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Know what you need (and what you don't) when Baby arrives

A guide by Lisa

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Despite what salespeople and baby magazines might tell you, there is very little that you NEED for a new baby. But many things will make your life easier, helping you find more time to keep doing your favorite pre-baby activities.

Before my baby was born, I spent countless hours reading Consumer Reports and Amazon reviews to pick out each piece of baby gear. Having test driven our stuff and seen how it compares to that of my other mommy friends, here’s my two cents on what you should have on hand when your little one arrives:


Sleeping

Getting your baby to sleep well (and thus getting a reasonable amount of sleep yourself) is THE key to maintaining your sanity. After realizing that I had a lot of misconceptions about sleep (e.g., keeping your baby up during the day should help her sleep better at night, right?), I read pretty much every sleep book out there, and I think everyone should read Sleeping Through the Night, Revised Edition: How Infants, Toddlers, and Their Parents Can Get a Good Night's Sleep before their baby arrives.

You should buy a crib and crib mattress that meet current safety regulations, since your baby will eventually (hopefully) do all her sleeping in a crib. You may end up also wanting a bassinet or co-sleeper, but unless you are really sure of what sleeping arrangement you will want, I wouldn't buy any of these before the baby is born.

Don't waste your money on one of the elaborate crib bedding sets; your pediatrician will probably discourage crib bumpers for safety reasons (young babies might suffocate on them and older babies might use them to climb out), and you shouldn't have blankets or anything fluffy in the crib. All you need is a crib sheet (or two) and a washable mattress pad. You may also want a mobile over the crib, but this depends on your taste (you should really listen to the music in person before you buy).

If you are going to visit grandma, take a vacation, or just spend a day somewhere other than your home, you will need a more portable sleep option. Consider a lightweight tent like the KidCo PeaPod (not on Amazon) rather than a bulkier, more expensive Pack 'N Play. This looks pretty nice if you want to splurge: BABYBJORN Travel Crib Light 2, Silver (Discontinued by Manufacturer).

If you have a large house, you may need a baby monitor, but we found this unnecessary in our apartment.


Diapering

Poop will soon become a bigger part of your conversation than you care to admit to your babyless friends. Although I was intrigued with "elimination communication" (being attuned to your baby's needs and placing her over a potty at appropriate times), I found it takes a lot of effort to be THAT attuned. And while I usually try to live an eco-friendly lifestyle, I was not willing to commit to cloth diapers (though I recommend having a stack on hand to use as burp cloths). For more information on the cloth vs. disposable debate, check out this excellent article:
http://www.slate.com/id/2187278/

If you are going with disposables, have some newborn-sized diapers (like Pampers Swaddlers Newborn 240 Diapers (12 packs of 20)) ready for baby's arrival. We initially went through about 10 per day, but you might not want too many in newborn size until you see when your baby will grow out of them. We ended up switching to Huggies from CostCo because they were cheaper, but we had more newborn poop leaking out the edges with them, so I'd recommend Pampers to start.

Our hospital recommended wet paper towels over commercial diaper wipes. We switched to diaper wipes a few days after our baby came home, and then switched back after she developed a nasty diaper rash. Paper towels are not that much less convenient (we just keep a bowl of water on the changing table to wet them), and much cheaper (buy the ones that rip into small pieces). You will also want some diaper rash cream on hand: Aquaphor Baby Healing Ointment, Advanced Therapy, 14 Ounce Jar (Pack of 2) is amazing. Don't buy baby powder or any other skin care products.

You may also want a changing table, though I am generally just as happy changing my baby on the floor where I don't have to worry about her rolling away while I go get something. We have the Rumble Tuff Flip Top changer (not available from Amazon), which attaches on top of the dresser and flips out so you can lay the baby perpendicular to you, which I find much easier than changing a baby sideways like on most changing tables.

I literally spent 5 hours reading online reviews while trying to decide which diaper pail to get; it is amazing how passionate people can be on this subject! My husband initially found the whole idea ridiculous ("It's just a trash can!"), but he is now a convert and loves our Playtex Diaper Genie Essentials Diaper Disposal Pail. I was sold on the fact that the diapers never touch the pail (so no washing) and it contains smells wonderfully, plus it looks nicer than the Diaper Champ. The only downside is the proprietary Diaper Genie II Refills (Pack of 3); have a few extra on hand.


