1996). Recommended for libraries with self-help collections.?Ravonne A. Green, Emmanuel Coll. Lib., Franklin Springs, Ga.
Copyright 1997 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.

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Paperback: 228 pages
Publisher: Hazelden (September 17, 1998)
Language: English
ISBN-10: 1568382863
ISBN-13: 978-1568382869
Product Dimensions: 7.2 x 5.9 x 0.5 inches
Shipping Weight: 8 ounces (View shipping rates and policies)

Average Customer Review: 3.0 out of 5 stars See all reviews (18 customer reviews)

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Hurry," I told the taxi driver as we wound our way through the village of Giza. Read the first page

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United States, Tel Aviv, Master Huang, Middle East, Insha'a Allah, Los Angeles, Lotus Palace Perfumes, Three Treasures, Codependent No More, Museum of Man, Air France, Christmas Day, Santa Anas

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A Course in Miracles, Combined Volume: Text, Workbook for Students, Manual for Teachers, 2nd Edition by Foundation for Inner Peace in Back Matter (1), and Back Matter (2)
A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of "A Course in Miracles" by Marianne Williamson in Back Matter
Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself by Melody Beattie in Front Matter
The Arabian Nights: The Marvels and Wonders of the Thousand and One Nights (Signet classics) by Anonymous in Back Matter
Wonders of the World (World Book Looks at) by World Book Encyclopedia in Back Matter

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More Language of Letting Go: 366 New Daily Meditations (Hazelden Meditation Series) by Melody Beattie on page 290, and page 351
When Working Out Isn't Working Out: A Mind/Body Guide to Conquering Unidentified Fitness Obstacles by Michael Gerrish in Back Matter
Finding Your Way Home: A Soul Survival Kit by Melody Beattie in Front Matter
Salvation: Black People and Love by bell hooks on page 8

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5.0 out of 5 stars To all of YOU who have written a review for this book, May 31, 2005

By	Rafael Romo "Skywalker" (Mexico City) - See all my reviews (REAL NAME)

I am writing to all of you who have written a review about this book, and especially to Melody Beattie. To the person who mocked about Melody's inner civil war, or you're already a god or you will never ever hope to KNOW what an inner civil war is. And to the rest of you, this book is not about traveling through Nothern Africa, it is about INNER travel, if you were trying to read an action-packed James Bond or Indiana Jones story, you guys picked the wrong book. This is not a fiction book, it is a book about how to find your inner deamons, your fears, face them and come through truly successfuly. This is a "self-help" book, and should be rated accordingly. I lived an inner civil war myself, and Melody greatly helped in making me understand how everything lies in subtleness, awareness, in trusting the universe. In trusting yourself, in listening to yourself for once! Hence the name of the book. This certainly was one of the pivotal steps in helping me change my life. This book is for people WHO needs it, otherwise you'd be bored to hell, of course. Every kind of book, song, movie, painting, etc... has a porpuse and is meant for certain kind of people. Just stop for a moment and THINK before you rate a book...before you rate anything. It is NOT about "if I liked it or not", it is about "does it work?" This book is not a novel, it is a tool for those who need it. It didn't work for you because you didn't need it. I needed it, and guess what, it worked. It really did. THANK YOU VERY VERY MUCH MELODY, YOU REALLY HELPED SOMEONE BE MORE CONSCIOUS, MORE AWARE AND A BETTER PERSON. I ONLY WISH I COULD CONTACT YOU TO TELL YOU THIS PERSONALLY. GOD BLESS YOU, AND YOUR DAUGHTER. -Rafael Romo, Mexico City.

