I'm starting this discussion in response to another, 'I'm looking for couples who are happily married'. The premise of that forum appears to be that Mr & Mrs Smith at #42, who have been happily married for the last 50 years, have lessons to teach us all about marriage and unhappiness. I believe the premise to be self-evidently false. If it were not, reducing the divorce rate would be very easy.
It's long overdue that we become more realistic about marriage. The central thesis of my recently-published book 'THE MARRIAGE DELUSION - the fraud of the rings?' is that most adults in the developed world in the modern era are unsuited to marriage. People marry. For most people this leads to personal unhappiness, which leads to divorce. As night follows day. Whatever Mr & Mrs Smith at #42 might have to say on the matter.
I'm going to give away five copies of the book to Americans who would like to learn more about why so many marriages are unhappy, despite an army of relationship / marriage counsellors and countless books giving advice on relationships. Details of the book on http://www.amazon.com and www.themarriagedelusion.com. Just email me - firstname.lastname@example.org - by the end of Sunday 11 October with the reason(s) you should be one of the lucky ones. Thank you. Mike Buchanan, British twice-divorced-now-happily-unmarried author.