Breastfeeding

If you are breastfeeding, you will want a few good nursing bras. Avoid underwire, which can contribute to clogged ducts. I have some expensive bras from Bravado, Mimi Maternity, and Glamourmom, but I am really just as happy with my cheaper ones from Target. Just buy one or two to start, since your size will change as you lose the baby weight and your milk comes in.

Until your nipples get used to it, breastfeeding probably will be somewhat painful, so have some Lansinoh HPA Lanolin for Breastfeeding Mothers, 40 Grams on hand. You will also go through a lot of breast pads, especially in the beginning before your milk supply becomes regular. I think Lansinoh 20265 Disposable Nursing Pads, 60-Count Boxes (Pack of 3) are the best disposables, and I also use Bravado Moisture-Wick Washable Nursing Breast Pads, with the disposables as backup.

You will find breastfeeding more comfortable (and multitasking easier) if you have a good breastfeeding pillow like the My Brest Friend Pillow, Sunburst (or a Boppy is also good). You may also want a comfortable glider or rocker for your nursery; I often felt like I was glued to mine for the first couple of months.

If you ever want to leave your baby for longer than the time between feedings, you will need bottles. If you are lucky, your baby will happily take the occasional bottle, but many babies need to start on bottles early (2-3 weeks) and have one every day or they forget how. (I had one poor friend who stopped giving bottles for a week, and her baby would never take one again, which ended her plans to return to work!)

You may find that your baby is picky about what bottle she will take, so don't buy too many ahead of time. You really only need one bottle if you are willing to hand wash it after each use; I store milk in Euro Cuisine GY1920 Glass Jars for Yogurt Maker, Set of 8, and I put extra in the freezer with Lansinoh Breast Milk Storage Bags, 50-Count. Don't bother getting a sterilizer; your pediatrician will probably tell you this is unnecessary.

You also will need a pump to fill your bottles (and to relieve the pressure in your breasts when your baby is not ready to eat); I love my Avent Isis Manual Breast Pump, though if you are going to be pumping more than a couple of times a day, you might want an electric pump.

You won't need a high chair until you start giving your baby solid foods, which is not recommended until she is 5-6 months old. Even then, it is not a necessity – some moms in my playgroup just feed their baby on their lap or the floor – but if you are looking for a really nice one to put on your registry, consider the Stokke Tripp Trapp Highchair - Natural, which you can use for babies with the Stokke Tripp Trapp Baby Set, Natural and then continue to use as your child grows.


Entertaining Your Baby

A music-playing swing, bouncer, or vibrating seat may help keep her happy while you make dinner/take a shower/check your email. Though I initially wanted a compact bouncer, our baby much preferred the Fisher Price Cradle 'n Swing - Rainforest we eventually bought; even though it takes up a lot of space, it was worth it.

Otherwise, don't bother buying toys for your newborn; she won't be interested in them until she is a few months old, at which point you will have accumulated some from the baby announcement gift booty. For the first few months, your baby will be plenty entertained by just looking at the new world around her, and a simple blanket will suffice for tummy time. But if you are looking for some things to add to a baby registry, when our baby got older she enjoyed her <product no longer available> and her Fisher-Price Rainforest Melodies and Lights Deluxe Gym.


Clothing, Bathing, and Personal Care

We barely bought our baby any clothes for her first year: between shower gifts, new baby gifts, and Christmas gifts, we were overwhelmed with more clothing than she could wear (there were actually some outfits that she outgrew before we ever put her in them). If you need to buy any clothes before your baby arrives, keep it simple, and remember that you and the baby may have different ideas of how she likes to be dressed: we had a bunch of flannel sleep sacks that we were planning to use for pajamas, only to find out that our baby hated them. You will probably also receive a number of blankets for swaddling and tummy time as shower gifts; if not, you may want to have a few on hand.

For baths, you may want a baby tub like the The First Year's Infant To Toddler Tub with Sling, Blue (or you can just use a sink). We received some baby washcloths and towels as gifts, but otherwise the adult versions would have worked just fine. You will also want some soap; our pediatrician suggested regular Dove bar soap, or you can get soap specifically made for babies.

