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11 of 12 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
Valuable Focus on Relationships, January 13, 2008
This book really shines in its descriptions of how the behaviors of adults with ADHD affect interactions and relationships with those around them. Dr. Weiss also offers helpful and practical solutions for dealing with the daily problems that arise in these relationships and interactions.
Many good books for adults with ADHD have appeared in the last few years, and like most of the others, this one provides scientifically accurate information about symptoms, causes, and treatments of ADHD. Its insightful information about relationships, its practical approaches to problem solving, and its encouraging tone make it stand out as one of the most valuable for adults with ADHD and for those who care about them.
In my Clinical Psychology practice, I find this book especially useful in helping adult clients with ADHD recognize exactly how their behaviors affect their spouses, friends, and co-workers. If these others can be persuaded to read the book, it also helps them see that many of the infuriating behaviors they have to deal with come from ADHD rather than from the client's personal failings or purposeful choices to be difficult.
- Dr. Lynn Daugherty, Bestselling Author of the Award Winning Classic
Why Me? Help for Victims of Child Sexual Abuse (Even if they are adults now), Fourth Edition
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20 of 24 people found the following review helpful:
5.0 out of 5 stars
A Very Helpful Book!, May 12, 2007
This book has been a great help to me. It puts forward a very enlightened view of ADD by referring to it as a "brain style." What does the author mean by that? Although this is not how Lynn Weiss puts it in her book, I think it sums up what she believes about the basic nature of ADD: Having ADD is like being born left handed in a world that does not understand or even recognize left handedness as a possibility.
So ADD, like hand dominance, is simply a way of being. Unfortunately ADD has much greater consequence in our lives than being left handed, and to make things more difficult, it is much harder to see. Since ADD is not readily apparent, understood, or acknowledged in our society, people with it suffer greatly without fully underatnding what is going on or realizing why they feel so bad/stupid/wrong/broken.
I have known I am ADD for about 3 years, but even after consulting several professional, I never got the useful sort of information and insights that I found in this book. Of great help has been the information on how ADD affects relationships and on how many of the pathologies associated with ADD develop not from ADD but rather from our frustrating interactions with a society/family that is functionally alien to us and indifferent/ignorant to our needs as well as our gifts.
At the moment, I am in the process of divorce with a wonderful spouse who has simply run out of energy to deal with me and my
ADD. I am pretty sure that if I had only found this book a yearor so earlier, the insights on ADD and relationships would have helped us recognize that ADD was at the root of our difficulties, seek appropriate help, make accommodations or changes in our lives and, and preserve our marriage. I plan to get the ADD workbook as well as the ADD and the workplace books that she has written.
In short, I think this book is a great explanation and introduction to ADD and should be read by everyone with ADD as well as their spouse and family. Armed with the information in this book you will know what to look for as you seek a professional to help you cope and thrive with ADD. This knowledge will prevent you from thinking, as I did, that you are getting good professional help when in fact, the professionals you are counting on may well not have a clue!
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9 of 11 people found the following review helpful:
2.0 out of 5 stars
Stuart Smalley on ADD, July 23, 2008
Based on the description and reviews I expected a science based education on the subject of Adult ADD from a medically trained expert. Instead, I found a book written by a self made expert with little medical background. The book is more a Stuart Smalley like collection of affirmations designed to make people with ADD feel good about themselves but doing little to overcome the difficulties created by ADD. The author's perspective on ADD is based on her "beliefs" about what ADD is and how best to treat it. I could find little scientific evidence cited to back up her assertions.
If you are looking for a book to tell you that there's nothing wrong with you and that all of your problems are due to the rest of the world trying to force their way of thinking on you then buy this book. But if you want to understand what ADD is according to scientist and medical doctors and if you want to learn how to live with this condition in the real world then look elsewhere.
I know that it is in vogue right now to think of scientists and doctors as evil shills of BIG BUSINESS and to believe that we can learn all we need to know about the world by just getting in tune with nature and trusting our feelings, but I'll take evidence over instinct every day.
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