The language of love: A powerful way to maximize insight, intimacy, and understanding [Paperback]

Gary Smalley (Author)

Book Description

Publication Date: 1988

Family counselors and bestselling authors Smalley and Trent offer a key to a life-transforming communication method--one that has been used instinctively by great speakers throughout the ages--emotional word pictures. "The authors of The Blessing have once again broken new ground. . . ".--Bookstore Journal.

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Product Details

• Paperback: 191 pages
• Publisher: Distributed by Word Books; 1St Edition edition (1988)
• Language: English
• ISBN-10: 0849938953
• ISBN-13: 978-0849938955
• Product Dimensions: 9.2 x 6.4 x 1 inches
• Shipping Weight: 15.2 ounces
• Average Customer Review: 4.2 out of 5 stars  See all reviews (6 customer reviews)
• Amazon Best Sellers Rank: #1,334,797 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)

More About the Author

Gary Smalley is one of the country's best known authors and speakers on family relationships. He is the author and coauthor of 16 best-selling, award-winning books along with several popular films and videos. He has spent over 30 years learning, teaching, and counseling. Gary has personally interviewed hundreds of singles and couples and has surveyed thousands of people at his seminars, asking two questions: what is it that strengthens your relationships and what weakens them?

Gary's books combined have sold over 5 million copies. Many of them have even been translated into various languages. "The Blessing" and "The Two Sides of Love" have won the Gold Medallion Award for excellence in literature. "The Language of Love" won the Angel Award as the best contribution to family life. All other titles have been top-five finalists for the Gold Medallion Award.

In the last 30 years, Gary has spoken to over 2 million people in live conferences. He has been presenting his live two-day workshop, "Love Is a Decision," once a month for the last 20 years. Television audiences all over the world have viewed his award-winning infomercial, "Hidden Keys to Loving Relationships." Several versions of the infomercial--first with Dick Clark, then with John Tesh and Connie Sellecca, and also with Frank and Kathie Lee Gifford--have been aired. This 18-videotape series has sold over 4 million tapes.

Gary Smalley has appeared on national television programs such as "Oprah," "Larry King Live," "Extra," "The Today Show," and "Sally Jessy Raphael," as well as numerous national radio programs. Gary has been featured on hundreds of regional and local television and radio programs across the United States.

Gary and his wife, Norma, have been married for 40 years and live in Branson, Missouri. They have three children, Kari, Greg, and Michael, and six grandchildren.

Customer Reviews

Most Helpful Customer Reviews

23 of 24 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars This book's a must if you need help understanding your other, August 9, 1996

By A Customer

This review is from: Language of Love: Language of Love (Paperback)

This book is Smalley's Christian answer to those "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" books. It is witty, informative, touching, and best of all backed with sound Christian perspectives you can trust. If you and your mate, or you and the rest of the opposite gender have difficulty understanding the communication you're trying to accomplish, you'll love this book! Smalley will take you through his explanations of the way we communicate in a fun and inspiring way. Guaranteed to improve your communication if you use even ONE of the tips he gives

15 of 15 people found the following review helpful:

4.0 out of 5 stars Speak and Be Heard, January 19, 2001

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Diane (Renton, WA USA) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Language of Love: Language of Love (Paperback)

This book teaches how to turn a mere analogy into a heartfelt story - a story personalized for the listener. It contains many examples of how to tell others what you most want them to hear and understand. Most reader's will benefit from reading and putting into practice some of these "word pictures." I do think the book needs a companion text, something along the lines of "Listening with Love." In my professional experience working with couples, most people have much more difficulty LISTENING carefully. The book briefly touches on spiritual concepts that may be less relevant to the non-religious reader. Finally, I was a little uncomfortable with the examples of word pictures used with children to teach lessons. In one of the author's examples, he took his son golfing (a favorite activity) to deliver a "word picture" explaining his (the author's) concerns about his son's eating habits. I believe, that no matter how well intended or spoken, there is a risk that some children may experience the fun outing as a set-up. Pairing a fun activity with a corrective message might make your child a little nervous the next time you suggest a fun little trip. So I would urge caution. It's okay to set the stage for your listener, just don't set them up.

13 of 13 people found the following review helpful:

5.0 out of 5 stars Enrich your marriage life after some years, February 24, 2000

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[e-mail] (Wiesbaden, Germany) - See all my reviews

This review is from: Language of Love: Language of Love (Paperback)

To me it was an eye opener. Communication skills are so important and skills must be learned and practised. This book practically showed and helped me to communicate with the ones I love and the success was seen after the first go. My marriage life started to brighten up again after 10 years and my relationship with the kids are on the road again. This book is a must for married men!