For healthcare, Your Baby's First Year: Third Edition is a handy little guide to have on hand. There are lots of healthcare/grooming kits that package little items together, most of which you won't need (you will probably get a nasal aspirator at the hospital, medicines already come with their own measurement droppers, your baby won't have enough hair to brush for a while, your own tweezers will work fine for your baby, etc.). You should have a digital thermometer, but a simple drugstore model is sufficient; don't be tempted by fancy ear thermometers, which are not as accurate as a rectal temperature (it’s not that scary after the first time). You will also want some small emery boards and a baby-sized nail clipper; I found some cheap ones at my local drugstore.


Getting Out

I found the amount of time I was stuck at home one of the hardest parts of new motherhood. Once you have a baby, you will not be able to do as much as you used to (or even as much as you think you will be able to!), but you want to have the equipment to get the baby out of the house when you can.

A car seat is essential, if you have a car. Start with an infant seat, which you can load the baby in at home and then snap into a base in the car or into a stroller frame. When your baby is young, you will be able to move her around easily without disturbing a nap. This is also a convenient place to put the baby down when you are visiting friends or family. Most infant seats accommodate babies up to 22 lbs or about 29 inches long; we were pleased with our <product no longer available> , which is just as safe as other models but cost much less, so we didn't feel too bad when our daughter outgrew it in 6 months. The Sunshine Kids Mighty Tite Seat Belt Tightener is a great little gadget that makes installing a car seat MUCH faster if you don't have the LATCH system in your car. If you have two cars, get an extra Graco SnugRide Classic Connect Infant Car Seat Base, Silver. If you live someplace chilly, consider the JJ Cole Original Infant Bundleme, Khaki.

Don't be tempted to get a car seat that works up to 30 lbs, since by the time your baby gets close to 20 lbs, you won't want to carry her in the car seat anyway. At that point, you will want to upgrade to a convertible toddler seat, which you install rear-facing in your car until your baby turns one year old, and then switch to forward facing until she outgrows it. (We ended up getting the Radian 80, which we love for its slim design. It seems to have been replaced by the Diono RadianRXT Convertible Car Seat, Rugby, which also can fit 3 across in a backseat.)

A stroller is not as essential as you might think (a baby carrier is often more convenient), but most moms will want one. I really recommend trying these out in a store, even if you will eventually buy online, especially if you are on the tall side. Salespeople will try to talk you into "travel systems," or big strollers that you snap your infant car seat into when the baby is little and then use by themselves when she gets bigger, but these are heavy and unwieldy. Instead, we snapped our carseat into the lightweight Graco SnugRider Infant Car Seat Stroller Frame. When your little one sits up better, I recommend a lightweight stand-alone stroller; we loved our sturdy 11-lb Maclaren Triumph Stroller, Black/Scarlet.

One of the most essential pieces of baby gear is a comfortable baby carrier, which can soothe your baby when she is crying, help free up your hands for doing things around the house, and make outings easier in places where a stroller is inconvenient. My daughter and I both love my Moby Wrap Original 100% Cotton Baby Carrier, Black (available in many colors), which really isn't complicated once you try it a couple of times; I can wear this for hours without my back bothering me. My favorite piece of baby gear was our Beco Butterfly II Baby Carrier - Paige, which works like the Bjorn but is much more comfortable, and which you can use for front or back carries.

However you take your baby out, you will want some way to bring diapers and other essentials with you. My husband and I both like our Skip Hop Dash Deluxe Charcoal, but you can turn any bag into a diaper bag by throwing a changing pad inside, like The First Years Deluxe Fold and Go Diapering Kit, Black/Green.

Of course, what baby products will be best for you will depend on your personal taste and style, but I hope it is helpful to at least know what worked for someone else!

