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Learn assertiveness skills with this excellent manual.,
This review is from: When I Say No, I Feel Guilty (Mass Market Paperback)
I am a psychologist working in a college counseling center, and this is the number one book on assertiveness that I recommend to my clients. Dr. Smith begins by describing "Your 10 Assertive Rights," a reminder that we all have a right do such human things as say "I don't know" and change our minds. He then introduces various assertiveness strategies one by one, starting with the very basic skill of persistence (AKA the "broken record" technique). For each strategy, Dr. Smith presents a short dialogue vignette to help you better understand how to apply that technique to real life. Once he has thoroughly taught all of the individual techniques, Dr. Smith puts them all together and addresses assertiveness in different types of situations--ie, with your family members versus with your boss. This is a great book for anyone who is tired of not being able to say "no" and ready to learn how to change their behavior.
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Initial post: Aug 4, 2011 10:00:27 AM PDT
a psychologist gave this book to me. I read it 2 times. I felt stronger.
In reply to an earlier post on Aug 4, 2011 10:17:36 AM PDT
That's good to hear! It's probably a bit outdated now, but I believe that if you follow the strategies, you WILL learn to be more assertive.
In reply to an earlier post on Oct 24, 2011 4:56:36 PM PDT
The examples he gives are a bit outdated, but the principles he suggests are timeless.
In reply to an earlier post on Oct 24, 2011 6:17:41 PM PDT
L.L., I agree completely--it would be wonderful if Smith put out an updated edition!
In reply to an earlier post on Oct 24, 2011 7:11:49 PM PDT
I agree with you on that -- and it would be great if his book YES, I CAN SAY NO could be put back into print. The Irvine school district took his principles and techniques and designed them to fit children. And guess what -- it helps kids our age, too. (Let's just say that I am considerably over 21!)
In reply to an earlier post on Oct 25, 2011 5:16:06 AM PDT
Me too, L.L. (regarding the age). ;)
In reply to an earlier post on Oct 25, 2011 6:47:59 AM PDT
I like to tell people that I'm 21 years old, but we won't say how many times (hint: it's more than twice)
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