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5.0 out of 5 stars Thank God, she wrote this book!!!!, April 14, 2008
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This review is from: The Journey from Abandonment to Healing: Turn the End of a Relationship into the Beginning of a New Life (Paperback)
Other readers have written very beautifully about this book. I will not attempt to duplicate their thoughts. Listen to me carefully. Susan Anderson's book is magnificent. She poured her heart and soul into every sentence in this beautifully written book about the journey from abandonment to healing. You need to know that regardless of how bad things are, and what you are suffering from, there is a universal journey that we must all go through.

Life is hills and valley, mountains and the abyss. We cannot hope to live an extraordinary life, a life truly worth living unless we are willing to have our hearts broken. Nobody gets to SAIL through life except for those who live in a fantasy world. In living an extraordinary life we must take personal risks in our relationships, and those risks sometimes turn into mistakes. The mistakes are heart wrenching because of the abandonment, and that is where this book unlike anything I will ever hope to read, can truly change the course of our lives.

How is it possible that a book, any book can truly reshape our thinking, and have long term positive effects on the course of our lives. Surely, this is too much to ask of any written document, but that is precisely the promise that this book delivers on. Every now and then, I pick it up, and just re-read certain sections to renew my understanding of the cycles of life.

No matter how deep the pain may be that you are going through, this book is better than sitting down with a therapist session after session, pouring your heart out to someone that may not even be hearing you. Susan Anderson truly understands what each of us is going through. She is successful in conveying to us that whatever it is we are suffering from, whatever it is that causes us to believe that we are being abandoned, it is TEMPORARY, and life will get better. We will heal, and be renewed, and if we use the pain we are going through correctly, we will grow out of the abandonment and be much, much better human beings for having gone through the experience. How could anyone benefit so much from a book, but yet it's all true.

If you are going through a divorce, or a separation, you must read this book, because you need help and you need it NOW. Listen to just a few of the things Anderson says about the first stage of abandonment which is "Shattering".

It is a "Tear in the dense tissues of human attachment. It is a feeling of devastation, unbearable pain. It is a powerful neurobiological process. It is the birth trauma revisited. It is rebirth. It is the breaking up of the storm clouds, the clearing of new sky. Shattering is a bottom - a transforming bottom - the same bottom from which people over the ages have found redemption."

Is it possible that anyone, even the poets through the ages, could write so beautifully of an experience that goes right to the heart of the matter? The book is optimistic. Your life will get better. You will get better, and you will live a better life once you come out of the temporary hell that we all have to go through every now and then, and hopefully, just hopefully, we never have to go through this experience again. I wish you luck on your JOURNEY, and let this book be your guide.


Richard C. Stoyeck
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Initial post: Jan 25, 2012 12:13:59 PM PST
ManyMinoux says:
What a wonderful and inspiring review. I couldn't agree more, Susan's is a life-altering book.

In reply to an earlier post on Jan 25, 2012 2:06:46 PM PST
I am glad that you were probably able to benefit from this book. Very few books have the power to have you identify so much with the contents of the book. This author's writing completely parallelled what I personally experienced at a most difficult stage of my life, and I am thankful for having found it, and wish that others who go through divorce can somehow be guided to this source of peace.

In reply to an earlier post on Jan 26, 2012 11:56:26 AM PST
ManyMinoux says:
Indeed, I am actually in what is hopefully the "middle" (or more) of trying to get over a very recent abandonment event and believe this book is what's keeping me more or less on this side of the sanity line. Can't recommend it highly enough.
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