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5.0 out of 5 stars The inspiration I needed ..., November 22, 2000

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It's interesting how things/situations "speak" to some people and don't to others. Books are this way. Some reviewers found Stop Being Mean to Yourself a waste of time, but I found it an inspiration and an adventure that made me WANT to stop feeling sorry for myself, to KNOW that I should listen to my higher self and to BEGIN being good to myself. I felt I was led to this book - I read it in one day, with verve! It's true that it seems to be a "story" about Beattie's adventures and her personal quest for enlightenment, but that's what I liked about it! I was looking for something different, something interesting - a "story" about life and what others have experienced that I want and need (whether it is fact or fiction!). Plain and simple, it touched me with its simplicity. I related to Melody's struggles - her questioning and searching and uncertainty. ... I've read plenty of spiritual awareness and self-help books with daily affirmations, etc., (from wealthy, educated doctor types! - does it make a difference who's actually doing the writing if it speaks to you?!) but they have gotten old - Melody intrigued me. She re-engaged my creativity and my interest in myself - not necessarily on fixing myself, but in being loving and nurturing to myself. I felt understood reading this book, because I felt that Melody is "one of us." She's on the same spirtual path (but maybe farther ahead ;-)) as the rest of us who read this book and any of the thousands of others that exist on similar subjects. I was brought to this book - as other people may have come upon it for their own personal reasons - if you weren't touched by this one, there will be another book out there that WILL get to you. As Melody makes clear, we all have our own journey - no two are the same - and that's what stood out to me. I may feel comfort in hearing about someone else's journey or struggle, but mine is my own and I will forge my own path. Thank you Melody for putting me back on that path and helping me to realize that no one guru or doctor or person can tell me what's right for me! That's for me to find out in my own way.

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4.0 out of 5 stars Simple but enlightening, January 5, 2003

By	Elaine "booklover1030" (New York, NY) - See all my reviews

The title of this enlightening read caught my eye, for the very fact that there have been times when I've treated myself with less kindness than I show others. In Stop Being Mean to Yourself, Melody Beattie finds a unique way to unravel the reasons why this may be so. The sensitive solar plexus (the pit of the stomach) is an area of her body which she becomes quite aware of as she recounts her 1996 journey through Algeria, Morocco and Egypt. The "leap of faith" she describes taking in those exotic locales helped me to vicariously experience her inner transformation, which is really what this book is about.

Cairo and Giza are areas of the world wherein the 'ancient' rubs shoulders with the 'modern.' While being guided through the "souk" or marketplace, Beattie observed a man using a stick to hit thieves within the crowd (thus identifying them for the benefit of others in his vicinity.) It occurred to her that she had been "walking without a stick" all these years - she had never been able to protect herself from those who would do her harm, much less identify them. This insight reveals a yearning for intuition and gives you the sense that her capacity for self-preservation is overdue.

Symbolism permeates her tale. There are references to living in a psychological "box" and being tossed about as in a "vortex" - she makes good use of these images in describing some very disturbing episodes in her journey. What emerges, in the end, is Beattie's realization that her pain-filled life has had a greater purpose after all; her self-awareness which she can share through her writings can now help others in their quest for meaning and fulfillment.

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3.0 out of 5 stars "About" is the Key Word Here
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2.0 out of 5 stars Stop being a rich whiny woman!
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4.0 out of 5 stars An inner and outer travel diary
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Published on February 11, 2002 by Ellen C. Falkenberry

1.0 out of 5 stars Very Disappointing
This book started as an adventure of Melodies trip to the Middle East. And, I have to say that I enjoyed it as a novel and hearing about different aspects in the Middle East... Read more

Published on July 22, 2001 by AmethystRosee

2.0 out of 5 stars a travelogue disguised as self-help
let's be honest, it's really a travelogue. i couldn't quite figure out how this book related to not being mean to yourself, and i felt melody beattie, in creating this book,... Read more

Published on June 16, 2001 by Daniel Mackler

2.0 out of 5 stars I'm going to stop by not finishing this book
To say this book is a follow-up to Co-dependent No More is hype. It is an interesting travelogue and probably a tax write-off. Read more

Published on January 4, 2000 by msgranddame

1.0 out of 5 stars A Wide-eyed new-ager's trite journey of self-discovery
Melody is not just your average dumb, uncritically accepting new-age type. She's a rich, bestselling, dumb, uncritically accepting new-age type. Read more

Published on April 5, 1999

2.0 out of 5 stars This book is more about autobiography than self-help.
Beattie's "Stop Being Mean to Yourself" promises to guide you to a place of self-discovery; however, the book is more about Beattie's own inner journey than it is a... Read more

Published on December 7, 1998

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