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Truly Helped Me As A Parent,
This review is from: The 5 Love Languages of Children (Paperback)
As a parent of two children and one on the way, I couldn't even imagine how unlike in personality they are. I have been on bed rest for 10 weeks this coming Monday and I have noticed huge changes in my children. Both were restless and both had moments of acting out. Moments that just were not like them. Since my husband and I are so concentrated on making sure that this baby stays in the womb as long as possible; we were not meeting my other children's love needs. I was at my wit's end to figure how to help my precious two other children when this book arrived. What a blessing and a change!
Immediately, I realized that I wasn't meeting each individual child's love need. My son's main love language is touch. This is so obvious in that he is always touching, always wrestling, and always in your personal space. After reading Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell's tips, I began to incorporate more touch into every moment that I was near my son. Whenever he is near, my hand can be found on his head, his back, or engaging in learning manners such as shaking hands. I have learned to use touch in all of his learning activities and his acting out has gone down considerably as well as his verbal skills have soared.
My daughter was a little harder to discover but I quickly discovered that her love languages are acts of service and time. She wants to be with you yet she wants to do something with you. Coloring with her, baking with her (when I come off of bed rest), doing crafts with her, and just reading to her are all reaching her needs.
As a mom, I found that The 5 Love Languages of Children was one of the best books I could have read. Even though my children are just preschoolers, they still require their love languages being spoken. Gary Champan and Ross Campbell use biblical principles, personal illustrations, and personal application to really open up your eyes to your child's needs. I highly recommend this book to any parent - new or old. It might just be the charge your family needs to go from average to exemplary. If every child had their love languages met just think of what a better place we would live in.