Products mentioned include:
Sleeping
1.  Sleeping Through the Night, Revised Edition: How Infants, Toddlers, and Their Parents Can Get a Good Night's Sleep  by Jodi A. Mindell
$10.71 Used & New from: $0.01
4.3 out of 5 stars   (151)
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2.  BABYBJORN Travel Crib Light 2, Silver (Discontinued by Manufacturer)  by BabyBjörn
$290.86 Used & New from: $253.05
4.6 out of 5 stars   (281)
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Diapering
3.  Pampers Swaddlers Newborn 240 Diapers (12 packs of 20)  by Pampers
$49.40 Used & New from: $38.65
4.5 out of 5 stars   (2,935)
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4.  Aquaphor Baby Healing Ointment, Advanced Therapy, 14 Ounce Jar (Pack of 2)  by Aquaphor
$34.34 Used & New from: $26.02
4.7 out of 5 stars   (535)
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5.  Playtex Diaper Genie Essentials Diaper Disposal Pail  by Diaper Genie
$21.99
3.5 out of 5 stars   (157)
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6.  Diaper Genie II Refills (Pack of 3)  by Diaper Genie
$17.99
3.9 out of 5 stars   (78)
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Breastfeeding
7.  Lansinoh HPA Lanolin for Breastfeeding Mothers, 40 Grams  by Lansinoh
$7.19 Used & New from: $4.43
4.6 out of 5 stars   (579)
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8.  Lansinoh 20265 Disposable Nursing Pads, 60-Count Boxes (Pack of 3)  by Lansinoh
$29.08 Used & New from: $22.49
4.6 out of 5 stars   (97)
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9.  Bravado Moisture-Wick Washable Nursing Breast Pads  by Bravado! Designs
$11.50 Used & New from: $11.39
3.5 out of 5 stars   (23)
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10.  My Brest Friend Pillow, Sunburst  by My Brest Friend
$34.99 Used & New from: $29.56
4.3 out of 5 stars   (393)
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11.  Euro Cuisine GY1920 Glass Jars for Yogurt Maker, Set of 8  by Euro Cuisine
$17.99 Used & New from: $15.74
4.4 out of 5 stars   (142)
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12.  Lansinoh Breast Milk Storage Bags, 50-Count  by Lansinoh
$10.94 Used & New from: $5.95
3.6 out of 5 stars   (302)
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13.  Avent Isis Manual Breast Pump  by Philips Avent
$61.00 Used & New from: $54.49
3.8 out of 5 stars   (649)
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14.  Stokke Tripp Trapp Highchair - Natural  by Stokke
$249.00
4.4 out of 5 stars   (314)
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15.  Stokke Tripp Trapp Baby Set, Natural  by Stokke
$69.00
3.8 out of 5 stars   (82)
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Entertaining Your Baby
16.  Fisher Price Cradle 'n Swing - Rainforest  by Fisher-Price
$127.49
4.0 out of 5 stars   (966)
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17.  Fisher-Price Rainforest Melodies and Lights Deluxe Gym  by Fisher-Price
$54.87 Used & New from: $47.74
4.6 out of 5 stars   (1,174)
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Clothing, Bathing, and Personal Care
18.  The First Year's Infant To Toddler Tub with Sling, Blue  by The First Years
$16.18
4.4 out of 5 stars   (1,384)
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19.  Your Baby's First Year: Third Edition  by American Academy Of Pediatrics
$6.00 Used & New from: $0.01
4.5 out of 5 stars   (86)
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Getting Out
20.  Sunshine Kids Mighty Tite Seat Belt Tightener  by Sunshine Kids
$14.45 Used & New from: $9.48
3.7 out of 5 stars   (274)
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21.  Graco SnugRide Classic Connect Infant Car Seat Base, Silver  by Graco
$34.00 Used & New from: $27.88
4.5 out of 5 stars   (311)
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22.  JJ Cole Original Infant Bundleme, Khaki  by JJ Cole
Out of stock
4.6 out of 5 stars   (81)
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23.  Diono RadianRXT Convertible Car Seat, Rugby  by Diono
$269.99 Used & New from: $240.00
4.5 out of 5 stars   (976)
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24.  Graco SnugRider Infant Car Seat Stroller Frame  by Graco
$119.89
4.6 out of 5 stars   (442)
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25.  Maclaren Triumph Stroller, Black/Scarlet  by Maclaren
Out of stock
4.6 out of 5 stars   (7)
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26.  Moby Wrap Original 100% Cotton Baby Carrier, Black  by Moby Wrap
$43.00 Used & New from: $41.99
4.1 out of 5 stars   (1,109)
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27.  Beco Butterfly II Baby Carrier - Paige  by Beco Baby Carrier
Out of stock
4.7 out of 5 stars   (44)
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28.  Skip Hop Dash Deluxe Charcoal  by Skip Hop
$46.86 Used & New from: $37.00
3.8 out of 5 stars   (190)
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29.  The First Years Deluxe Fold and Go Diapering Kit, Black/Green  by The First Years
$25.83
4.5 out of 5 stars   (145)
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