Going through a divorce can be a tragedy for many. It's often filled with shame, guilt, self-blame, victim mentality, retaliatory thoughts, hatred and jealousy. After 18 years as a divorce attorney, and 7 years as a coach and mediator, seeing people at their very worse, I have learned that DIVORCE IS A GIFT! It is a time to re-evaluate your life, who are you? Who do you want to be? What is most important to you? It's a time to really step up and show what you are made of. The goal with my Transcending Divorce book and classes is three-fold. 1. Get through the legal system in a win-win situation for your family. This means acting with integrity, and honesty and at the same time, learning how to create boundaries and if you have children, putting them first. 2. Getting to the place of neutrality. The best way I have found is working on the victim attitude. Do you spend a lot of time blaming your ex? Do you spend needless amounts of minutes/hours/days obsessing over who is right and who is wrong and what the other person is or should be doing? Seriously looking at your marriage and taking responsibility for your piece goes a long way. 3. Forgiveness. There is a lot to forgive in a divorce. You can spend your life angry, hurt, and obsessing. Who are you really hurting? Once you learn to take responsibility for your less than perfect behavior, you can forgive your ex and ultimately, forgive yourself. Then, what do you have? Peace and the ability to move on living a healthy life, as a single person or eventually, in a spiritual partnership. The recommended books will help you transcend your current situation and transform into the person you would like to be.