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Great, except for one part...,
This review is from: What to Do When You Worry Too Much: A Kid's Guide to Overcoming Anxiety (What to Do Guides for Kids) (Paperback)
Towards the end of Kindergarten, our happy easy going son began to fear he that I would forget him. I'd pick him up from school to find him in tears, and as summer came on, the anxiousness only got worse. Never being forgotten once, he suddenly had this unexplainable fear that I would. Reasoning with him didn't work, he'd get "stuck" on this fear.
I bought several books, and this one has been great for the most part. Here are the reasons why:
1. Large, easy to read font, my almost first grader can follow along with while I read.
2. Interactive learning. There are sketch pages with the sections and my son loves to draw.
3. The analogy of a growing a tomato plant was great. My son grew some plants in Kindergarten and the knowledge of the life cycle of a plant and how to take care of it was fresh in his mind, so learning that your worries grow similarly when you water them and are attentive to them was a good way of approaching it.
Now for the bone I must pick. The section in this book about "talking back to your worries" has a downfall. Other than this new separation anxiety he is having, he has only one other anxiety that he has had since he was a baby. Anything with a mean face frightens him. Every kid's movie with a bad character in it, he absolutely hates. He is sensitive to fighting, anger, pain- he doesn't like people (or cartoons even) to experience these at all. This section decides to give faces to the worries, mean ugly demonic/monster-like little creatures that sit on your shoulder. My son is literal. Extremely so. He was now sure that he had these little icky creatures pestering him and he became really anxious while we were reading it. I had to then do damage control, which was difficult. How to explain to a six year old that those creatures just REPRESENTED worries, and weren't actually what a worry looks like. How to explain to him that he wasn't really possessed or tormented by little devils, as the book made it look like. It was a hard moment that almost outweighed the benefits from the rest of the book. Fact of the matter is that worries are just thoughts. Don't give them monster faces to yell at, or your child will start appearing to be more schizophrenic than anything. Don't make them feel they are being tormented. If your child isn't sensitive to scary stuff (or is older and can understand it is an analogy, not fact), than this is probably a fine way to approach it.
I gave this 4 stars, because the book has been helpful otherwise. It's an easy to understand book and has some great points.
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Initial post: Mar 14, 2012 7:55:05 PM PDT
I totally agree. The mean, ugly characters in the book bothered me too. Otherwise I find the book extremely helpful.
In reply to an earlier post on Nov 18, 2013 4:23:47 PM PST
Thank you for this. I know for a fact it would do the same to my son. Sounds like our boys are a lot alike.
Posted on Jun 17, 2014 2:01:17 PM PDT
I am so glad I read your review. I almost bought this, and my daughter sounds a lot like your child. Thank you!
Posted on Jun 23, 2014 6:17:23 PM PDT
My son is exactly like this. Do you have any books that have helped (either you, him, or both) cope with fears/anxiety?
In reply to an earlier post on Nov 30, 2015 12:14:26 PM PST
MN Mom says:
My son is exactly like this too. Did you find any other books that helped your child?
Posted on Apr 15, 2016 6:27:53 PM PDT
Artist ang says:
My daughter is the same, but we used turnaround anxiety (audio book and workbook) and it had similar activities, just less frightening and tension causing. Still working on stuff, but it was very helpful and facing some things and being able to really extinguish some fears.
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