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UNEMPLOYMENT FROM A PRIVILEGED PERSPECTIVE,
This review is from: Slow Love: How I Lost My Job, Put On My Pajamas & Found Happiness (Hardcover)
Not many people who lose their jobs are able to enjoy the comfortable unemployment that Browning does.( Several houses, freelance and consulting jobs, trips to the opera, , etc.) She does have a brief period of staying home in her pajamas ( see the subtitle) -but only Lanz and Brooks Brothers, anything else would be unfashionable.
Except for recently unemployed New York media executives, who can really relate to her position? While I understand that job loss is stressful for anyone, it is less stressful when one has no worries about how to feed and clothe and house herself. Browning has an epiphany about baking muffins ( striking a faux naif tone -after 15 years of being single how can she have never cooked or shopped for herself?) which leads to a 15 pound weight gain ( the fancy wardrobe doesn't fit anymore), for which she consults with a wonderful doctor ( whom she seemingly has no difficulty paying- I guess she's not worried about the cost of health care) And she decides to sell one of her two houses- not so hard when you have another. The one portion of the book in which Browning seems truly distressed is in discussing her muffin- related weight gain- for this woman being a size 10 seems to be worse than losing a job or ending a relationship.
But aside from being unable to relate to her privileged position, one reason I cannot see why I'd want to take advice from or lend much weight to this woman's insights is that though she insists several times that she is lost without work, she seems to give up very easily on the idea of finding another job, and her biggest concern seems to be how to pleasurably fill her time and structure her days.
A surprisingly large part of this book is not about recovering after a job loss, or learning to live a simpler life, but recounts Browning's lengthy relationship with a married man who demonstrates time and again that he will never commit to her, and she stays with him even after he tells her outright that he does not believe that love can last. Oh, and he goes to London to shop when she's recovering from cancer surgery. What a catch!
So...is this someone whose advice and insight I should give much credence to? I think not.
Not a badly written book, just one that is unfocused , unrelatable and uninspiring. It seems designed to appeal to the Eat Pray Love crowd, which for all its flaws is a superior book.
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Initial post: May 5, 2010 6:51:11 PM PDT
You seem to be one of those persons who think that anyone with money can't have problems.
Posted on May 13, 2010 1:46:56 PM PDT
Faith J. Lehman says:
This review lets me know I'm not interested in reading the book.
Posted on May 17, 2010 9:34:13 AM PDT
How does working hard, building a nest egg, and having a safety net to fall back on make one privileged? Your cynicism belies your inability to relate to this book.
Posted on May 18, 2010 10:20:17 PM PDT
Jeannie Park says:
Memoirs aren't self-help books. I wouldn't read this book to learn how to cope with unemployment; I'd read it to understand how it is possible to come into the intertidal years with grace.
Posted on May 19, 2010 3:22:50 PM PDT
John Wm Schiffeler says:
The reviewer states this is "not a badly written book, just one that is unfocused , unrelatable [sic] and uninspiring." I disagree in particular with the reviewer implying that one cannot appreciate/sympathize and understand/be inspired by its contents. The reviewer leaves me feeling there is more underlying his/her own inability than that of the author's.
Posted on Jun 9, 2010 6:54:13 AM PDT
Last edited by the author on Jun 9, 2010 7:00:27 AM PDT
D. Figueroa says:
I inferred from the description that this is indeed a memoir and not a self-help book.
As a person who went from making a very comfortable living to being a heartbeat away from a life in the streets, my situation isn't the same, but I think I can relate to her situation. I'm not looking for advice, I'm interested in her personal experiences.
Although I don't have the safety net the author has, I don't take exception to her financial status; she made it happen through hard work and sound decisions, it's not as if she's a spoiled heiress who had her Ferrari taken away by Daddy. Resenting the results of her efforts is just sour grapes.
I plan to read this book when I have the money to purchase it. I am interested in reading about another person's perspective on life when it's been suddenly turned upside-down.
In reply to an earlier post on Jul 13, 2010 2:12:02 PM PDT
R. E. Kelly says:
She might not have had her "Farrari taken away by Daddy", but I can almost guess with certainty she had lots of help--connections...familial and otherwise...gatekeepers whose help provided her with a way to the top. Naive Americans still believe it's a level playing field out there and maybe with a little gumption and luck! they can make it too...it's not true...the wealthy like to thank you to continue with that delusion. And enjoy the fruits of their oil, spilling into the gulf of Mexico.
Posted on Jul 17, 2010 1:46:45 PM PDT
L. K. Elmore says:
Oh - I TOTALLY agree with your review. She went on SO much about the man she calls 'Stroller' (she must say this word 100 times - I got so sick of seeing it) why didn't she just write the book about him? Of course wealthy people have problems (duh!) - but money or not, what she does with life after being set free from a stressful job is just plain uninspiring, whiney and dull. And the pajama thing was just irritating . . .
Posted on Aug 20, 2010 11:14:04 AM PDT
book lover says:
I can't believe there are people out there over the age of 25 who haven't come to terms with the fact that it's not a level playing field. It isn't! So what? My advice to the poor, envy-ridden, miserable reviewer is to suck it up and stop whining about other people's good fortune's. In other words, grow up.
Posted on Sep 27, 2010 8:52:19 AM PDT
i agree 100% with the reviewer. in fact, this is my own review that i just wrote:
my take of her is that she sure is pissy at her ex boss/employer [who isn't?], and she's REALLY pissy at her ex married lover...so she decided to write a book to get back at them. i only got thru maybe a third of the book and got tired of hearing her whine about her married lover who wouldn't leave his wife. oh, said married lover lived with his wife in nyc, but also had a "country" house that he visited on the weekends.
i never got to the part of her story where she found "happiness".