I respectfully disagree with you. As a 38 year old African American woman, I realize that we have contributed to the destruction of the Black female/male relationship. This is not a situation that men created on their own. We must be responsible for our own actions and choices. I know that we as Black women don't want to be told that we are always angry and have negative attitudes, but often times it is true. We tend to have our defenses up all of the time, always ready to challenge any attack. The problem is, we are not always under attack. We also act based upon assumptions and not facts.
I have also noticed that a lot of Black women who are single mothers raising boys tend to treat their sons as pseudo-boyfriends. That is why we end up with Black men who revere their mothers, but no other Black women.
There are issues on both sides that must be addressed. It is immature to point the finger at men and blame them for all of our community's problems. Like Dr. Phil says, we can't address what we don't acknowledge. I acknowledge that I have some issues that have hindered past romantic relationships with men, and even friendships with women. I hope that at some point you are able to acknowledge the areas where you need to improve so that you can help others do the same.