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Informative, Easy to Read, and All Around Great!,
This review is from: Sex Made Easy: Your Awkward Questions Answered-For Better, Smarter, Amazing Sex (Paperback)This is a book that I cannot recommend highly enough, and I plan on buying multiple copies of it as "loaners" that I won't expect to receive back. It is just that good.
Full disclosure: I was already familiar with Dr. Debby Herbenick's work as I write for her blog (Mysexprofessor.com). She's been wonderful to work with so I suppose I am already predisposed to like her and her take on things. On the flip side, by engaging with lots of sex education/research, I've learned to be critical of this kind of writing, so if something seems wrong or improperly reasoned through, I'll spot it!
First, this book is very easy to read and accessible. Debby's tone is informal, and the book is very well-written, making it a pleasure to read. At the same time, she carefully (but unobtrusively) cites her sources and lets us know where her facts come from. Debby does a great job of dispelling misinformation and replacing "sex myths" with enlightened opinions and facts. Nothing Debby writes is ever judgmental, which is great because it helps the reader keep an open mind rather than feel defensive about being interested in a particular topic.
The book is well-organized, with chapters on women's and men's anatomy, orgasms, partner sex, sexual health, logistics, and things like fantasies and sex toys. Throughout the book, Debby emphasizes that sex is a normal and healthy part of human life. Even behaviors that may seem abnormal or perverted are often quite common, and can be explored safely and healthily with some simple guidelines (mostly involving communication and consent). Debby's use of personal anecdotes throughout the book--both her own and others from her research or friends that she has permission to ethically share--helps demonstrate the variety of sexual responses and experiences out there.
I learned a lot from reading this book, including a few surprising things. I hadn't been expecting such extensive information on sex during the various stages of pregnancy, or how pet ownership can affect sex. Since I've never been pregnant nor had pets as an adult, I hadn't imagined that these issues could be quite so complex, but they are, and I applaud Debby's dedication to bringing them to our attention. Other information, such as the detailed and up-to-date section on STIs (sexually transmissible infections), was quite sobering but good to know about.
I could go on with the interesting examples, but I'd just be rewriting the book in this review, which is unnecessary since a) it's already well-written in the first place, and b) you should get your own copy to read!