26 of 30 people found the following review helpful
very helpful book,
This review is from: Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, 20th Anniversary Edition (Paperback)
Very helpful book in understanding you own motives and feelings in a relationship.
The writing is flowing and interesting. Personally, I am not a fan of freudian approach that blames every unpleasant interaction in unmet needs in childhood, rather, I tend to read it as a metaphor that helps in describing feelings more accurately.
One piece of advice: if you started reading it, don't stop in the middle. After having read the first part, you would be in real need for the second and third parts in order to deal constructively with this new information.
Also, don't forget there are endless ways to understand and analyse your relationship and that this is just one perspective. No single theory can provide you with complete view.